so not fair
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Forum Name: Life After Miscarriage
Forum Description: Up to one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet for many the loss of a pregnancy is isolating and lonely. Share your thoughts and feelings here with others who have experienced loss.
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Topic: so not fair
Posted By: Kazzle
Subject: so not fair
Date Posted: 12 December 2007 at 7:25am
Okay so here i am 15mths and 3 miscarriages, and i have just found out my brothers girlfriend is 5 wks pregnant, she fell pregnant 1 wk after her miscarriage...I know i should be happy for them, especially since i can understand their pain, but i am so so so jealous...it just seems so unfair. 
I know in a couple of days i will be happy for them but right now as much as i want to be happy for them i cant, and i feel so guilty and mean about that ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 12 December 2007 at 7:33am
 I kind of know that feeling, we had been trying for months and then my SIL rang and told me she was 9 weeks pregnant and was happily telling me about how it had happened the first month she came off the pill etc etc. I was happy for them but at the same time I felt like it was unfair and I felt bad that I wasn't entirely happy for them.
I think they are normal feelings to have and you have recognised them so I'm sure you will work through them. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 December 2007 at 7:38am
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Are you going to be talking with your gp about the 3m/c Kaz? -------------  |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 12 December 2007 at 7:50am
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hugs to you kazzle..i know how that feels too.. i always put on a front in front of the person who got pregnant but it took me a long time to be happy genuinely for her:( ! and the one who was 5 weeks ahead of me at work when i had the miscarriage:(!! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 12 December 2007 at 8:02am
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hey busymum, i have a scan tomorrow on my uterus and kidneys to make sure they are all in working order, and on the 20th i have an appointment with the hospital specialist to follow up all the bloods and tests they have done, and to get all my results so will let her know then....so my christmas present will hopefully be finding out why i can get pregnant but not stay pregnant, and then hopefully they will have a solution ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 12 December 2007 at 8:34am
I know that feeling  A friend of mine is pregnant now and is due when I thought I would have been too.. turns out I had a late period but I thought I was preg at the time. It is hard every time I see her and she only talks about her pregnancy. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 12 December 2007 at 9:37am
goodluck with your appointments kaz, i really hope you get an answer, thinking of you xoxox it isnt easy when your trying and having trouble and people around get pregnant so easy so what your feeling is normal you have been through a lot this year ttc.
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