The thoughts of 1st time mothers
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Topic: The thoughts of 1st time mothers
Posted By: Aprilfools
Subject: The thoughts of 1st time mothers
Date Posted: 06 November 2007 at 9:23pm
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I'm wondering what thoughts go through or have gone through the minds of those TTC.
Me? Well, for one have bladder control problem and I constantly fear that when I do finally get pg that I may lose control altogether. But then I think about a baby. Then I think about the times that I've left the oven on or forgotten to feed the cat, sometimes even my husband (thank god he speaks english). But then I think about a baby. And then I think what about summer, what about my bikini's, the margaritas, the awesome BBQ's we have, the spa pool and so on. But then of course I think about a baby! And then I think about me. Could I really be a mum? I have old fashioned values and a great family but I am a Taurus with a taurus temperament. But then maybe I'm just a completely normal lunatic TTC. What about you? |
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 06 November 2007 at 9:33pm
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All sounds normal to me.
Oh and I sneezed and peed myself when pregnant, luckily I was at home, but I then had a constant fear that it would happen again whilst at work. I would break into a cold sweat if I had to go anywhere that there wasn't a toilet. lol I have also left the oven on and have a really bad habit of leaving the iron on, so much so that DH wrote a massive sign and stuck it in my car saying "have you switched the iron off". I haven't worn a bikini for years so that's not an issue, but i did like to get trolleyed, but wanted a baby more, didn't want to drink at all when pregnant and I don't miss it now. You can still have BBQ's etc you will just have a bubs with you. Oh and you can't forget to feed or change a baby etc, they let you know if they want something. Hope that helps ------------- 
 
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Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 06 November 2007 at 9:38pm
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They are SO worth it.
I miss sleep ins and spontaneous dinners out. Also miss my old 'not so squishy' tummy but... I wouldn't change my Ollie for any of it. He is the best thing that ever happened in my life. (and my husband feels the same. You will be great! 
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 06 November 2007 at 9:47pm
Your life does completely change - but always for the better 
Yes I miss going out clubbing with my single friends and spending silly amounts of money just on fad stuff for me. But now everything is for my beautiful little girl. We went through 18 months of TTC (so I know you can easily go a bit metal lol), but every time she smiles at me with her twinkly eyes, gives me a big wet kiss or a hug and goes "awww meemaa" (meemaa = mumma)it makes everything worthwhile (including the weak preggy bladder, strecth marks, sleepless nights, even being spewed and poo'd on!) you really do forget about anything else and your heart melts every single day 
BAH! Now I've made myself get teary 
Good luck with your TTC journey - motherhood is definitely worth the wait  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 07 November 2007 at 9:22am
Yeah those worries sound completely normal. I worried about whether I really understood what I was getting into (I still don't but it's ok  ) and I worried about whether my pelvic floor would handle it - funnily enough worrying about that makes me do my pelvic floor exercises pretty often so they're probably stronger than they have been before at the moment.
Since you've identified what you think are the main issues for you you can now set up coping strategies. Like get some free samples of poise etc, do pelvic floor exercises, get in the habit of using post its and lists... It's good that you've identified that your life style will change - it's the people that don't that have the most issues I reckon. You will worry before, and during and I'm sure after. The only difference is what you will worry about will change. Yeah you'll definitely enjoy it (and that's coming from someone who doesn't even have the baby yet) -------------  
 
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 07 November 2007 at 2:00pm
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taurus BAH try being a Leo with no patience
When i got pregnant (accident) with my first I so worried 'What the hell have I got myself into' I had a pretty cruisy pregnancy so no issues there but when he came out a BOY (I hadn't found out) I was a worry wort.. I'd say to my brother (as I was a single mother by then) 'What if he has porblems I don't know how to sort out boy problems, whats if he has something going on down there, How do I teach him to stand up a pee?' and lots more. Now Josh is 14 and such a cool kid and actually none of those 'worries' were as BIG as I thought they would be. As for bladder control - wear a pad just incase so that if anything should happen you'll be protected from embarrassement. I must admit one thing that sorta scared me with all my pregnancies was How embarrasing it would be if my waters broke at the supermarket or somewhere public... Never happened for me though so another worthless worry ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 08 November 2007 at 12:42pm
| I know that once we have a baby we will be thrilled, I've wanted a baby ever since I knew what a baby was. I love babies and children. But I have these moments every now and then where I start panicking and wondering wtf am I getting myself into, there's no way I can do this and I best get myself some contraception asap. It didn't help watching the discovery channel on the weekend either, I nearly cried. But I still want one and now would be good!! |
Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 08 November 2007 at 1:05pm
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6 months before I got pregnant with Olivia I began TTC and I had some huge freak outs! I had a near 24/7 job working for a cab company with some heinous hours that really poked me in the head. For those first 3 months I was a little freaked out at the prospect of getting pregnant and ending the lifestyle and being up at some horrific hours when it was so plain and simple that I was a lazy arse. We actually gave up after 3 months as our wedding was coming up and I didn't want to be pregnant with a HUGE bump and get married. Also my MIL was sick and it really felt like time to concentrate on family. I remember sitting in my living room a month after we quit TTC and thinking: I am actually good with the idea of having a child, I mean it would be a huge upheaval but totally rewarding to have that small person. Two months later I was in another job and starting feeling sick and found out a couple of days later that I was pregnant.
I think the one thing that being a first time mother has taught me the MOST is that parenting is a constant warming up act. You are never thrown in the deep end or given too much more than you can handle. Pregnancy cures the need for sleep, babies make way for toddlers, toddlers make way for children... there will always be something next to keep me occupied now
I really love being a Mum, it was a HUGE lifestyle change and a mentality adjustment but I don't think I will ever regret it and I have honestly never heard of someone that completely has! ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |