Burial or cremation?
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Topic: Burial or cremation?
Posted By: busymum
Subject: Burial or cremation?
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 9:31pm
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What's your choice? I'm for burial -------------  |
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 9:32pm
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I'm for cremation I want to be scattered at sea. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 9:32pm
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he he.. me - i'm for burial, mike's all for cremation
in my opinion i guess that would mean different resting places for us which, provided we are old and wrinkly together.. just wouldn't seem right. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 9:34pm
Cremation. I don't like the thought of my body being eaten by creepy crawlies lol  ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 9:38pm
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Cremated, please. And scattered in the same place with my dad's ashes.
ETA: heck. Just edited to make sense in my emotional state after reading this. |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 9:39pm
I spose it depends how much you want to pay for that titanium coffin I personally don't like the idea of being burnt up
it's an interesting debate (me and teresa were just talking about this on MSN and decided to put it to you guys, not hoping to offend or upset anyone) ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 9:39pm
DH says he doesn't care cause he'll be dead. So he's quite keen to go through the engine of an airplane 
Yeah whatever when I suggested scattering his bones without bothering cremation he thought that sounded gross - but not the jet engine  ------------- |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 9:41pm
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he's an interesting one your man ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 9:43pm
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I don't care think Dh would bury me though as he has put in our will he wants to be buried (and what cemetery) ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 9:44pm
| Burial - DH and I want to take up as much room as possible so developers are screwed hahahaha! Plus I like having a place to go to visit people, we always go to my grandad's grave who I never met (and it's 3 hours away), but won't go down to the rugby field or crematorium and garden (is that what they're called?!) where my great-grandparents are, and I was closer to them. |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 10:01pm
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I was thinking about this today, as Charlotte was patting Dad's "box" with his ashes in - a nice wooden urn thing, and I was thinking, wow, its hard to believe that man, that tiny little, full of life and opinion and whatever man is ground up in this box. MAde me feel sad. Still, I get to see "him" and visit "him" whenever I'm at mums, so its not like I have nowhere to visit. There was a huge row cos one of my brothers wanted some of Dads asjes, and my other brother and I were like NO WAY! I don't even like the thought of scattering, I like the idea of going to the afterlife as a "whole" (minus any organs I can donate) I think you need to be buried or ashes kept together whole. Just my opinion, though. Mum is going to get buried with Dads ashes (or cremated with them?). I like the idea of cremation, eco friendly and all that, but I'm not really sure what I will do. Depends on what is allowed when I go, and what Rod does. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 10:12pm
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Cremation, don't like the burial idea. My grandparents on my mums side were both cremated and then their ashes were buried together with a headstone, think that is the best of both. That sounded odd, I just mean that their is still a place to visit even though they have been cremated and they are still together. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 10:15pm
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Just read my post and it sounded odd. They weren't cremated together, they died about 6 months apart but both their ashes were put in the same plot. -------------
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 10:17pm
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I'm all for being burnt - even after I found out what they do I also want to donate my organs but DH said no, so I may have to put that in my will. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 10:31pm
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See that's an interesting one Becks.. I mean, I wouldn't mind donating lungs, liver, kidneys.. but would want to keep my heart which in my opinion bears all the sgnificance of all those you have loved in your life and ties in with the soul in some way i guess. I don't know if you can specify though that you would donate x and x but not the heart.. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 10:33pm
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Yep you can do that and they should respect your wishes ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 10:33pm
| we hvae to have a dicsussion about this as Lewis is Maori and I think his family have some ideas about what they want to happen - not what he wants! anyway, i watched this documentary about Cuba where they just don't have enough room to bury people, so they bury them for three years and then you have to go and pick up the remains - which are bones. in the documentary it was so gross cause some people hadn't quite decomposed and still had skin attached and stuff. really creepy. Bit of a downer to the film festival but I guess good as ten years later the only one I remember....Oh yeah, so cremation. |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 10:38pm
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eeeeewwww, in that situation you can see why one would definately opt for cremation ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 10:41pm
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eeewww ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 10:45pm
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I don't really know to be honest. I think I would prefer cremation at this stage but not 100% sure ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 17 November 2007 at 11:19pm
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I have no idea what I want so this is defintely got me thinking. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 7:37am
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I don't know that I really care to be honest...probably something B and I should talk about. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 7:46am
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I prefer cremation, like you becks i have a friend who is an embalmer and after hearing some stories no way do i want to be buried. Ive never liked that idea anyway though. I always thought i would like to say have my mum cremated and then plant a tree and do a special wee area in the garden for her that i can go and sit anytime of the night or day. I wouldnt want to be going to a creepy cemetary at 3am in the morning when i felt i needed to be close to her!
Oh and in some cemetaries you can put ashes with a burial, just depends on the cemetary rules but apparently they generally like that cos they are all running out of room (i asked cos my friend buried her wee boy but wants to be cremated but wants to be with him when she goes) |
Posted By: gemsmum
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 7:51am
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I think I'd want to be cremated, but once I'm dead I don't think I'll care - up to dh and/or the kids/grandkids hehe.
But, on a related note, DH is English. I was talking to someone the other day about something similar and I realised DH and I had never discussed what he'd want done if/when he goes. Will he want his remains returned to England, or cremated and ashes spread somewhere over Plymouth Sound or stay here with us? Must ask. |
Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 8:45am
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Not thinking too much about it id have to say burial
As long as we haven't run outa room inside the earth when i die, coz i dont want to be buried standing up (wont feel at rest) Or we suddenly have geothermal active soil & everything starts bubbling up under there & burning skin & bone. I dont mind the creepy crawlies eating me, i like the idea of being part of the food chain
Aint the stories from undertaker freinds lovely  ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 10:18am
| cremated just in case I'm not actually dead, being burnt i'll die pretty quickly but waking up in a buried coffin and losing all my nails trying to dig out would be horrible. |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 10:23am
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DH wants to be buried so he can come back as a zombie -------------
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 10:47am
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No they ain't ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Glow wrote:Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 11:18am
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hubby and I are both for cremation and organ donation as well. Was discussed years ago now ------------- "> 
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Posted By: kiwigal
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 12:09pm
| I am all for burial.I don't know what Dh wants to do. |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 2:31pm
hehehehehehehehehehehehehe   ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 4:18pm
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I wouldn't care for myself personally but for my little sister I didn't want cremation because all I could picture was her beautiful face and body being burnt and it's nice to go to where she was buried and to have a headstone as a memorial ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 6:03pm
But if you dontated your heart it could go on living and loving 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 8:07pm
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Here's another idea. What about being frozen?? Me and DH watched a doco this afternoon on Nat Geo and it was about people being frozen so that when they work out a cure for death they will be able to live again. It cost sh!t loads but people are doing it and in the doco it showed the process of it being done ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 November 2007 at 10:02pm
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I'm not fussed whether I'm cremated or buried, but either way I will have a plot with a headstone, that's really important to me. My grandparents were both cremated and had their ashes scattered and it bothers me that I don't have somewhere to go and visit them. I know it's a metaphorical thing and they're not actually 'there' but just the whole idea of having a 'place' is important to me.
One thing that does upset me is that Willie and the girls will all most likely be buried in the urupa on their marae as is tradition in their family, but I won't be coz I'm not strictly family, but I really want to be with my girls. Not that I couldn't be buried in the urupa, just that my family probably wouldn't be comfortable with it. I'm an organ donor, I'd donate anything and everything they can use coz I have no need for it. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 19 November 2007 at 12:36am
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Im an organ donor too, However apparently if you have it on your licence and then your family say no they wont donate it IYKWIM. Now that is sad! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 19 November 2007 at 7:25am
| hehe this is really gross now that Im older but Ive always been really scared of my mum dying and when I was little I always said that when she died i would have her stuffed and keep her at my house. |