am i strange
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Topic: am i strange
Posted By: Kazzle
Subject: am i strange
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 4:49pm
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okay so since my miscarriage, i have found that i just dont want to talk about how the ttcing is going, i will post in the threads, but no where near as much as i use too, i feel like if i talk about trying to get pregnant again and i miscarry again that i would have just made a fool of myself.
I am wanting to be pregnant with all my heart, but for some reason when ppl now ask me how the ttcing journey is going, i tend to say "its going", i almost feel like they are invading my personal space. And funnily enough while its not anyone from this site, any of the other forums i belong to and even my family i just want to tell them to all bugger off and leave me to it. We have already decided that when we fall pregnant again, until we have past the 11wk mark that we wont be telling anyone (except for you guys, and yeap i have Kents permission on that one lol). Oh and our parents of course, so im thinking that maybe because of that decision and of course being scared of miscarrying again, that im just avoiding the whole thing...oh i dont know, now im just rambling...as you were...lol ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 4:55pm
 Sounds pretty reasonable and normal to me Kaz. Your defence mechanisms trying to protect you in some way I suppose...------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 8:19pm
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I agree. Also maybe you feel some pressure from others to "hurry up and get pregnant" by the constant questions? -------------  |
Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 8:35pm
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I was the same after we had been trying for a few months all my friends kept asking how everything was going and was starting to get a bit upset (I was a bit naive and thought it would happen straight away) I just started telling them we have decided it not the right time for us and a month after that I was pregnant. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 9:23pm
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We didn't tell anyone we were trying and we won't do when we try for number two either (well I might end up telling you lot). I think it is fair enough to not tell everyone. We went back to England when I was 6 weeks and I felt a bit gutted that everyone found out when we had only known for a week, I think it would be nice to have those first couple of months to yourself so to speak.
Next time will try not to be flying to England at 6 weeks  ------------- 
 
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 10:11pm
Yes Kaz, you probably are strange (but not for having these thoughts)...... but then I know I'm a bit strange
I think those thoughts sound pretty normal/reasonable, I can totally understand the not wanting people "in your face" about ttc all the time!! ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 16 November 2007 at 5:58pm
sounds like me - does that make me strange too? or are we just normal - I think we are! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 16 November 2007 at 6:02pm
big hugs kazzle you have to do whats right for you hun ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: mummy_dee
Date Posted: 16 November 2007 at 7:15pm
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You sound perfectly normal Kazzle! While I may not have gone through what you have, I can imagine how hard it must be. ------------- Daphne Married Stuart: 19/03/05 Oliver: 9/06/06 Lilia due: 19/03/08 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 10:13pm
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We didn't tell anyone we were TTC to start with so after the m/c I felt a bit 'exposed' coz then everyone knew we were TTC and I felt this pressure to succeed that hadn't been there before. Then when we succeeded first time round post m/c I felt like it invalidated the whole year we had been TTC in the first place, like I was a liar almost.
Hang on there Kazzle, you will get pregnant again and you will have another baby, and it will all be worth it in the end, it's just hard when you're in the middle of it to see the end in sight. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 19 November 2007 at 12:39am
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Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 19 November 2007 at 7:37am
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you girls are so great, this is the best support group, i am so so so glad i found this website last year. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 19 November 2007 at 7:42am
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I think you are normal too. We never told anyone IRL we were TTC (but told everyone here). I think the TTC journey is a private one and you are entitled to keeping to yourselves.
Good luck - hope you get a BFP soon ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 19 November 2007 at 1:50pm
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youre not strange kazzle, sounds very normal to me, i really hope you get your BFP in the near future
and anyone that makes you feel you've made a fool of yourself if you (touch wood you dont) miscarry again....well you just let me know where they are, I'll deal to them 
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 26 November 2007 at 5:27pm
I agree totally with you Kazzle!! Its so good to have so many listening ears and helpful unbiased practical advice!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
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