Grrr. MIL...
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Topic: Grrr. MIL...
Posted By: Brenna
Subject: Grrr. MIL...
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 5:55pm
I'm so p*ssed off! I've had problems with my MIL in the past regarding how she looks after Brenna (she has her once a fortnight for one day when I work)
Anyway... I worked until 12.30 today and came home and Brenna had not had a bottle at all! She said she 'forgot' when she was supposed to have one so just didn't do it
My poor girl!!! She cried when she saw me when I got home 
I hate leaving her with my MIL as she has no respect for how I want Brenna to be looked after. I don't mind things being done differently, but not at all is just wrong! Sorry, but just needed to vent. DH doesn't like me talking to him about it so I get all bottled up with anger -------------  My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 5:58pm
what yor husband donst want to know that his daugter wasnt feed omgoodness i would of lost the plot how could you not feed a baby let alone forget if i was you i would be finding a new carer for bubs arrgghhh that would make me sooo angrey ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 6:08pm
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Can you find someone else to look after her, maybe Banados? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 6:32pm
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poor little girl, how could a caregiver 'forget' to give a baby a bottle? I would also start looking for another caregiver, even if you have to pay a bit at least she will be getting cared for. ------------- |
Posted By: Brenna
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 8:09pm
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I would much rather her go to home based child care or a daycare than have my MIL look after her, but DH wont have any of it. He'd rather me give up work than put her into a 'strangers' care...
I am now going to write everything down for her (time of bottles and lunch etc) each time she has Brenna. She'll probably get really offended, but at least I'll have peace of mind that she's getting her milk/food. She loves Brenna, but just sometimes has NO IDEA and it drives me nuts that I can't say anything to her about it. I'm feeling much better now. Had a couple of hours to calm down and it was good to vent on here  ------------- My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 8:10pm
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I used to write lists for my mum too.. just because she hadn't looked after a baby in a while. It gets easier as they get older ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Brenna
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 8:18pm
Thank you for telling me this!  ------------- My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
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meow wrote:Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 8:27pm
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Sorry to hear things havn't improved with your MIL Anna I think the list is a good idea I hope she follows it. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 8:32pm
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i wrote up a basic timeline of xanthes routine for my parents and for the inlaws, so they could see what she should roughly be doing at any time. it helped them alot.
i wouldnt care if she gets offended - not giving a bottle is just wrong. and what a pathetic excuse! tell her next time it is better to give too many bottles than not enough. ------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe - my big 4 year old
and Jordis - 1 year old 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 8:33pm
Or meet someone from here IRL ... then they won't be a 'stranger'  ------------- |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 8:45pm
Well esp as the child starts to talk, but even more so when they are 3, and can say if they are hot/cold/thirsty/hungry.. and even better when they take themselves off to the toilet and can wash their hands and flush the toilet!  ('scuse my proud mummy moment hehe)------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Brenna
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 8:57pm
lol! good idea Kelly... want a job? ------------- My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 9:02pm
hehe Kat but then they say things like "but that's not the right way cause mummy does *this*....."  ------------- |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 31 August 2007 at 9:32pm
I have to write instructions for ben 
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 02 September 2007 at 10:09am
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LOL, Rach! Lists ROCK, Anna - I'm a big fan of them. My MIL has looked after Ella on a few occasions in the evening, and I gave her a list each time - she's a very competent carer, but is completely new to food allergy issues and bottle feeding, and she seemed to appreciate the 'instructions' (or if she didn't, she was pretty polite about them!). I agree with you - even if your MIL does get a bit offended, you need the peace of mind and she needs the instructions. ------------- Andie |
Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 02 September 2007 at 8:38pm
I can look after Brenna anytime you want!! She is an absolute darling and such a good girl! Plus I would definately give her her bottle But seriously, I wouldn't mind at all, Ashleigh loves playing with her!------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 21 September 2007 at 1:22pm
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BUMP!! for you buzimumto3boys
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