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Topic: Time Out
Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Subject: Time Out
Date Posted: 04 November 2005 at 6:15pm

When do u put child in time out?

Xander drew on his duvet so i found a boring corner and stuck hom there for 2 mins.He stayed put and i only had to put him back down once.

when do u give warnings and is it ok 2 put them there strait away if done something like draw where not allowed to? have taken leaf out of supernannys book lol and he even said sorry!!!

any help/ideas would be good.hes usually good but occasionally does stuff



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BECS
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Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days)



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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 04 November 2005 at 9:13pm
i usually give warnings, but sometimes i suggest to paris that she might like to go there herself. she was being all grumpy tonight and i said to her - i think if you are going to be grumpy you need to do it somewhere where i cannot see - how about you go and be grumpy on your matress, and off she went and sat in there till she cooled down.


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Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja



Posted By: Alan Mum
Date Posted: 05 November 2005 at 11:38am
I think it is best to give a warning first, but in your case if he had alrady done the damage how can you give him the warning I personally would have sent him straight time out. He had already done the bad behaviour.

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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 05 November 2005 at 6:06pm
yeah,i did put him there straight away after he kindly showed me his artwork.

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BECS
http://www.sparklee.com">
Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days)


Posted By: HelenElla
Date Posted: 06 November 2005 at 11:45am
We use the naughty chair for Chloe and usually make sure we give her a warning before sending her there, however in some cases where she should know better, for example being mean to the cat or drawing on something she knows she shouldn't, then she goes straight to her chair. I think as long as you explain to them exactly why they are sitting there as well as why they didn't get a warning then it's ok.


Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 09 November 2005 at 10:14pm
We've used time out now for a few months. I used to smack, but then I got to a point where I felt like every second phrase out of my mouth was "Stop it or you'll get a smack" and I didn't like it. So we sat down and made a 'deal' that I would never smack her again (I sometimes really regret promising her that!). So we use Time Out. I used to put her in the hallway but she wouldn't stay there, so now she goes in the bathroom. Partly coz it's boring, but also coz I read somewhere (go Dr Phil!!) that a child's bedroom should be a safe haven for them so shouldn't be used in punishment. Made sense to me.

I sooo wish I could reason with Maya, but she is such a determined, independent little spirit that it usually ends up in a huge war. Yesterday she spent close to 10 minutes screaming in her bedroom before she calmed down, the day before she screamed from one end of Lynnmall to the other, all these people were staring at me and all these older mothers were giving me the most knowing looks. All because I told her she is too big to be carried now (she even told me " I haven't got legs Mama" when I told her legs were for walking ).
Part of me loves that she is so independent and stubborn but another part of me just wants to strangle her!

Anyways, sorry about the novel. I'm just finding being a Mum really tough right now!

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Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)


Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 10 November 2005 at 9:46am
You're a wonderful mother Emma! I read with much interest all your posts and stories on this site - you are doing a fantastic job with Maya, and the fact that she is so independent and spirited is a great thing, and a reflection on your excellent parenting skills

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Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006


Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 10 November 2005 at 12:35pm
I know what you mean Emma. You get so proud of them accomplishing things by themselves, but there is always a downside....independant vs stubborn!
The neighbours are having some HUGE argument at the moment with their kids. Wish it was in English so i could eavesdrop. Oh well.



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