got our first marriage counseling session
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Topic: got our first marriage counseling session
Posted By: kellverona
Subject: got our first marriage counseling session
Date Posted: 26 November 2007 at 4:12pm
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tonight... Im pretty nervous actually... I wonder what they do??
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 26 November 2007 at 4:19pm
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oh good luck i hope it works for you all ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 26 November 2007 at 4:23pm
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Good luck, don't be nervous they are there to help. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 26 November 2007 at 4:23pm
i have no idea what they do....probably just sit and talk i guess.....good luck hun!! and good on you both for going ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 26 November 2007 at 7:24pm
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Good luck Kelly, i'm sure it will help you a lot. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 26 November 2007 at 7:26pm
Hope that tonight goes well and helps you guys on the road to getting things back on track.  will be thinking of you and big pat on the back to you both for doing something about it all.------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 26 November 2007 at 8:15pm
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Hope everything goes well tonight I was actually thinking how things were going for you this morning and yay for both of you going and doing something about. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: Faraway
Date Posted: 26 November 2007 at 8:15pm
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Hope tonight went well. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 27 November 2007 at 7:23pm
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How'd it go? -------------  |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 27 November 2007 at 8:08pm
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Hope the counselling was worth while Kelly. Big hugs. Really hope you are able to sort things out between you.
Slightly off topic/ and slightly thread jacking (sorry kel )- has anyone attending a relationship course / couselling or whatever they called, before there is an actually "issue/problem",...like to help open lines of communication etc? Was iy any good etc? Where do u go? TIA |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 27 November 2007 at 8:19pm
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i did it after a problem(his problem not mine..long story) and initially i was quite annoyed that she implied i needed to change a bit too..but she was right i needed to learn to listen more and it really really helped with our communication..our relationship is a million times better...partly due to a fabulous councellor though...
personally i would recommend it before a problem..would have been great for us! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 27 November 2007 at 9:08pm
We had to do pre-martial counselling before our pastor could agree to marry us...he was the one who took us through it. Highly recommend it. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Kellz wrote:Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 27 November 2007 at 10:29pm
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Best of luck for you and your family.... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 9:56am
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Hope it went well, Kellie - good on you for going, too. Sometimes counselling seems to make things feel a bit worse before they get better, so don't kick yourself if that happened, heaps of people find that's how it goes! Kellz, we did pre-marital counselling with our pastor - it was pretty good (though could have gone further, I think). The course was one that heaps of people offer - called "prepare" or something like that - anyway, it's a course designed for couples about to marry who have not yet lived together, and the creators of it also have others for people already married, one for people living together, one for blended families, etc, etc - I think the one for married folk is called "enrich". Maybe a local church would be able to tell you who offers it? ------------- Andie |
Posted By: Bumble
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 10:01am
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Hope it went really well! :hugs: ------------- formerly known as "Bee" Ethan ~ March 2003 Big 6 year old school boy! Micah ~ Aug 2008 ~ Smiley pants who loves telephones! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 11:48am
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How did it go Kellie? ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 1:36pm
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kellz....my Dh isn't really that into the church so our place wasn't church related and was really good..
9and free for 6 sessions) just letting you know there are heaps of options.. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 1:42pm
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cool thanks everyone,...sorry again for thread jacking!
I hope it went well Kellie. |
Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 3:33pm
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Hey everyone.. The session went well until i burst into tears when i had to explain why we were there... Anyway we both feel it went well.. We are going back for a few more sessions and working on a few different goals... First is open communication... and then the trust thing and also Im continuing alone to help with my low self esteem... help me become a sronger person. Hubby and I are feeling alot closer than we have ever felt which feels great... Looking forward to next session in 2 weeks time... Thnaks everyone
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Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 3:34pm
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also we are making an effort now to try and organise some time alone together... Bring the romance back into our relationship/// ------------- http://pregnancyplanet.net/tickers/">
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 3:46pm
That is so awesome  I really hope things keep moving forward in such a positive way.
Yay for you guys!! |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 3:54pm
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Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 5:19pm
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Good for you guys!
So cool to aim to spend time doing things together too -it is so easy to let that all go out the door once you have a baby. Great that it went well. 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 6:20pm
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I'm glad it is going to help you Kellie. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 8:10pm
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Wow that's fantastic, well done! ------------- |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 8:26pm
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I'm glad it went well for you both -------------
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