Do we need to change clinic? Advice needed!

You should try to ask in Listers thread for advice.
Is your final decision to go for altruistic donation here? We decided to fly to Spain for it, they got higher success rates
and donors are younger. I don't dare to compare it with high end clinics like Lister. Our first cycle was at NHS, in terms of
tech they were th best.
Wish you luck.

I want to say follow the way you like and feel comfortable. It’s the most important aspect in any act and case. I was
treated in the UK fertility center and I had two unsuccessful IVF attempts. It made me very sad therefore I decided to
change the clinic. I stop my choice at the Care Sheffield medical center. I also used donor eggs and it was a success!
Now I have a son and a daughter. Both attempts I made in that clinic and they helped me to become a mother. They are
the best ones!      
I know there are such option, in some UK fertility IVF clinics, which allow you to have an exclusive donor of eggs. I guess
if you are interested in it you can get to know somehow about such opportunity. Of course, it can cost a lot… I don’t know
about the prices. And also, I want to notice that clinics in the UK and abroad can have different success rates as they
register the success in different periods. It must be also taken into account.     
In any case, I know for sure one thing! You must find the medical center which you can trust and be calm and sure
everything will be in the best way. Every ART procedure is very stressful. Therefore, you must avoid at least stress
concerning clinic.
I wish a good luck to everyone here!

Thanks for your answers and replies! I guess that in the nearest days I’ll talk to my coordinator in the UK clinic. I’ll see
what she’ll say to me towards my situation. I have already written that I like this clinic and I’d like to stay with them. But at
the other hand I don’t like the result. So, now I think about possible variants. I guess after my talk with the clinic’s worker
I’ll be able to make my decision.

Hi! Oh, I have a good doctor there. Dr Vivan Rittenberg. He seems to be rather skilled. I don’t know what to say about him. He is pleasant like
a person. But I don’t know whether he has big experience of successful ART programs.

I myself used 2 fertility clinics. Was lucky enough to succeed with treatments - I’m heavily prego now. I did hear some negative reviews from people, seems not everyone’s experiencing the best. We all know that positive results depend on many aspects. Some choose switching the clinics if things aren’t going right. Still I thought you could talk to @Alturi about the clinic you’re considering.
We all experience the treatment processes differently. Want we or no, there are too many factors influencing the positive outcome. My path was quite smooth and successful afterwards. Feel free to ask whenever you have questions. Sending you my warm virtual hugs.

Hi there,
I’ve been through 4 OE ivf cycles with your clinic over the last 4 yrs. I was quite satisfied with them. Though at my final stages it seems like their services were getting a bit worse - primarily in terms of apps. Just like in your case, my consultant was amazing. I made the decision to move to DD after the last shot. OE seem to be able to reach the blasto stage. Unfortunately then they give up after being transferred. I was unlucky to face severe OHSS whilst my last shot. I’m really scared I could face it again..
For sure I’d never get down to egg sharing path. The clinic we’ve been considering for a while has too long waiting lists. That’s why we decided to turn to another clinic. Moreover we cannot use the donor from the previous clinic in our new one. I’m not told about the actual reasons why. I tried to talk to the manager but she spoke unwillingly and gave me her ‘break up’ side..I’d procrastinated for 2 mons, ‘cause I didn’t want to leave them. I couldn’t stand the idea of egg sharing, also my impatience.. Finally, I attended some of their freebie counselling sessions. The sweet counsellor my reluctance to leave them was obvious. mainly ‘cause I felt safe with them. But she didn’t support my view on egg sharing. That’s why she advised me to try to find another reputable clinic where I could feel comfortable. I believe this is what’s appropriate for you too. Once you find the right place to be in, you’ll do more research on its stats. I’d absolutely agree with the above poster on this point.
I also made the research on other clinics which are willingly using other clinics’ donors. I happened to have a nice talk with a woman, she’s had experience. This way my research narrowed down to 2 clinics. I was ready to book the initial consultations with them the following week. But made yet one call to both clinics to find out whether their donors are altruistic. Was told they weren’t. A lady told me they’ve just started to cooperate with **, that’s why she thought it was worth contacting them too. I saw your post and thought we could be on the same stage of research. I believe keeping to my clinic is of a great importance for me. Wishing you all the very best whatever your final choice is.

I’m glad to hear this. I’ve stayed at the same place too. Moreover my donor is having initial app the next week! I managed somehow to go from despair to joy, this is unbelievable. Hoping my donor works out perfect. I have to say they’re ‘game changers’. I mean patients are able to review donors’ profiles and choose on their own. Earlier agencies only did those matches.

I won’t be the only one saying there ARE lots of reasons why people aren't’ willing to share their eggs. #1 Some clinics guarantee you 4 eggs only #2 you get concerned about the quality of eggs you get. Some sharers paid out of the pockets for previous failed shots, hence they have to share. Moreover sharers’ age might be older than compared to altruistic donors’. #3 ethics - we may be taking eggs from a woman who actually doesn’t want to do this. This way that woman might reduce her chances of success just to be able to invest into another ivf shot. #1 & #3 for me were obvious. I also thought once if I were lucky enough to conceive with shared eggs and then with OE, I would ‘separate’ my kids in future. The good thing about this though is that you can help another woman who isn’t able to finance yet another go. Needless to say, there’s always a long list for egg sharers at some clinics that you just won’t manage to help.
This is highly and individual decision I should say. Here you’ll find loads of comments on the point, for and against ones. Take time needed. Wishing you the best x

So much thankful to you for your kind answer, I appreciate. I’ve never thought about all those things. My only opinion was if sb agrees to share eggs then she has no other way out. Your post made me change my mind. I definitely couldn’t take eggs from a woman who was caught with circumstances like a deer in headlights, and had to give her precious eggs aways to be able to afford further treatments..Could I tell my clinic I do not want to use any shared eggs?..

It’s just awesome!! There are many of us dealing with the same place and people. Questions seem also to be the same!
Helen, we’re using a donor too. Seems we’ve been to the same stage. We also considered other clinics, but ended up having reservations about them. Our consultant then advised us looking onto new options..I’m glad we did.
We were matched with the donor today! - so are stepping alongside. The staff is understanding, I love them all smiling. Donor’s appearance was not the biggest concern though, we were expecting the profile we could relate to. I’m ready to say this ‘perfect match’ made us more confident about the whole process.
Dee,
egg sharing is such a personal decision! Knowing pros and cons, some of us have ethical concerns, but wouldn’t it be great to be able once to tell your LO that sb was such a nice person & wanted to help that she offered her own egg..This sb experienced infertility too, so this was a mutual decision of helping each other to become parents one day..
We didn’t go for sharing ourselves. We wanted to keep ALL the eggs lets say to boost chances - I know this might sound silly, but we know people who’ve done the same. Try to put your mind at rest - you’re in good hands!

Let's keep each other updated!