#1 trial and error child
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Topic: #1 trial and error child
Posted By: BaAsKa
Subject: #1 trial and error child
Date Posted: 14 November 2007 at 6:38pm
Who else feels like their child #1 was a trial and error scenario!!?? or is it just me!!??
I think about it everytime i do things with astin that i didnt do with Bay (breastfeeding, routine, and other unmentionable things!!  ) and i feel soooooooo stink that Bay got the shaft!!
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 14 November 2007 at 6:49pm
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If it makes you feel better there was a thing on campbell a little while ago about first childs being more intelligent etc, poss cos of the one on one they get before the siblings arrive.
I do feel like i'm experimenting on Spencer sometimes, but then it will probably be the same when we have another as we will probably have all diff problems and a different little personality to contend with. I also worry a bit about breastfeeding next time, would like to give it another go but think I will feel guilty if it works out because I stopped with Spencer, will even more stink if I don't try again though....so can't win really. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 14 November 2007 at 7:30pm
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To some extent... but to another degree they are all different and we have had so many more challenges with #2 just because we had to re-learn parenting, almost! -------------  |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 14 November 2007 at 7:31pm
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jack got things that charli didn't get...like more one on one attention, new stuff, more toys etc....charli is alot more work than jack too especially when she was younger..and now she's climbing on things when jack didn't climb until he was 2
i think with every child it's trial and error as they are so different  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 14 November 2007 at 8:39pm
Bay asked DH a few weeks ago if "mumma didnt love him as much anymore because of Astin" which made me burst into tears!!! i just feel stink because i know Astin gets a bit more than Bay did
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 14 November 2007 at 8:43pm
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Kids always say stuff like that. Just give him some extra cuddles and let him know that you love him just as much as you always have and always will.
I'm sure you did a fantastic job with Bay, you wouldn't worry about stuff if you were a bad mum.  -------------
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 14 November 2007 at 9:02pm
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its just certain things that bug me that i think "how could i have been so stupid!!?" like sleeping him in our bed until he was 4 months old!! , letting him sleep so much that he ended up under nourished!!! and a few other things that i shouldnt mention because it sounds so rediculous!!
I guess when (haha WHEN!?) we have another child there will be things that i will get right with him that il think i was terrible for not doing it with Astin!....... I just needed to know that i wasnt the only one that felt like my first bubs got the shaft through lack of knowledge!
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 14 November 2007 at 9:15pm
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Just remember that the youngest kid gets away with more! (Well that's what happened in our family! My brother got away with things that I didn't, being the eldest!). ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 14 November 2007 at 9:17pm
hehe im the youngest so i understand how it works   hhhhmmmm....
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meow wrote:Posted By: james
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 7:42am
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hehe yep james is my ongoing expermint in child rearing lol but i think i,m doing a pretty good job ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 11:03am
I just had to share this...my son said to my nephew the other day (bailey said...) "my dad is tall and my mum is just fat"!!!! WTF!! cheeky little toad!!! 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 2:01pm
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Sorry I laughed at that. -------------
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 2:03pm
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he he he lil toad! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 3:08pm
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Yep Andrew was ours. Mum told me that I was theres. There were so many things my sisters got away with that I didn't when I was a teenager. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 3:10pm
So did i actually! lol ...well i had to otherwise i wouldv cried! lol ....kids are too honest!!!
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 9:24pm
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Yeah I so think Jack was a trial and error child, there were so many things i didn't know. But then again Caprece is so different (and a lot more work) so shes a bit of trial and error too. If I ever (really tiny chance) had another one hopefully I'd know what I was doing.
I actually feel like I really let myself down with Capreces birth because I thought I knew what to expect but hers was so much more intense and quicker I didn't handle it as well as I feel I should of
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 16 November 2007 at 7:11pm
| i find myself more at an odds with Taine cause i feel like "your brother did things this way . why don;t you do it like him!!!" jake slept really well - although we didn't really know that at the time, and wasn't affected by his teeth, Taine is a different kid and reacts diferently so really i think each kid is trial and error. |