Trying to be brave
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Topic: Trying to be brave
Posted By: Mikaela
Subject: Trying to be brave
Date Posted: 01 September 2007 at 6:51pm
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I'm trying to figure out if I'm brave enough to be a single parent without family support for eight weeks.
I'm an Aussie living in Auckland. DH has to go to Melbourne for work from early October to late November, which leaves me really wanting to pack Alex up and take him home to my parents' place in Adelaide, as I don't have any family here in Auckland (and the in-laws live up north). BUT if I do that it'll cost me $3k when you take airfares and putting our dogs in kennels into account  We don't have a lot of money to be splashing it around like that, it could be MUCH better spent elsewhere, but if I really wanted to I could afford it.
What do you guys reckon? Is it really that hard being a single parent to one baby? Am I just being a great big wimp? Or would I be better off staying where DH can visit on weekends and I have my parents to support me? ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com"> 
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 01 September 2007 at 6:54pm
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I would go to your parents where you will have support and someone to look after Alexander, your mum & dad will be there to help you, and your DH can visit you. Could your parents help you out with the airfares?
Good luck with your choice!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 01 September 2007 at 6:58pm
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I'd wanna take the opportunity to get over there, who knows when you'll next be able to do it and think of it as your DH's work is paying half the airfares! But you're right that $3k is a lot of money. It would be ok to look after a little baby for that long but I'd get pretty lonely without my DH for that long. Will you be able to txt/contact much with him? How long have you been together?
ETA: Would you save any money if you left 2 weeks after him and came back a week early, or something like that? -------------  |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 01 September 2007 at 7:10pm
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Go overseas. You will have family to help out and you will have people to talk to, that was the hardest thing for me.. DP was away for 2.5 weeks and that was hard.. I got sick as soon as he left so we couldn't visit anyone! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 01 September 2007 at 7:32pm
| I'm gonna say the opposite and I'd stay at home mostly. I'd feel mega guilt for putting my dog in the kennels for that long (and my dog annoys the crap outta me lol) and I'd see if any of the parents (in laws and own parents) could come to me for parts of that time and then go over for just a smaller part of the time. |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 01 September 2007 at 7:37pm
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I was just thinking perhaps you could break the 8 weeks with a 2 week holiday at your parents? It wouldn't cost so much then.
In answer i have been a singlemum with a little baby and then with 2 kids and nope not easy but very do able. I think its not the kids and stuf its being with out your hubby and being lonely that would be worse. ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 01 September 2007 at 7:40pm
| I have to agree with Stacey - I would say stay at home, although I've never been a mother, let alone a single one, but I think that 6-8 weeks isn't too long (it gives you something to look forward to when he gets home) and 3k is a lot to blow just because your DH is away for that time. Although maybe I'm just biased because for me it's usually 6 months at a time. What does your DH reckon? |
Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 01 September 2007 at 7:50pm
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If I had the money then I would go for a visit like Ann said. See if you can get someone to take your dogs for a week or see if you can get 2 different sets of friends (or even DH's work colleagues) to take the dogs for a week each. I'm sure there is a cut cost way you could find a way to go and stay with your parents. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |