no baby shower?
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Topic: no baby shower?
Posted By: NovemberMum
Subject: no baby shower?
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 3:36pm
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I am 31 weeks and have not had a baby shower and I don't feel right organizing one myself.
noone has offered to have one for me so I guess I wont be..any other first time mums not have a baby shower? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 3:44pm
That's a shame. 
For all my friends that have had babies I've always brought something either for them or the baby. 
Haven't been to many baby showers though. I always thought it was something the grannies to be organised.  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 3:50pm
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both grandparents live about 2 hours away so dont really expect them to organise one. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 3:59pm
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I won't be having one. The main reason is that I've no close family / friends living near me to have one with.
Saying that, I don't think I'd be having one even if they were here. That won't stop them from sending me presents though I'm sure 
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Posted By: Freesia
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 4:01pm
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I'm a first time mum and I don't think I will have one. Both our families live 4 hours away and the friends I have here I am not close enough to for them to come to one. I'm not too fussed really. We have been given loads of stuff by family already so we can't moan about that. -------------  
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 5:00pm
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I had one even though most of my friends and family live out of town. They all showed up though and it was great. My mum and I did it as a joint effort and had lots of fun organising it together. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 5:11pm
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i never had a baby shower - and a lot of people i know didnt, some did tho. i also thought it was just a way of getting stuff from people who may not have given you anything otherwise. i found i got gifts from friends after bubs was born and a lovely goodie basket from work too before i left, which was a real surprise. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 6:24pm
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Okay I must be weird as I organised my own baby shower.. Asked people to bring a plate etc. It was fun and I think everyone who came enjoyed themselves. I was 8 months pregnant when I had mine.
I don't think anyone will mind if you organise it yourself  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 6:25pm
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Oh yeah, main reason no one organised mine is because I was the first of all my friends to have a baby - so no one knew about them, I guess. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Orca
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 7:12pm
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I am a first time mum and I won't be having one. I am sure once the baby arrives then family and friends will send a gift for the baby.
If you want one I don't think there is any harm in organising one yourself. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 7:24pm
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I didn't have one and don't know anyone who has, thought it was just an American thing. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 7:34pm
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I had one for my second but not my first (12 year gap though). I organised it myself and had it when I was about 8 months pregnant. It was a fun afternoon and a good way to catch up with everyone before the baby was born as I'd had a lot of family committments in the months before the birth so hadn't seen much of my friends. I put on food (kept it simple) and we had some games. I got some nice presents although that wasn't the purpose of the baby shower. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 7:53pm
| I don't know many people that have had one, but apparently I am. If I had to organise it though, I wouldn't have one, as that's not my place. And most people do buy stuff for bubs once they've arrived if they haven't shelled out beforehand. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 8:14pm
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I never had one, in fact in my entire life I've only ever been to two, and I know a lot of people with babies! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 8:25pm
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My mum wanted to orgnanise one for me but I ended up having DD on the day it was supposed to happen. I actually preferred not having one as so many people gave us things when DD was born, it was much nicer that way. ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 6:39am
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I'm a first time mmmy-to-be, and I'm having a baby shower. Even though I'm only just over halfway, I will be doing it next month... before most of my friends leave after the uni exams. I'm doing the organising myself, sort of, we are just going to have a supper thing. But one of my friends offered to plan some baby shower games or something, so I guess it's still going to be sort of surprising what will happen!
Gifts will be a bonus of course especially since we are short of money, but the main reason for having the baby shower is to catch up with friends while I still can, and also hopefully make them feel involved in the pregnancy (which is important to me cos I want lots of support once the baby comes)! On the invites I will stress that gifts aren't expected, because for me, it's not about that, it's about spending time with friends celebrating a really cool life event
I think that if you want one, just go ahead and plan one. Doesn't have to be a big deal, just an afternoon tea with a few friends and family. No one will be expecting a huge planned party anyways... just a nice easy catch up. ------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |
Posted By: emmaohara
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 7:32am
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Yup I never had one either with Ben, work put on a bit of a party and I got some cool pressies and after Ben was born people called round with gifts.
Maybe this time though I'll have a freezer party, when everyone brings round a frozen meal for after bubba is born...!!   ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Faraway
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 7:39am
What a good idea!!! I had a baby shower that was organised by 2 friends of mine.It was on a Sat afternoon for a couple of hours and we had a few games, some simple afternoon tea food and yes there were presents - the friends had wanted me to make a list of things I needed/wanted so they could include it with invites but I didn't - I figured anyone who wanted to get me something shouldn't feel they had to! The best part of having a baby shower was seeing all my friends/family together before I had Kaleb. I say if you want one or think you'd like something to mark the occasion then ask someone to help you plan one ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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emmaohara wrote:Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 8:10am
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I never had now for either of mine. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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. No one arranged one for me either.Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 8:17am
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I am having one with work as its a bit of a tradition but not having one with family/friends as don't really feel comfortable with it. Think sometimes it turns into a present opp rather than a catch up so have said no to my SIL who offered to organise it. I am having a meet and greet when bubs is about 6-8 weeks old instead. -------------  
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 8:24am
dont think you would have had time for a baby shower with your first... lol!------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 10:09am
I had one, which I ended up organising myself, as my friend who'd offered to do it forgot.... 
She chose the date, and I sent out the invitations..... then she never mentioned it again. I left it thinking she was going to surprise me on the day with all the details, but it just NEVER got mentioned.... I couldn't stand it any longer so called her on the Thursday to remind her it was happening in two days time and she was horrified!! So I ended up doing it all myself! Was a great day though
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Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 11:41am
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My best friend organised mine. It was great fun. ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: mummy_dee
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 9:11pm
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I didn't have one with Ollie, which was fine as I didn't really want one. Mainly because people had given us so much stuff already that I didn't want them to feel that had to get us anything - even if I said 'no pressies required' I know people would still feel obliged to bring something. Plus I see my family and friends quite often.
The idea of a 'freezer party' however is really beginning to grow on me ... I had a friend cook a few times in the first couple of weeks and that was THE best thing anyone gave us!------------- Daphne Married Stuart: 19/03/05 Oliver: 9/06/06 Lilia due: 19/03/08 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 9:20pm
My friends wanted to throw me one while Brooke was in SCBU but it felt wrong. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 9:21pm
Almost the exact same thing happened to me, a lady wanted to do one for me, and just forgot about it till I nagged her to death about it 2 weeks before J arrived. I think my hens night is destined for the same damn thing, so I am going to organise it myself, its in 3 weeks. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 11:33pm
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oooh exciting! hens night!
i had a baby shower, i think mum and i organised it, it was really just another excuse for a get together tho (like you need an excuse) but as i was the first out of my friends to have a baby we didnt really know what we were supposed to do and mostly just talked, but ive since been to many that you play games at |
Posted By: youngmum
Date Posted: 28 September 2007 at 10:20am
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there are some awesome baby shower ideas out there if you google it! and I say if no-one throws you one but you still want one (its great fun, i've been to a few) then organise one yourself. The games I've seen played involved being blindfolded and sitting in a chair with another blindfolded person standing behind you feeding you baby food - result = a lot of mess! Also a rather gross one is to melt chocolate bars onto nappies and have guests guess what the bars are. yuck! or there is finding nappy pins in rice...all sorts. and lots of themes too, the freezer theme is a great idea. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: buzimumto3boys
Date Posted: 28 September 2007 at 4:52pm
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I had baby showers for all 3 of mine... it was organised by other people and was really just an excuse to have a BBQ and have friends around!
It also did help to make everyone more involved in the pregnancy...and we did a presents not necessary thing on the invites as well. Tho who can resist spoiling a baby!!
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Posted By: Bel
Date Posted: 28 September 2007 at 5:07pm
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I had to hint to my sister (who loves organising things like that!) that I wanted one - she decided that I wouldn't want one. We had a great time - perfect for catching up with people you haven't seen for a while...
And the baby gets quite spoilt... ------------- Mum to two beautiful kids
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