My Thoughts
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Topic: My Thoughts
Posted By: MummyFreckle
Subject: My Thoughts
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 9:34am
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I have been thinking about this post a lot…and after laying awake at 3am this morning thinking about it I decided that I had better to write it – even if its just to get it off my chest. One of the things that I love about Oh Baby is that we are a diverse group of people. We have a wide range of interests and views, which translates into a wide range of opinions which we are happy to share with each other. In life, we all form our opinions based on our own personal experiences, our own values, our upbringing, our religious & cultural views and the opinions of those closest to us. I think its important to remember that when we share our opinions or views – we are not proclaiming that ours is the “right” or “only” viewpoint on a matter, but it is OURs, and as such we should respect each other for sharing it. It is always fun to engage in debate, and I suspect that sometimes we all say things to be a little controversial or stir things up, or prompt a debate – that’s a good thing, it can result in some really interesting discussions, but we have to recognise those topics or discussions where we just aren’t going to agree – and to “walk away” or just accept that we have a difference of opinion. I don’t think that anyone on Some people may feel that this post in itself is controversial, and that’s fine, but it has been on my mind for a couple of days and wanted to share my feelings. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 9:48am
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well said ...... ------------- 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 10:15am
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Good for you simsam, couldn't agree more. I've always liked OH Baby cause no matter what you say, opinion or otherwise, everyone is at least polite to each other which I think is important.
I also love the support, and kindness that is shown time and time again by the ladies and gents on this forum. I hope now you are able to sleep better.  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 10:26am
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*nods in agreement*
Now get some sleep while you still can Sam! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 10:29am
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Very well said ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 11:03am
Yep!!!
BUT for me when you stop; is when you stop growing!!! Ill lend you some of my sleeping tabs if ya like ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 11:32am
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Well said SimSam. Knowing when to stop and how to put your own thoughts across without negating or belittling others' opinions is a feature of this forum I think should be championed.
Just as important as providing our own perspectives is listening and considering others' ideas, and not assuming anything about why they think the way they do. That doesn't mean you have to agree with them or change your own opinions, but it also doesn't mean you have to challenge everything either - which I guess is where your point comes in about knowing where to stop and respecting others. Then again, this is all my own opinion!   ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 11:38am
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Well said. Now, I don't usually comment about this type of thing, but I just shut a thread out, as I felt one poster was harrassing another as thier opinions differ, and it was making me feel pretty uncomfortable. Now I am not one for shying away from debate or difference of opinions, but sometimes (and to quote the great Black Seeds) Sometimes enough is enough..
------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 11:45am
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What i dont understand is when you give an opinion or point of view/story & get dissed for it... You walk away; coz you know why!!!
You can still respect others & dont have to agree & can continue to speak you truth quietly & clearly. Coz everybody has a story even the loud & arrogant have a story. BUt do you really listen? Or just agree to disagree?? Or smile & nod as they say  ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: Faraway
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 11:47am
 well said------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 11:57am
and also when to stop reading if you are getting upset at another person's opinion. There's been many a time when I've sat here and thought WHAT THE?!?! or How could someone say such a thing?!?!? 
but then I have the choice to close out of that topic and move on. Same as IRL "nod, smile and walk away" ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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SimSam wrote:Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 12:18pm
Like when dumb people like me agree with your DH over the circumcision thing ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mummy_dee
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 12:27pm
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Well written Simsam! ------------- Daphne Married Stuart: 19/03/05 Oliver: 9/06/06 Lilia due: 19/03/08 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 12:42pm
| I agree but I must have missed something cos I cant recall any 'touchy' subjects at the moment |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 12:55pm
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LOL Robyn we've all been having fierce debates over domestic violence and circumcision But it hasn't gotten nasty, at least not IMO... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 25 September 2007 at 7:57pm
Well there had to be one person out there to agree with him 'cause his wife never does 
(I mean that in the sense of "men are always right" kind of way, nothing to do with the willy chopping thread thing )------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 26 September 2007 at 7:24am
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oooh right, ive avoided those threads incase I put my foot in it, i have reasonably strong opinions on the subjects
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 26 September 2007 at 8:56am
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I don't think anyone should have to think twice about posting their opinions (unless it would obviously offend another (i.e. race comments etc), people should think before they post that they are offended (and I mean that in the nicest way honest! I'm just bad with words LOL).
A lot of problems have come from people not agreeing with another post and making it personal which was never intended by anyone. There's nothing wrong with having a differing opinion from someone else, it opens your eyes to both sides of the discussion. I am totally against circumcision, but my very good friend is for. That doesn't mean I'll stop being friends with Emma We'll just agree to disagree and move on.------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 26 September 2007 at 8:59am
And here I was thinking Simsam was objecting to the "conversion" that is going on in the cloth nappy forum  I need to get out more and read more forums
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 26 September 2007 at 12:03pm
| i think people DO need to think twice about how they post their opinions. as we are not able to see people's faces and hear the tone, often the meaning can be misunderstood. Now I also think that some people can sometimes misunderstand and get upset without first clarifying with the original poster, but I also think that we, online friends, have to be careful about how we say things. i like to think most times we do. |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 26 September 2007 at 12:19pm
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I always go by the rule 'If I say something and it can be taken in 1 or 2 ways, and one of those ways makes you angry or upset, I meant the other one'.
And yeah try not to get personal, thats what PMs are for. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 26 September 2007 at 12:28pm
| I generally try to avoid posting things I feel really strongly about because you get jumped on so fast its just not worth it. The only thing that annoys me is when people will give it but can't take it. |
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 26 September 2007 at 1:03pm
I like it! Very good rule to live by on forums
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 26 September 2007 at 1:55pm
Teehee, there's nothing wrong with nappy chat, it's a very interesting subject ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 26 September 2007 at 1:56pm
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I always think about who I am responding to before I post, if it's someone I know well or who I know will pick up on my sarcasm/cheekiness then I'll post it (ie. with Toni and the circumcision thing ) but if I think they'll take it too personally or won't see the funny side I tend to hold back. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 26 September 2007 at 9:25pm
I tend to be the same.. there are plenty (actually lately, a heck of alot) of things or ideas that make me think or  or or "wow that person's a bit  " or just plain 
I have learnt that it gets nasty very quicly, and there are some things and yes, as simsam says, everyone has their opinions, and while no-one means to push them, it takes one person to insult the idea of someone elses opinion for it to turn into a kind of "well i think this" "well i think that" "well, if you think THAT then you're wrong" Not often, but i have noticed it a bit more lately. I do like Fleurs quote above. I tend to usually read the first post and a few replies and mostly just think "ooooh, I'm not even going to justify joining this at all" I don't even go back and read it, I don't need to see everyone clambering with opinions to see who comes out on top. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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