Should I be upset?
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Topic: Should I be upset?
Posted By: MummyFreckle
Subject: Should I be upset?
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 5:37pm
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Today was the 10th anniversary of DH and I getting together....its not our wedding anniversary, but its the day that we actually got together. I know that DH knows (its easy to remember as it was the date of my 21st b'day party which was 2 days after my actual b'day - and I KNOW he KNOWS!! I gave him a nice card this morning, but he hasnt even said anything about it today. I didnt expect a big celebration or anything like that, but I dunno maybe an acknowledgement might have been nice. Would you be upset - or am I just over-reacting (due to hormones AGAIN!!)
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Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:19pm
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Um...
"...the date of my 21st b'day party which was 2 days after my actual b'day..." I'd quietly suggest you wait for two more days.... ------------- Defending the male species since 1980 
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Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:41pm
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Orrrrrrrrrrrr....
You could just say, "Honey, know what day it is today?" kiss him on the cheek and walk away. Don't say anything else and start to watch the panic run through his head.  ------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:44pm
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Did he do something for your birthday? I presume you don't have a wedding anniversary... um... I suspect it's one of those female vs male things where the girls are like, wow it's our getting together anniversary, so cool, etc etc, but the guys are like, yea well I loved you then, I still love you now, there's still a lot of life together left... they don't seem to have as much emphasis on dates.
Practical example (for fun). I asked my DH what date he first talked to my parents about me (I was only 16). It was about the 21st of April in 1999 but he hasn't a clue. Engagement date: He thinks it was 14 Feb 1998. I think 14 Feb is sticking in his mind for "some important reason" but he can't work out what it is. Haha. The correct answer is 2 July 2002 LOL Engagement party date: 20 July 2002, he hasn't the foggiest. Wedding anniversary: 23, no 22 Feb 2002 hehe the 2's and 3's sometimes mix me up too. We were going to get married on the 23rd for a while and then we finally read the calendar right and figured it was a Sunday! So we changed to 22nd, but it was in 2003 (but 22/02/02 is easier to remember!) My birthday: he got that right
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:46pm
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Oh yea DH forgot our first wedding anniversary and when I gave him something he completely freaked out ROFL. It may be that your DP is flipping cause of the card - either trying to work out if he 'should' get something (tomorrow when he's at work) or it's not a biggie to him.
Oh man now my DH (chovy) is reading my previous post "But we were engaged for 4 years" No, I was 19 at engagement and 20 and wedding. "14th of Feb is Briona's birthday isn't it?" Nope. 27 July ROFL. This man hasn't a clue! I hope he remembers when Christmas is    ------------- |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:49pm
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Now he's guessing that Kryssi was born on 14 Feb (errrrr 14 Jan) and that's by process of elimination cause "Hannah's is on the 23rd of January... I think" (says him). Man this is getting far, far, worse. He's on the 23 Dec and Hannah's on the 27 Dec, I thought that was easy to remember!!! What a laugh!! ------------- |
Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:50pm
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At least I know i have 1 wife and 3 kids... ------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:52pm
Are you sure? I mean reaaaaally sure? These things can kinda sneak up on you
I have nothing useful to add. I doubt Willie even remembers what YEAR we got together let alone the actual date. I nearly fell over backwards when he remembered Mothers Day. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Chovynz wrote:Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:55pm
I am reeeaaaaaalllly sure. I'd know if i went and..erm...did someone else. And I'm fairly certian nobodys used any of my ... donations. Good on yah Willie! ------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:59pm
I was thinking more of stated wife perhaps growing a wee bean sometime soonish... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:01pm
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He may just be too consumed with the impending birth. It affects men a lot more than we give them credit for. My husband made himself so sick he ended up on meds for a stomach condition. He didn't think it was stress over having a baby but 3 months on when things have settled down he is suddenly feeling ok again.
You should have seen him the day of the c/s, anyone would have thought he was getting surgery!!!! http://www.trademe.co.nz/Members/Listings.aspx?member=1738084 - Handmade Jewellery ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:01pm
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:01pm
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LOL Emma I'd like to soon, but I know for certain that it's not yet - us women have ways of knowing such things ------------- |
Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:02pm
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I hate to say it but I would be disappointed if DH forgot an important date like that, but not saying anything after giving him a card, that would really annoy me.
DH forgot valentines day which I love to celebrate so I bought him a massive gift basket with all the things he loves and I gave it to him before work, he look confused so I had to tell him what day it was. Anyway he didn't come home at lunch time but that night he proposed with a ring and everything(he bought it in his lunch break) he well and truely made up for forgetting!!
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Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:07pm
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Knowing what my DH's memory is like (i.e. shocking) I wouldn't expect him to remember what date we got together (& to be honest I'm not sure I can remember either). But it has obviously bothered you so I would say something to your partner. You'll feel better getting it out in the open. He must know what day it is, since you gave him a card this morning.
Maybe he's cooked you a romantic dinner by now? -------------    
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Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:09pm
OT: Gratz! ------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:12pm
Yep I agree with Sally  ------------- |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:20pm
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A bit OT but I actualy regret not remembering the date we first got together.
And I also can't even remeber what we did this year for our first wedding anniversary - we were so wrapped with the 2 month old in the house!  Hmm I,m sure we did do something 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:36pm
Bugger! Oh well, wishful thinking on my part, seeing as the boss says no more for me I have to live vicariously thru others. Must admit that vicarious morning sickness isn't as bad as the real kind either ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:40pm
haha, im gonna do that for absolutely nooooo reason , on a day that means nothing to us, just for fun |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:46pm
That's hilarious, I might do that too!!! http://www.trademe.co.nz/Members/Listings.aspx?member=1738084 - Handmade Jewellery -------------
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:51pm
| haha, we should...and then we can have a laugh at their expense...and when they finally say " hunny....what exactly was today " we can look at them tenderly and say (eg) "honey....its THURSDAY" |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:42pm
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ROFL!!! ------------- |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:45pm
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Sorry to be thick all the time but what does ROFL stand for? I did check the TTC101 but its not on there.
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:47pm
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It's Roll On Floor Laughing - kinda the next step from LOL ------------- |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:50pm
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i can remember the date DH and i met, it was the day after anzac day....but i'm sure he doesn't have a clue. last year i mentioned it was our anniversary to him and his reply....'no it's not, we married now so you only get 1 anniversary a year now' ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:52pm
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I remind DF every year when its our anniversary. I'm not relying on him to remember for himself. I organise both our lives didn't you know. He feels really guilty if I give him a card or something and he's forgotten.
I would like to think he will remember our wedding day, once it's arrived. The big party, all our friends and family might make it easier, also happens to be the same day as friends of mine so no excuses. Give him a gentle reminder, Men don't get anniversaries. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:53pm
Yeah mine did that too, and apparently valentines day isn't for married people 
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:55pm
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I would not be too upset if he didnt remember when we got together....BUT
BSDH heres how it went - just in case u forgot... first email - 20th jan first stalker date (he stalked me two days pre our first date!) 27 Feb first date 29th feb - not to be repeated til next leap year!!!! clever boy on that one!!! humph! engagement - day we bought the boat (sept 2?th) engagement announcement - 14th feb wedding - 05-11-05 Ella born - 07-03-07 Divorce date....TBA (just to keep u on your toes!)
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 10:08pm
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Oh my gosh BS, I hope you don't expect a pressie on ALL of those days
Cuppatea we don't really do Valentine's Day cause our anniversary is just a week after. It means cheap flowers/chocs/etc but I don't think DH has realised yet? ------------- |
Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 10:13pm
my 's added.------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 10:14pm
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Hey Bombshell, why so long between engagement and the announcement??? ------------- |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 10:18pm
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LOL no we only celebrate weddi anniversary- aka guy fawkes - so there will always be fireworks!!! and of course Ellas birthday and Valentines - if he is in mood
Dates for engagement as we kept it secret for a while so we could get the perfect ring done....when it was ready we announced engagement and happened to fall around valentines so we put it in herald! |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 12 September 2007 at 10:50pm
yep thats what my Dh said (and i agree) our anniversary is the 19th of feb so we skip valentines with a Kiss and a Happy Valentines ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 13 September 2007 at 9:50am
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I think that is DH's approach too! I got over it by the time he got home from work - he didnt say anything at all about it, but I figured its just not important in the scheme of things....and at the moment I seem to get upset at the slightest little thing, so prob just me making a fuss for no reason! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 13 September 2007 at 10:02am
Yeah Right!! What kind of excuse is that? My last name is Valentine so there is no chance of DF getting away with not doing anything. Although I constantly remind him of the Valentine's Day he took me to see Black Hawk Down . Instead of Serendipity. Not very romantic.------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 13 September 2007 at 10:50am
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If I exect recognition of any particular date or event from anyone then I make sure I let them know beforehand. That way I am not disappointed in any way and it doesn't feel like a game for whoever I am watiing to be let down by. I much prefer not being let down at all - and if you do let them know and they still let you down then you are well within rights to give them a big kick. -------------  
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Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 13 September 2007 at 11:05am
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Haha it is usually my DP that remembers all our anniversaries while I walk around with my head in the clouds oblivious. But he did forget my birthday last year, and I didn't say anything to him all day as I wanted to see how long it took for him to remember. He remembered once said something to him about it being my birthday. I then got my birthday present with my christmas present. Wasn't too upset about it, but thats just me, I prefer to celebrate everyday and not just the days that everyone deems important. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 13 September 2007 at 6:32pm
Awwww. Black hawk down.... now that was an emotional movie. All those bullets getting wasted. Sad. ------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 13 September 2007 at 6:53pm
Yeah DH took me to see Tomb Raider and more recently Jar Head. I made him watch Broke Back Mountain as revenge.
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Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 13 September 2007 at 6:58pm
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*puts on Tim Allen's voice* ooooooogggghhhhh noooooooo. not BBM. ------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 13 September 2007 at 7:13pm
I loved Black Hawk Down. Not all that romantic though I would have to agree but... what a fantastic movie ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 13 September 2007 at 8:37pm
| My DP doesn't even remember special days with me hinting all week. I even got him something on valentines day and he gave me a flower only because it got stuck to his shoe when he walked inside. |