Christmas blues...
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Topic: Christmas blues...
Posted By: faewie
Subject: Christmas blues...
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 10:20am
sorry guys this is just a wah from me 
i love christmas and love love LOVE splurging on my family but yesterday it dawned on me that i so cant do that this year :( we've just had our phone cut off (i dont know why im still on the net!) it was ridiculously high god knows why, we are still waiting on a huge cheque froma gig my partner did in welly like 3 weeks ago  and i still havent been paid from xmas in the park,,, i tooka week off work pretty much to do it so i would like to get paid. soon, lol. anywho,,, weve been told the cheque will arrive tomorrow but that has to go on the stupid phone bill and i have done no shopping for xmas and we have hardly any gigs for the next month or so,,, its just all getting abit too much. and wouldnt you know it, im having a baby! lol.
again big sorry i just wanted to have a wah. my partner is a sweety and said, at least we've got each other" and i was like, but i promised my lil brother a cell phone! oh dear sorry  ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 10:53am
Hey, it's ok  It all seems to go wrong round this time of the year. Everything will be alright, you just wait and see. If it's any consolation we're having tough times right now too - got a threatening letter from the power company giving us til tomorrow to pay the bill or they'd cut us off. And I won't be able to get any christmas pressies either this year (of course we'll have to find the money for J's kids to get the best of everything.....) And, wouldn't you know it, I'm having a baby too.... Keep smiling Lissel - we can wah together!! ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 11:31am
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Haha I'm the same (except not pregnant!...yet) we have been focusing on slaving away and saving to move and most of our bills are on AP except the phone which I haven't paid for two months - and each month is around $240 coz we have internet, cellphones and landline on one account... the power in this house is shocking and we pay $150 by Ap every month but are in debt to them about $700 in 6 months - and the boss won't get the house looked at (got the house with the job)...
Christmas is a non-event for us this year pretty much... no tree cause we threw it out by accident, arna is the only one getting pressents and my mum and dad are putting the guilt trip on me to spend time with them before we move
WAH WAH WAH WAH WAH ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 12:34pm
Thats the spirit Lena  That's a brilliant WAH WAH WAH!! I forgot to mention I split my favourite pair of trousers today - flashed my undies to the punters on Onehunga Mall this morning. Now I have no preggy pants to wear and no money to buy some more!!!------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 1:07pm
Oh me too  Got the major money blues at the moment. I have just finished getting my parental leave pay so are now down to one wage and Daniel is self-employed so who knows how much we get each month Updated our budget last night and wouldn't you know it, short by about $600 a month! Xmas wise, only buying little pressies for my 6 nieces and nephews. Everyone else is getting a homemade Xmas card with some photos of Hannah. Really want to buy some lovely clothes and things for Hannah. I know she doesnt know whats going on but I still want to buy stuff!
Sorry, this is turning into a real rant! Almost 11 weeks ago my husband was kind enough (or stupid enough!) to lend a friend $3000 for this sound system thing (DJ setup) and they promised we'd get the money the next week. I said at the time it was a bad idea etc, but its a good mate (they were each others best man and stuff) and Daniel is too nice. Anyway, surprise surprise we still havent got it back They are in major financial poos and are really bad with money. Trying to sell some stuff on trade me but nothing selling. I get so mad cos they have a real flash car, SKY and heaps of HP's and stuff but cant sort themselves out to pay us back I got sooo mad the other week when his wife turned up with a new engagement ring (on HP)! ARGH!! Daniel keeps asking him about it and continues to get told that they're working on it and the stuff will sell on TM - but its not. I dont want to be friends with them anymore cos of it And to make it even worse, he is talking about leaving his job where he gets quite well paid to set up himself! I think they need to ask there parents for a loan and I'm sure they would help out, but they dont want them to know how much in the S*@T they are. I just dont know what to do about it - the money was what Daniel puts away for next years tax bill, but we still need that money.
Sorry for rambling on but it just makes me so mad and I worry about it a lot ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 1:39pm
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Aimee rant all you want!! We realised the other day we have 3 fridges and freezers (stand alone ones) so sold one lot on TradeMe - also been selling Arna's old clothes etc. I am stressing cause David said hes getting a bonus from the boss and the farm owner before we leave and we are also getting a loan to move and live before our 1st paycheck (a whole month after we move in!) - But the money isnt in the account so I'm stressing.. and the car broke down on me AGAIN last night - going to cost heaps to get the electrics fixed but it only putts out when it rains...
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 1:45pm
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I hate that we all have stresses right now I'm feeling sad cos we just can't get ahead, and we still pay ginormous child support and Jono still hasn't talked to his ex about cutting it back. Our little bubba is going to have to make do with all old stuff, nothing nice and new at all, and for some reason that makes me really sad We keep getting letters about unpaid bills, and now I ripped my pants and, well I'm just sad ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 1:58pm
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Its things like ripping your pants that just really tops it all off aye. Clare, once bubs is born people will probably buy you lots of lovely nice clothes. I got quite a bit, but still want to buy her things myself. They say money doesnt make you happy?? Well I'd be a lot happier if I had more! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 3:14pm
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I think it was the pants that really did it!! And I so agree - a bit more money would make things much less stressful and you know what, I think Santa needs to bring us all some cash in our stockings!! ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 3:15pm
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aint that the truth about being happier with more $$. I have decided that Christmas is jinxed. My car broke down!!!! Then my washing machine completely crapped out on sat so just in the middle of the laundry and bawled. The only thing i could really do at the time. As for pressies they are getting cheaper by the day. But well ppl just have to understand others situations. I have this crazy Aunty (well i have decided that she is) who doesnt even like me and she always spends heaps on pressies (mind you they are rich as) but i always feel obliged to get them something it drives me nuts. i would prefer she didnt bother as her gifts arent given in the christmas spirit.
Man Aimee i so dont blame you for being mad - i would be sooo M.A.D esp when they have all the luxuries AND a new ring!!!!! I dont know how the wife could look you in the eye with new jewerlly on. Man thats cheeky!!!
That sucks about your pants clare- that really is the sort of theing that sets you off but like aimee said once bubs is born ppl will spoil bubs and hopefully you. i dont usally buy my friends newborn bubs pressies anymore (if i do might be something like cheap little singlets) - i get the mum a pressie. Someting like a nice shower gel and lotion set and gift voucher for glassons or something. I mean she did all the hardwork!!! Anyway Im rambling off the topic again. I hope we all have a great chrissy and get alittle spoilt as we all deserve it  ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 4:22pm
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Yep things are pretty tight here at the moment as well. But at the end of this year my DH will be finished paying off his student loan. So yay we wont be skimping to make it through each month anymore. Also hoping that he will get a bonus to help pay for christmas gifts.
But do you know the good news (I had to share) His work has had a really good year and are letting all the employees choose one of these gifts. A) Acer Desktop PC with 19" LCD Screen B) ASUS A6L Laptop C) DVD Home Theatre System Yamaha Harmony System D) Philips 23" LCD Television includes Philips DVD Recorder E) Samsung 43" Rear Projection Television Includes Philips DVD Player F) $1500 Travel Voucher from House of Travel Includes your choice of either $100 Duty Free voucher or Free cabin bag So generous aye, They are all things that we would never consider splurging out for ourselves so its a real treat. And a real dilemma deciding too! Im letting DH choose as he has done all the work. Cant wait to find out what he decides. Personally i would love the holiday. Ahhh to go back to Raro again. Sorry guys i know this was ment to be a grr things suck thread but i had to share our good news. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 6:18pm
Every black cloud has a silver lining... 
That's what I am hoping ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com">
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Posted By: faewie
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 7:20pm
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im hoping that too!
the child support thing gets me too sometimes. I had to tell my man that while we had the boys, we didnt have to give their ma any $ considering we paid to pick them up AND drop them off ( they live in nelson and us in chch) and its only been the last 2 holidays that that has happened AND that shes paid for half the travel. AAAAAAAAAAAAND the christmas before last my man spent $700 on his 2 sons pressie and he went muh at me for spending around the same on the FIVE people in my family... ARGH! he got over that lol. i just DONT get people who borrow money esp large sums and make no effort at all to pay it back... esp when theyre getting things they dont necesarily need, even a lil a week is good! we borrowed $500 off a really good friend of ours and we're drip feeding it back... im more annoyed with myself for not realising earlier that i wouldnt be able to give my family the xmas i always do... lol anywho! there is a silver lining, that big cheque is being put into my bank tomorrow am and we're getting a gst return too which is nice,,, going to pay the bills... oh but i rant! much love and hugses to everyone!!! wah wah wah!!!!  ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com">
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 7:50pm
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Argh, dont get me started on student loans!! We pretend ours dont even exist!
Ooooh Maria, how exciting - let us know what you get! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 7:53pm
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Forgot to ask Maria, what does your hubby do? Might need to make a career change with people handing out bonuses like that!! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 8:12pm
| i was soooo disappointed for the millenium as I had visions of Y2K bug wiping my loan.....so annoyed when it didnt....sigh. I have to admit, although xmas isn't what we wanted this year, we are doing okay. I'm making all the pressies. For the grandparents I bought cheap serving platters from farmers and some ceramic paint. Jake and I painted them and wrote "from jake" on them. Hopefully they will be appreciated. it was a b$%&ch getting jake to paint on the plates without painting everywhere. |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 8:16pm
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LOl lizzle, I was hoping the same for my student loan as well, its so HUGE.
I hope everyones luck changes, and santa comes to you in some way or form.  ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: faewie
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 8:34pm
lol student loans, mine amount to about $20,000 with nothing to show for it
its kinda like invisible $... lol ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com">
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Posted By: faewie
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 8:36pm
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lizzle those gifts sound like funtimes! lol and lovely one xmas i wasnt as rich as i would have liked to be so i just made things for the family, i did a few artworks and things, they loved them,,, maybe i should get onto that tonight!
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 8:45pm
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I just have to join this ranting session...
Student loan currently at 28,000 with 4 papers still to go to finish postgrad. Had a MASSIVE panick attack at St Lukes today in the middle of KMart in front of everyone, freaked Maya out and ended up looking like a) a real loser and b) a bad mother. Think it was a combination of Maya pushing her luck, and too many people (the mall was manic). Have bought pressies for my family on the credit card with no idea how I am going to pay it back. My Dad has lent me some money too to help bail me out because the bills seem to just keep piling up. On the plus side, the phone and power are still on and paid up to date. On the minus side I am three weeks behind with daycare payments... To top it all off am leaving for Australia on Tues and don't now how I am going to fit all the presents into a suitcase, it's going to be really hot there, and my family drive me nuts (it will be cool tho, seriously!) So there you go, my contribution to the Xmas blues.... But go Maria - oh for Rarotonga! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 9:42pm
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my student loan at $18,800. One partially finished degree and other random sh@t. absolutely nothing to show for it, but a cardigan I still wear that I bought one winter...
Oh Emma you poor chook! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 9:42pm
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My student loan is only about 5,000 (lovely parents), but Daniels is like 40,000! Which is why we dont think about it, on top of mortgage and car loan etc.... Maybe I'll buy a Christmas Eve triple dip just in case ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 9:57pm
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lol at least you still wear your cardi. i really cant think of anything i still use that from my student loan lol.
I am so get a triple dip for xmas too. even if i won $50 id be stoked since its few and far between wins on any tickets i buy which is mybe once every mth or 2 now. ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 15 December 2005 at 11:46pm
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i forgot to pay the land rates and we got penalised 10%.
we paid off hubbys student loan, with my reduncancy and it made me sad. child support sucks tho. preggysunflower i hope they werent new pants that ripped, and dont forget that when bub is born your child support should go down... and xmas is about presence not presents. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 7:28am
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It actually makes pressies a little easier when you have kids i think....everyone's getting pics of jake! I also made last year some Jake calendars, and a dvd with background music of jake's slideshows and stuff. everyone liked them.
Got a lot of Jake's presies through trademe which was great. At present his favourite toy is a hammer and peg thing I got from the craft show for ten dollars...oh and he LOVES the cardboard tube from the wrapping paper. cheap boy! As for student loans....grrrrr. I'm hoping to ignore mine and lewis' and hope the student loan fairy takes them away. I have a degree, a post-grad diploma and hopefully in two years another grad-diploma for it though....and no job heheheheh. Oh sometimes you just have to laugh or you'll break down and cry. ON a happier note, we got our xmas tree yesterday. My mum's partner brought it home. I asked him where he got it from and he said it was better if I didnd't ask....so if anyone near Palmy is suddenly missing a pine tree.... |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 8:03am
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Yeah i think with student loans you either have to attack them hard out or just ignore them. (have they gone intrest free now?)
Rob decided to go hard out on his, which was okay when we were both working. But has been so hard these last 2 and a half years. So its taken us 7 years to pay off about thirty grand plus who knows how much in intrest. Ha ha Liz, when i was a teenager we used to go driving around all the back blocks looking for a nice pine to chop. Its part of the fun. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 8:05am
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Haha Liz for some reason the xmas tree cracked me up!!
David and I are lucky in the sense we don't have a student loan (both left school at 15 / 16!) But we do have the HP's to make up for it ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com">
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 8:07am
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Ohhhhhh so thats where my pine tree got to Liz!!!!!!!!!. ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com"> 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 8:43am
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when i was little we always went to the river bed to get our tree. mum+dad would make it a big deal that we weren't supposed to be taking one from there which made it so much more exciting!
as for student loans.....
i've had mine for 13yrs, being paying it off for 12. it started at $8000 and is now sitting at $6900!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! arrrrrrrggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!! do i have a job from it...no of course not don't be silly!
i think they are going to wipe the interest on student loans but i'm betting is only going to be for loans taken from 2004 or something like that! ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 8:46am
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Aaargh, student loan I don't even want to talk about that!! Yes!! They were new pants. I had the hugest cry on the phone to my mum last night, told her all my woes, and she said when she comes up to Akl (27th Dec) she is taking me to buy some new preggy clothes. She's so lovely to me As for the child support thing - they have a private arrangement so IRD have nothing to do with it and can't enforce less of a payment. But Jono is going to HAVE to reduce his payments, he was paying extra as his son was in full time daycare, but he's been at school since Sept so he no longer needs to be paying so much. I still feel really sad for this baby though... he/she is going to have all the love I can give to it, but not much of anything else. At least we have a nice, warm home, and good car, and people who will love him/her.... ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 10:04am
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clare if the pants were new maybe you could take them back to the store and complain they were faulty, surely it cant have been your fault they ripped... also bummer re the child support, i hope your hubby gets his child support down...(also was he paying for the daycare cause you can claim that back on tax)... luckily babies dont care about money or material things... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 10:12am
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You're sweet I am going to take them back. I'm sure my butt can't have gotten THAT big I feel bad for complaining about material things, things that will get better in time.... I'm just so hormonal right now Everything is upsetting me. ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: faewie
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 10:32am
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aw clare your allowed!!!!! im the same, especially this week, hence the rant thread i started! lol
my partner has a private thingee with his ex too. im just worried about when the boys move up north,,, tim will still want to have them every holidays but it just wont be feasable especially with the baby, but i dont want him to not have the boys because of the baby, just because of how far away they are and its gunna cost heapses until we get a system in place lol(like a boys holiday fund for the airfares ) it'll all work out.
being full time musicians too is a bit of a worry, my man is going to have to work twice as hard... but it can be done! a really good friend of ours supports his family as a full time muso and he is very proud of that fact... and we are too! lol lol re: xmas tree! my ma is getting a tree under simillar circumstances this weekend hehehe shhhhh secret squirrel! ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 11:03am
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I think there is definitely merit in going through IRD for child support payments. Then you don't have to deal with the exs asking for more money etc as the IRD sorts it all out.
I feel for you guys. As for christmas... I can't afford gifts either. But personally I don't mind if people don't give me gifts so I don't think they'll mind if I don't give them anything. I will buy something for Hannah though. I'm looking at buying some baby einstein dvds (though that might be a gift of a bit of peace for me )
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 11:12am
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Hey Nikki, I got my einstein dvds through trademe. Brand new and $10-$15 each. the seller i used was:
flojo1975 she did a "buy now" for $10. It comes in a normal CD case rather than the official one, but hey, for $10 instead of $39-95, I didn't care. |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 4:06pm
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Clare, thats all baby needs But I fully understand about wanting nice things. We didnt know what we were having so I didnt really buy any baby clothes when I could semi afford it. But looking back now I wish i had put away a few $ very week to buy some bigger clothes once we had Hannah, cos now shes outgrown all her presents and needs some. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 8:28pm
We were so seriously poor when we had Maya that our phone got disconnected 2 weeks before she was born, and WINZ had to backpay our rent to Housing NZ or we were going to get evicted. Seriously poor 
But Maya has never wanted for anything - she has always been loved, even if she slept in the cheapest cot we could buy and made do without a lot of the luxuries. I laybyed all of her clothes/blankets/nappies etc. while I was pregnant when Kmart had their 15% off storewide sales. She never had the 'flashest' clothes etc. but she was always clean and tidy and warm enough and that's the most important thing. And now that she is a bit older and we have found our financial feet we can afford to give her a few more luxuries which is nice. And she is happy and healthy - being 'poor' hasn't affected her at all So don't get too down on yourself ladies, your babies will be loved and that's worth more than anything you can buy them! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 8:29pm
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Although in saying that, I still seem to have less money than bills these days... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 8:35pm
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Can i just say guys - that I can sympathise with you all, for the past few years while i have been studying, it has been hard. there were times when i had no money in my purse... EVER, I couldn't even walk past a shop in town and think "hey, I'll go get myself a choccy bar" I couldn't go anywhere, or get anything, we were broke and fought about money constantly. I think also just before baby is born and the first year is always the hardest as you're adjusting and working on one wage and have so much to get, so much to learn and you're realising it's more than just you that you have to provide for now.
Hang in there, even though you don't feel like you'll ever get past it, things get better and life gets (marginally) easier. This year is the first year in a while that me and mike have been able to get each other pressies for birthday xmas and anniversary... usually it's nothing, the day passes and we just make do.. and it doesn't even feel like we are celebrating. And hubby's right, at least you do have each other., it may not feel like much when you are used to big xmases, but really, that's more than some people have. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 8:42pm
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On the subject of student loan - i have stopped looking at my statements, but last time i looked, before the $6,000 ish worth of fees from this year got added to it, it had been about $14,000 - $15,000... seriously don't wanna think about it. ew.
and with clothes... when i was a nanny, and had no kids and hardly any bills, and alot of spending money - i used to bujy a heck of alot of clothes and mike would always say i wasted my money - now i thank god i did, cos otherwise i would be naked .... most of my clothes are AT LEAST 4 or 5 years old. a fair few tops and jeans of mine i remember buying with my xmas money when i was 16 and 17 years old... that's nearly 8 years old! ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 9:48pm
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ooh can I add to the child support rant. Let me start off by saying first, like Claire, I don't begrudge my stepson ANYTHING.
We have a private arrangment as well, and we also pay halves for clothes etc, which can be hard when teenager and his mother buy $60 tee shirts etc. Anyhoo, XMAS child support rant. Ex rings up a few weeks ago, saying shes sending no 1 to oz for 5 weeks over the school hols with his cuz. We don't have to stump up half the airfares, but we do have to provide spending money, and still pay support for him while away. My rant is, just how much money does a 13yr old need? I know xmas isn't about spending money, like Deb said, presence not presants but I was told $50 MAX for jake (I know hes only wee, and dosent need much) and nothing for each other to accomodate for this extra money we are forking out as well as the $400 school fees for next year that arrive next week. GGGRRRRRRRRRRRRR
Yay for trade me though, I got heaps for my $50! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 9:50pm
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ew a friend of ours opened up his telecom business phone/internet bill for last month and saw $13,000.00 YES $13,000.00!!!!!!!!!!!!! He owns a car yard and has broadband and sum sneaky so and so hacked into his broadband connection and went nuts on it.It all happened while Rob wasnt even at work too.Hows that for sucky sucky wah!!!!! ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com">
Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days) |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 9:54pm
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oooh bummer!!! Tell him you can get telecom to put an 0900 toll bar on the broardband connection and get them to call you when international calls have been made. Also u can get email alerts for usage. We had this problem, someone hacks into your system (usually happens if u have a file share programme) and makes international calls thru your connection. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 16 December 2005 at 9:56pm
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Freaky... Though out phone bill was bad ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com">
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Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 17 December 2005 at 12:41am
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I am a bit like you all, Wanted this big christmas for Bailey being his first and all.. but we cant afford it! last year we brought for most of his family, this year they are just getting a personalised calender with photos of bailey and me and a friend did some baking, we made - sugar cookies, truffles, coconut ice, florentines, chocolate spoons(half dip spoons in chocolate, then when they stir there coffee the chocolate will melt)and white christmas It wasnt that expensive either as there were 4 of us so we all brought different ingredients and we all got a mixture to take home (and quite a lot too) I thik I spend about $20.00 in total on that, and about $100.00 on the calenders.
As for Baileys pressents we didnt get him much, a book, a couple of toys which a couple of them were from trademe. As for student loans mine was 27,000.00 last time I looked and it rising more and more each year cause of the bloody interest!!! GRRRR |
Posted By: faewie
Date Posted: 17 December 2005 at 11:15am
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when i came back from the idol wild card show, our car was in the shop my partner had been in an accident months before (he was okay thank GOD), and was about to be repo'd, but the day i got back our pa(Music equiptment) was repo'd and i just knew i was preggers too. that music gear was our livelyhood, we were at the lowest of the low, but i got positive, put aside the fact that i may be preggers for 2 weeks (lol) and got our PA back. we've been at the bottom now and theres no going back... thats what keeps me going thru the hard times, i wont go back to that. then i had a preggers test and was so so happy that i was guna be a mama!
we had a hacker get into our internet and our bill was like $1000's, the phone peeps were really good and halved the bill for us, it was still huge but they didnt have to do that. they put a toll bar thingee on the internet... on a brighter note, i woke up with $1000 in my bank today! lol, thats from the function that timmy played at in welly 3 weeks ago,,, i think most of that will be going on mr phone bill! ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com">
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 17 December 2005 at 11:56am
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 17 December 2005 at 4:08pm
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ive found since ive had caitlyn that layby is really one of the best inventions out lol
your kids and family will appreciate what ever they get,there are some who get much less....i used to get so wrapped up in the presents that i forgot to relax and enjoy the day for what it is -a day off work to spend with the ones u care about....and then 4 years ago my friends mum,pregnant sister,brother in law and 6year old niece were killed in a car accident on christmas eve-and that put it in perspective for me Hope everyone has a better christmas than they think they will and that everything works out for everyone |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 19 December 2005 at 11:29am
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Like other people have said all you really need to have for a lovely christmas is a happy, healthy, loving family and although we don't have much money this year either I am looking forward to our first christmas with our beautiful baby boy very much!
Like Trish we decided to do the homemade thing and give peple photos and footprints of Joey in a lovely frame (50% off all picture frames at Briscoes over the weekend!!) and I did lots of yummy baking to give as pressies too. As for Joey, we haven't got him anything yet as we know he will get pressies from everyone else and will wait and see. Then get him something after Christmas when the money isn't quite as tight. He doesn't care this year anyway, he seems happy enough gazing at our tiny tree ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 19 December 2005 at 11:53am
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I'm going to make sweets for pressies this year. Jono and I won't be getting pressies for each other this year but thats ok. Will be nice seeing his kids opening theirs. ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 19 December 2005 at 12:22pm
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Willie and I had a portrait of us taken by Patrick Bellett which is costing us $2100, so we are paying it off at some ungodly amount each week and that is our Xmas present to each other. So not cheap, but something our children can treasure forever.
We don't buy each other birthday pressies tho. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 19 December 2005 at 2:06pm
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We did that a while back Emma - in our lounge we have a big black and white picture of me and mike, (Pre-kiddies) and have pics of paris either side - Ayja should be there but we haven't had the $$$ to get any done of her yet. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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