HELP..sex AFTER pregnancy...
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Topic: HELP..sex AFTER pregnancy...
Posted By: cmaine
Subject: HELP..sex AFTER pregnancy...
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 6:04pm
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Hi
me and my best friend who had her baby about 3weeks ago and my son only be born 1week ago today are in a friendly battle to see who's right and also other womans stories.. we basically want to know how long you are suposed to wait after you have a baby to have SEX? I heard it was 6weeks so your body has time to go back to normal,and theres the risk of getting pregnant again also..my best friend didnt even wait a week before her and her partner were back at it..  ..
i also spoke to my midwife today but she sez that i could have sex right now if i wanted its more about a comfort thing..{women and there bodys}.. i know its rude to ask but how long did you wait and what are your thoughts and opinions? 
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Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 6:18pm
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Straight away.
I'm a guy.
Edit: I wish straight away anyway. I have a funny feeling that my wife is going to answer soon. I'll let her tell our story. ------------- Defending the male species since 1980 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 6:19pm
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Nothing's rude to ask on here cause we'll only answer if we want to!
Usually there is a recommendation to wait for 6 weeks but this is only advised (vs recommended) in situations such as c/s I think. Really it just comes down to when you are ready. And that seems to depend on mojo and stitches  It has been 4-8 weeks for us. I was far more ready after the c/s than the V stitches
There's a small chance of getting pg right away but that's what condoms/minipill are for but not all women get pg (when unprotected) either.-------------  |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 6:25pm
| i think it dates back to the 6 week check. cause i remember my MIL saying that once we have been given the all clear at our 6 week check we would be able to get back in the saddle (prob her way of saying make me a girl now asap!) it is when you are most comfortable but after the 6 week check would be a good time tho cause then you would have had time to notice any problems etc... |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 6:40pm
| well after labour i swore i was actually never having sex again, but i think in the end it was about 6-8 weeks |
Posted By: cmaine
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 6:42pm
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Hi i was just reading some of the comments and thats what i heard that you had to wait till after the 6week check,i also asked my midwife that today and she said they used to say 6weeks but its up to the couple and when the women feels comfortable enough,i never had any stitches but had a normal delivery,with regards to the 6week check she also said that if you have sex before the 6weeks its ok becouse then they would be able to tell that everything is working properly and that there is no problems..
she also said that becouse everything with me was great e.g normal delivery,no stitches,bleeding just about stopped i would be able to get in the sack right now if i wanted too and believe me i dont as i couldnt care less if i never have sex again..lol...
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 7:09pm
I only waited three weeks and I had a c/s. 
I think it comes down to when you are comfortable again. Easy does it though, it pays to go slow for a bit..
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 7:16pm
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With my first baby it was a few week (3 I think). However with Josh it was a lot longer as I just didn't feel like it. As the others said it is different with everyone and whatever you are comfortable with go with it. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 7:52pm
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With Maya I could have cared less, mind you it didn't help that Willie and I were barely even speaking to each other.
With the gremlins I probably felt ready about 3 weeks PP, and I know poor Willie was gagging for it coz he seriously hadn't had any action for most of my pregnancy, but we had to wait until 6 weeks coz my bleeding took forever to stop. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 9:00pm
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My m/w wrote us a script for condoms in week 2 as i was like whats the point i'm not having sex again......ever......... but in the end we did it at week 5. Not sure about the whole 6 week thing, my gp didn't even mention anything about sex at the checkup. I was very bruised from c/s and took me a while before I was comfortable so before 5 weeks wouldn't really have been physically possible for me.
I think really it just comes down to when you feel comfortable doing it and when you have enough energy. I did tell DH he could do it when ever he liked if he did it without waking me up lol. he was also gagging for it as I had pg problems and we hadn't done it for about a million years ------------- 
 
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Posted By: buzimumto3boys
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 9:04pm
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LOL I was day 5 after my first CS.... DH was desperate and I took some pain killers first
With the other 2 we waited a couple of weeks I think. But it is really up to you and as long as you dont have any scar/tear issues it should be fine...just use protection (friend of mine got pregnant in the first 6 weeks!!) |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 9:04pm
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LOL it's a sure test of the guy's waiting power, to have a baby! ------------- |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 9:19pm
Willie had to wait literally from the night we conceived until the gremlins were about 6 weeks old 
The stupid Plunket nurse that came to visit when the gremlins were 3 weeks old told me Willie should get a vasectomy. I told her she should mind her own business! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 9:31pm
| I made DH wait til Daniel was somewhere between 8 and 10 weeks old (just don't remember exactly lol). My scar down yonder was still ultra sensitive and still had pain so wasn't going near sex outta fear of it hurting like hell. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 9:40pm
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I remember telling him he had to be 'gentle' but he was too busy being like a bull at a gate for fear I'd change my mind ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: missy_girl
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 10:22pm
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My poor DH waited 3mths for me to feel ready. ------------- Michelle http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 10:23pm
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ten weeks....yes i know poor DH!!! but i was soooo scared my zipper would pop open, I was still bleeding til then and scar was a little weepy at times....def did NOT feel like doing the wild thing!
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Posted By: cmaine
Date Posted: 05 October 2007 at 11:43pm
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oh these are all so interesting,so many different stories,doe's anyone think 1week 2weeks is to soon?
it must be different though if you've had a c/s to a normal delivery as the exits are different...if you know what i mean? more replies are welcome though..
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Posted By: floss
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 7:34am
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We waited just under 3 weeks, but I had a very normal delivery no stitches or anything.
Poor hubby this time round since I am so much bigger with the 2 babies I just can't find any comfy position so i dare say he will be gagging for it as soon as these twins are born!!! |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 7:43am
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lol i told my DH we had to wait 10 weeks ha ha he believed me until we were visiting good friends of ours that had just had a baby and they asked if we had had our first rumply yet. lol. whoopseeee
I think it ended up being about being about 6 weeks after the first what with the stiches and the bleeding....eww not going there with the bleeding. And maybe about 5 weeks after the second. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 10:03am
I don't think I even want to admit how long we waited! But then again when we got into bed sleep won out over sex every time! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 10:20am
My friend did it the day she came home from the hospital  My bleeding took for ages to stop as well and there was no way we were doing it red. About 6 weeks with jack i think and 8 with caprece.
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Posted By: cmaine
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 12:00pm
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OMG..your friend did it when she got home?
wonder how that was becouse thats really soon.. with the blood and all,personally i feel to icky to do it anytime soon.. but each to there own.. im not one to judge but good on her for being that comfortable...
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 1:21pm
I know she was quite young tho. I've heard stories about people doing it in the hospital  and leaving the hospital pregnant again.
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Posted By: cmaine
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 1:51pm
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OMG...thats even um more keen..
me myself personally i can't even picture doing it in the next month..lol |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 4:59pm
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With Kiya: 3 years (no, that is not a typo Long story, but the relevant part is her bio father dumped me, and she was nearly 3 when I married my DH)
With Josiah: 10 days With Xavier: 7 days Straight-forward deliveries with no stitches after having either of the boys. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 5:55pm
| there was a girl at bethany (where i lived when i was pregnant and for a month after) that had sex the night she had her baby,each to their own i guess,i couldnt have done it,i would have been too scared of how much it would hurt, or that my stiches would burst-i mean in the first 3 days i was too scared to go "number 2s" on the toilet... |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 7:02pm
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OMG, the same night? Why, why, why???? ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 7:11pm
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my step-mums sis did it in the hospital and ended preggers with number 4 I think (whenever i go over there are so many kids, i have no idea whose are whose).
for us, i really really don't remember. i think Lew had to wait til we got back to japan with Jake - so at least six weeks as for taine - i believe there was a vow of never again - was super paranoid about getting preggers again - didn't help with midwife leaving after three weeks check and saying "see you next year" (friend of my nanas so kinda fmaily friendish). |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 7:37pm
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About 7 weeks or so with #1, and it HURT like holy shed (lotsa grazing still not healed) and hurt for about 7 months or so sfter and about 5 weeks with #2, bleeding stopped about 2 weeks after and I wasn't sore at all after about a week, but I had tonnes more stitches and I was waaaaaaaay too tired to even think about it. Still feel too tired and not into it, lol!!! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 8:14pm
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I actually really cant remember at all. I know I bled for 6 weeks and after that my freaking period showed up after a week. So at least a minumum of 8 weeks. But we moved when she was like 7 weeks old. And I cant remember the first month of anything in the new place. As his sister was there and then my dad. So I think this is close to freaking 12 weeks. Poor hubby. The sucker must seriously love me hey? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 06 October 2007 at 8:37pm
After my 1st I was sooo sore but as soon as I got home 4days after birth the bio father(my ex) forced me to and SH*T DID IT HURT!!!!
After my second DH and I waited about two weeks I think, just until the bleeding stopped, I wasn't sore at all, he was more worried about hurting me than I was! I remember the doc said at the 6 week check that I was now fine to have sex, I thought opps was I not meant to? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Chloe 12/7/03 Miya 5/11/05 |
Posted By: cmaine
Date Posted: 07 October 2007 at 11:47am
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SOME OF THE COMMENTS REALLY CRACK ME UP...
my ex partner father of my newborn son has been trying to get back in my good graces and wants to try and make a go of being a couple again, most of my pregnancy he wasnt around or back and forward now he can't go a day without seeing his son,he cryed one day after i told him he had to leave. now he was over friday night and had a couple with my brother and really wanted to do it,i can't bring myself to having sex although he is the love of my life and i can picture marrying him sometime in the future..this whole sex topic after giving birth really freaks me out..lol.. |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 07 October 2007 at 2:40pm
| I'll be honest we have only done it once after Caprece and it was nothing special. I never thought I would say this but I would way rather sleep than have sex. Tell him your not allowed to until 8 weeks or something. |
Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 07 October 2007 at 3:25pm
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I can't quite remember how long it was for us. I bled for 8 weeks plus our baby was in hospital so nooky was the LAST thing on my mind!!! I can't even remember if we did it before we brought her home (11 weeks) or not! Lol thats how memorable it was ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 07 October 2007 at 8:47pm
It was five days for us but I had a straight forward delivery, no stitches or anything. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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cmaine wrote:Posted By: cmaine
Date Posted: 07 October 2007 at 9:35pm
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honestly?
how did feel on the fifth day? i am so scared to be honest..lol.. |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 07 October 2007 at 10:01pm
I admit sometimes I am thinking I could be sleeping now!!! cmaine, if you are worried about it it is definately not time to do it yet. Make sure you wait until you are comfortable and if you don't think that will be for a while do what rachandjack said and tell him you are not allowed until 8 weeks or your 6 week check up or something, men are clueless about all womeny stuff and probably wouldn't question it. -------------
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 07 October 2007 at 11:01pm
Well DS was fairly small (6 lb 10 oz) and not my first child so I felt up to it much sooner than with DD (about six weeks I think). We used plenty of lubricant and took it easy. It was fine because it was gentle. I certainly couldn't have handled anything too passionate. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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