an idea - a restricted section?!
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Topic: an idea - a restricted section?!
Posted By: Bizzy
Subject: an idea - a restricted section?!
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 8:30am
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Okay in light of recent events i would like to suggest a restricted area.
On another board i am on most of it is public but there is a restricted section where members can post about problems or situations they arent comfortable making public, also the photo galleries are private too. I think that it is about time that oh baby looked into something like that considering the rise in numbers recently. It would also be helpful if the restricted section required more than just a certain number of posts be reached. maybe they would have to apply to have access so that the admin could ensure they didnt just spam to get there...?? also making it and the photo gallery come up in active topics for those who can access them would be beneficial and a change to the boards that all members would appreciate. I would also like to say too that this is a public place and if you wouldnt want what you are saying to be overheard say in a cafe or shop then you should be careful about saying it here too. Personal details can be taken from here and used and we should all be aware of that when posting... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 8:33am
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I would love a restricted section!!! I think it would be a great idea!
I'd be happy with a minimum number of posts to access it to. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: KateW
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 8:33am
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Good idea GandT I like the one about restricted areas being in Active topics ------------- ~Our miracle IVF babies~ http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 8:45am
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Yeah great idea, I also think that the members of the restricted area should have their details checked. Perhaps similar to the way that trademe do the address verification....I would be happy to pay the 50c or whatever it is to cover costs. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 8:49am
chat room chat room chat room.....
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 8:53am
Recent events? 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 9:00am
I'm curious too! (nosey lot aren't we???) I can think of one thing that I experienced but I don't know how much public knowledge it is...so maybe there is other stuff happening. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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pepsi wrote:Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 9:05am
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http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12477 - link
see if that helps. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 9:25am
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It would be really nice to at least stop lurkers! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 9:43am
I couldn't agree more - and don't think a restricted area would make any difference though ass it is still a public place ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 10:17am
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A restricted area won't make a difference. The internet is not a secure or private place and you always vulnerable on the internet.
I think this recent event would have happened regardless of whether it was in a public or restricted forum. I am always careful about what I post on here as I am very aware of how easy it is to stalk, for want of a better word, people on the internet. I don't post private information because I know that sooner or later it will get read by a person that I don't want knowing all my personal business. I would suggest that people post with a bit more caution if they are concerned about privacy. I know we are all internet friends but without trying to offend I don't think that means we can put 100% trust in people that we haven't met and become friends with in real life. I hope that people continue to ask for and offer support on here as they have done in the past. |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 10:54am
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I agree. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: SuziE
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 11:16am
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A chat room would be great!
Making another secure section like the photo section perhaps? Its a tricky one aye ..... as people have said even if it is a secure forum you will still get troll accounts and such ... and yes there are bot programmes that just scan message boards for random words ... Maybe a 'Gold' Section ... like someone else suggested .. secure and with information validation something like trademe ... which of course has a membership fee ... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 11:33am
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Ooo I like the idea of the gold member idea Suzi and maybe with that we get a chatroom too.... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 11:38am
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I personally don't see the point of a restricted section. If someone is worried about what they are saying and its personal, then perhaps they shouldn't be posting it or if they really want to then ask someone else to post it for them, giving them somewhat more privacy in a way.
But agree that photo gallery posts should show up in active topics. DH said it wouldn't be hard to do |
Posted By: SuziE
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 11:42am
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Or i suppost if you wanted to post something anonymously you could just make a troll account ...
Admin would love that LOL ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 12:26pm
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 2:43pm
I agree!!  sounds cool.
I also agree that if you dont want anyone to know something personal then dont put it on here BUT sometimes there are people (me included sometimes) that need to vent and have noone else but here where no one (well hardly ever!) will cast judgement.... |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 2:48pm
This is a hard one though isnt it. On one hand its really nice to be able to 'talk' to people on here about things you feel embarassed to talk to friends about and you can ask things without feeling judged or silly, its one of the reasons we join this forum in the first place. I think we just have to be prepared for the fact others can read it. If there was a restricted area where you had to get to say 500 posts before you could go on or optionally pay a fee which would mean your details are checked or something, then by the time you got to 500 posts you would really be part of the wee community that is OB. Like I would hope that if I posted something on here that say someone who has been around forever like Emma/Paws/Daikini/Vanessa (just for example) was worried about, I hope they would come to me first with thier concerns because we have all been around for so long. Does that make sense? |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 5:27pm
Hehehe Gold member hehehe- Austin Powers! He he! Sorry I know this is a serious matter,...but I just had to laugh at that! |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 5:51pm
that is funny tho... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 6:36pm
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*snigger* ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 6:37pm
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Would we need the Golden Key? -------------
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 6:44pm
Yup I get that, but no matter how restricted a certain area of a forum may be or how long a person has been a member for example, if you are posting something personal, people may still react differently to how one might like and not just come to the person directly. That's why I said that there's always the option of asking someone else to post for you to keep some privacy on a touchy subject. I've done that before, still got the responses I was looking for, still got to vent my frustrations etc. |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 6:46pm
hehe I also think that the tech dudes needa sort out the forum probs they have now before giving them something more tricky to do  and it seems fixing the probs with active topics is taking a while so must be a hard one to figure out
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Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 24 November 2007 at 7:27pm
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As I said in another thread, I agree that in using internet forums you are sacrificing some of your privacy - it's the nature of the net and if you're not comfortable with other people reading something then think twice about posting it. We are each responsible for our own safety and privacy.
However, I have often wanted to post something that I am comfortable for the regular Oh Baby community to know/read and give me feedback on, but not felt able to because I know the forum is open to the wider public (including those who aren't even members), so haven't and taken it elsewhere. This is where I reckon a restricted section would be good. Somewhere the regular community can discuss things that we don't want open to the general public/those who aren't actually part of the forum but just browsing or lurking. I don't think it would take away from what is already posted on the forums for people to get info from because it would simply be a way of extending the forum to include an area for the stuff people have refrained from talking about because of the public nature of Oh Baby. The restricted section would add to it. And some people have a higher threshold of what is 'private' and what isn't, so some wouldn't use it at all. And yes, I do realise even with a restricted section we are still open to people to read, but I think it is better than the current system for some things. But again - let the tech guys figure out the active topics problem first because it just happened again and is driving me NUTS! ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 11:22pm
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*bump* just wondering, hoping and praying we can get a restricted section! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: Bumble
Date Posted: 05 January 2008 at 9:01am
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As an idea.. perhaps paying a "subscription fee" to access the restricted section. Means only genuine people will go there..
(If that hasn't already been suggesteed..) ------------- formerly known as "Bee" Ethan ~ March 2003 Big 6 year old school boy! Micah ~ Aug 2008 ~ Smiley pants who loves telephones! |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 05 January 2008 at 10:49am
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I missed this the first time.
if I had somehting that I didn't want the wider community to see, but wanted to get adice froma few long term members, I would use Pm, isn'tthat what it is for? I don't really see the point of a restricted section i guess. Perhaps there could be something done to increase the amount of pm's, as on EBB i have a thread on Pm that I contribute to that is private between about 10 members, so we can talk about whatever we like and we would caht on there like IM / chatroom type thing. -------------  
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 05 January 2008 at 10:55am
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I would HEART a restricted section and think there is a geninue place for one here. It would be a bit like the photo gallery. I mean that is restricted to 100 posts for the exact same reasons a restricted section would be good. Just a little bit more privacy ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 05 January 2008 at 11:01am
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while also enjoying the benefits of a community! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 07 January 2008 at 8:45pm
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I guess I view the photo gallery as a bit of a restricted section... just because it is a "photo gallery" doesn't exclude us posting ranty private(ish) stuff.
If there were rants I might check there more often
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 07 January 2008 at 9:19pm
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LOL Nikki, I could start one just for ya ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 07 January 2008 at 9:25pm
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Oooo, I'm on my way! I'd better not be disappointed! And it better involve a guy. And some action. Perhaps a bit of drugs or alcohol.
Staaaaaarved of excitement I am. |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 07 January 2008 at 9:27pm
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Ooo sounds like you were at mine on the weekend??? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 07 January 2008 at 9:32pm
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Waaaaaaiting.
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 07 January 2008 at 9:34pm
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HAhahaha let me conjure something up without getting myself into too much trouble or starting a riot lol ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 07 January 2008 at 9:34pm
I'm not too worried either way 
I think if anyone is worried something they post may come back to bite them (so to speak) then they should not be posting it. A chat room however will be nice esp if anyone wants/needs to have a little vent ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 07 January 2008 at 10:02pm
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I still like the chat room idea. I know a few years ago when I was on NZWP they had a chat room and it was really good to go in there one night and bitch and complain about my MIL got it all off my chest and it was all gone the next day. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 07 January 2008 at 10:57pm
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Sounds great Becks. We use our NOve thread as a chat room lol ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 07 January 2008 at 10:58pm
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The only problem with that is that it is still there the next day. But I can se you guys do lol. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 07 January 2008 at 11:08pm
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Yeah True lol. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 26 August 2008 at 10:16am
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I knew there was a thread about this somewhere!! I have had a few things I wanted some advice on lately but have not been comfortable posting on the general board. I have also noticed ALOT lately that there are a few threads with a ton of views and very few replies. Are there really that many lurkers on OB? ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 26 August 2008 at 10:18am
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Sometimes I read posts but don't reply because the post was boring, couldn't offer any advice or what I would have said had already been said.
If you wanted some advice on something you could ask someone else to pop it up for you if you wanted to remain anon or do what some others have done and make up a false account for the post |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 26 August 2008 at 11:14am
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The only problem I think with making up an anon name is that when you write about your problem/issue most people will probably aleady kinda know who it is that has posted it. I have seen on another forum that there is the opition to make your post anon which I think is good. I still like the idea of the restricted section and having a post count high enough to enter it and also being vouched for by another member. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: LizzyJ
Date Posted: 26 August 2008 at 1:26pm
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i think that you have to be aware that this is a public forum and treat is as such. Having a senior members only area would not stop the same problem arising, its only really senior members who would have enough info to put together who a person is and where thy live.
I think that if have a senior member forum you may end up splitting oh baby and changing the dynamic of it. Thats just my opinion anyhow. and this is actually my second ohbaby account as my first one dissappeared when my laptop was stolen, and i couldn't log back in. Also be aware that the IRD monitor trade me. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 26 August 2008 at 1:37pm
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I think a restriced section, and a chat room are a good idea. Yea we know this is a public forum, but some of us still need to get things off our chest, to collaborate with others, and to know that there are others out there who have been through what we are going through. I've said some personal things on here and though I believe I'm anonymous in a sense, it would still be reassuring to know that their is that security there. ------------- 
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Posted By: LizzyJ
Date Posted: 26 August 2008 at 1:39pm
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oh i think a chat room is a great idea by the way, just for daily randomings really ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 26 August 2008 at 2:29pm
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wow I missed the whole thing on the "Recent event".
Yes a restricted section would be good...but going back to the "recent event" it could have been any one who is a regular on here and not just a lurker! But I second (or what ever number) re the restricted are or chat room. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 26 August 2008 at 2:49pm
Couldn't agree anymore ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 26 August 2008 at 6:16pm
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Agreed 2, don't see that a restricted section is necessary, depending on what your question is about you can post in any one of the other sections.
There are plenty of alternatives to general. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 26 August 2008 at 11:33pm
Yeah I agree!! I like the idea about having the option to make your post/username anonymous (sp). So that if you have something you need to vent out but dont want to show your normal username you can with some privacy! ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 27 August 2008 at 10:22am
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 10:10pm
Ok, i just found this post as i don't normally look at things outside the preggy section or toddler section. I totally agree with this. i had something similar happen to me on the weekend! Imade a coupl eo fcomments a couple of weeks back that didn't give any personal detail & were very non specific (i'm usually pretty careful with things) and all this was in our Oct 08 thread. well someone came to me on sunday saying a couple of people had tld her i had made comments & they were worried bout my marriage...... Firstly, who the hell? and how'd they figure it was me? secondly, if they were that concerned then why didn't they approach me directly? I guess it really annoyed me coz what i had said wasn't in depth & personal, & was only coz i needed to hear from the ladies that thigns would sort themselves out. i have no other outlet & needed positive reinforcement. iykwim?!?!?? Also, the specific stuff that i did wanna ask someone, WAS done in a PM. that why it's private. but i just don't get how people can take what is on here & tell someone not involved about it? sorry to ramble, but i totally agree with how that chick felt end of last year in "the recent event". yes this is public, but we do come on here to find out what people ae feeling & to provide support for others..... at least that's what i thought this site was designed for. maybe i was wrong & shouldn't come on here at all anymore?????   -------------   
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 10:30pm
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Wow chonny that is bad, I do know the same sort of thing happened about 2 years ago with someone getting the wrong end of the stick. Hopefully you can sort it out and you should be able to feel like we are here to support each other. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 10:34pm
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Big hugs Chonny that is awful ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 29 August 2008 at 12:06pm
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My gosh that's really awful, Chonny. I'd be so angry too!
I hate to say it but I don't know that a restricted section would stop that happening though... because some members who would have access to it would be in contact with other members who maybe didn't, just as friends or whatever, and people talk, well more to the point, they 'gossip'. Also, you never know who else has access to that restricted section anyway - do you really know someone just because you've read a lot of posts from them over time?? Sure, most people are great and would feel like they'd betrayed a confidence if they blabbed something they'd read on here to others, but given how people have been burned like you just were, obviously not everyone gives it the same thought before opening their mouth.  ------------- Andie |
Posted By: catisla
Date Posted: 29 August 2008 at 4:11pm
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that''s terrible Chonny, and as a fellow Oct 08 forum user i too am a bit concerned now about the lurkers (especially re some of the comments i make about my job!).
I know the majority of us on that forum are probably sound, and probably all the frequent posters are legit. If you do want to vent or let off steam in future, feel free to do it in a PM to me  ------------- |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 29 August 2008 at 6:13pm
Sorry to say but you should always be very careful where you post stuff about work. I posted something about work on another forum and someone who I don't know within my organisation tracked me through it. I won't make the same mistake again. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 29 August 2008 at 6:26pm
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I had a similar thing happen Chonny, although, luckily for me it wasn't anything I felt uncomfortable with the person knowing, I felt completely weirded out that they had 'stalked' me on here without saying anything IRL!
I think because we're such a friendly, chatty bunch on here, it lulls us into a false sense of security about who is reading and we forget that there are still lurkers out there who might know us, or who we might not feel comfortable knowing so much about us. I don't think a restricted section is such a good idea though. As others have said, it would just be divisive, and I'm imagining a lot of those spamming number posts so people can get their numbers up ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 29 August 2008 at 9:48pm
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thanks guys, yea i still feel really weird bou tit coz as susie can probably agree, it's ot like i have put full on details about our marriage situation. and i did pm another lady int eh forum to ask advice. but yea, who knows who lurks right? I just find it weird becuase i think of the few people that know me at church & it scares me to think who it could have been. Sadly it meant that at MM yesterday i was uite reserve as i'm almost too scared to talk to ppl IRL now! -------------
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 29 August 2008 at 10:07pm
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Don't be scared of me Chonny! I have noooo idea what/who you are talking about, I barely have time to follow my own threads these days let alone anyone else's so I am blissfully ignorant to what is going on! Sucks that this has happened to you tho
I have to agree with those who have said a restricted section could be divisive, and I don't think it is necessarily any more secure than the general boards as we have neither the time nor the resources to police it so it would still be possible for people to spam to get their post counts up the same way people do to get access to the photo gallery. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: JD
Date Posted: 29 August 2008 at 10:26pm
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Interesting thread...
I have to admit....I am more of a lurker than anything else  I don't post often, because I just don't have as much to say as some of you. I have however given my two cents worth when I think I have something valuable to offer and not just hugs and smiley faces etc (no offence). I have also got some really valuable advice for some of the questions I have posted and also by reading posts which are a similar position to mine.
I am also quite wary about my privacy, so I haven't really posted any pics (apart from a faceless preggy belly) :-) But if anyone is curious, I would happily email :o) + Im not all that computer savy and it seems to take forever and a lot of fiddling around to post pics I really enjoy reading about everyone and feel like I know alot of you well. A restricted section I think would segregate the "community". I do think that some of you should be more careful about what you are writing about though as some has been rather sensitive issues An anon posting would perhaps be an idea also. I also get quite a giggle when the cat fights happen..... Again, without trying to offend anyone, some have needed to 'get a life' outside of cyberspace....it is after all a internet forum where anyone can sign up and participate with their opinions. It is easy to read things out of context on a forum or in an email. It sounds to me like lots of people would like/need a chat room for when they want to "vent" whatever it is thats bothering them. Personally, I would never repeat anything on here (except to DH) because I see it is sort of a 'coffee group' so to speak. I wouldn't do it IRL so why do it here. I actually don't know any of you IRL anyway... Give the 'lurkers' a wee bit of a break. I come on this site at least once a day for a quick peek at whats happening and have got some great ideas, recepies and even purchased a few things of different people on here. Oh and another thing.....I have found that the ones that post alot, seem to get alot more replies on their questions than us lurkers. It seems our unknown names don't attract as many opinions.
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 30 August 2008 at 9:31am
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JD, i totally understand where you coming from. i don't think we are trying to alienate the lurkers, but it's just kind of a bit scary to some of us that's all.
And just wanted to say, the reason i had posted about some stuff, was coz i'm one of these people that actually eneds the hugs & smileys.  It just makes me feel a lil bit better-------------
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 30 August 2008 at 10:07am
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JD - I was a lurker mostly for the first 6 months I was on ohb, so totally understand why people lurk
I agree with you totally that how many responses people get to posts seems to be quite dependant on who is asking something which is really sad. I did a little test for myself and watched some new posts show up one day and guessed how many replies each would get, and I was generally bang on. |
Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 30 August 2008 at 12:49pm
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I was a lurker too, for a long time before I posted, while I was pregnant with DD1. So I have nothing against lurkers. JD, I understand what you're saying about giving them a break.
With the people who post a lot getting more replies to questions than someone who is relatively new, I know it can be a bit off-putting, but I don't think anyone gets no responses (unless no-one has any info or it's a question no-one can answer). I used to be a bit about this exact thing on another forum, but when I brought it up I got a very good perspective on it. A forum is a community and you get out what you put in - I think you'll find that those who post a lot are often the first to answer a newbie's questions, and they have a lot of friends on here so it's only natural that they get more replies than someone who doesn't spend a lot of active time on here.
ETA: What's the 'recent event' that everyone keeps talking about? Can someone PM me and enlighten me? ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: JD
Date Posted: 30 August 2008 at 2:02pm
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Good point on the 'get out what you put in' comment Mazzy. I actually get a lot more out of this site than what I put in, so Im not complaining :o) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 31 August 2008 at 9:22am
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Its not a 'recent event'. This is a old thread that has been dragged up from last year. ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 31 August 2008 at 10:50am
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I think there are a lot of us TTC and waiting to TTC ladies that lurk in the pregnancy/baby/toddler forums. I know I do, because although I don't have any experience or advice to offer in most cases, its kind of a way of finding out what I might be in for later, if you get what I mean? I'm sure I'll post more once I have something to contribute, but I hope people don't mind the lurking in the mean time ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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