Dummies
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Topic: Dummies
Posted By: Rachael21
Subject: Dummies
Date Posted: 15 December 2007 at 8:50pm
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Ok Jack didn't have his dummy while he was sick for the 2 days so I thought that could be the end of dums. But then tonight (about 3 days since dums was last used) he was asking for it and has been really upset looking for it. Up until this point I haven't mentioned it at all so what should I say? Should I try and distract him or explain that he doesn't need them, or should I pull them back out and say goodbye properly?
Also how long until hes forgotten about them? There is a wee part of me that feels so mean and think I should give in and give him his dums and let him choose when its time to give up. Argghh somebody tell me what to do I feel like either way I'll scar him for life |
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 15 December 2007 at 8:54pm
| no idea. we really had lost Jake and Taine's dummies whe they weened themselves and espcially in Jake's case, we had nothing else we could give them. so they went cold turkey and didn't really care too much. Not sure what you should do, but keeping it from him certianly won't scar him for life, and he probabloy won't even remember it in a months time. |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 15 December 2007 at 8:56pm
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I suspect it will take him a week to forget... when did you want to wean him off it? Now is definitely a possibility. Does he have any other usual bedtime thing, eg teddy bear - for comfort? I suspect if you ride through 2 nights, you'll be ok. -------------  |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 15 December 2007 at 9:01pm
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IT took Hannah a full week before she seemed to forget about her dummy. I guess now is as good a time as any. Maybe not if he's still a bit off colour tho. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 15 December 2007 at 9:11pm
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Hmmm a hard one. I don't know either. He has done well not having it for a few nights so you are possibly halfway there??? I guess I would probably see how upset he gets. If he is totally distressed and you are not bothered if he has it for longer maybe give it back???? I really don't know though. Ollie has one and I have no idea how we will get rid of it.
Good luck. |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 15 December 2007 at 9:16pm
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I had no real plan as to when we would get rid of it and he falls asleep all the time without it anyway. I've given him all these toys and a ball in his bed but he still kept asking. I left him to it and within 10 mins he was asleep which is about the same as with dums so we might leave it.
I can't help but feel terrible, his wee eyes would roll back in his head when he had dums lol I think I might get him something special as a replacement so he still has something to love. |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 15 December 2007 at 9:20pm
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I would say we lost it... he would understand or say hes a big boy now and big boys don't have dummies. my kids were around Jacks age when i took their off him (maybe a few months younger) Rhyley still has one, I know hes not ready to give it up but he only has it at bedtime (sleep time) or if hes really grumpy and upset. ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 15 December 2007 at 9:23pm
Well done Jack!  ------------- |
Posted By: mamawendz
Date Posted: 18 December 2007 at 12:22pm
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This was a big thing for us too.
Maddisyn didn't use a dummy, but Layla-Mei did and we only just weaned her off last month. Layla-Mei is 17 months now and we felt it was time for her to give up the dummy. During the day she was fine, never asked for it. But at night I felt terrible. She cried and cried and always asked for it, but I just told her "no more, its okay, you're such a good girl!" and cuddled her until she would fall asleep. Thankfully by sticking to our guns, it only lasted 3 nights until she learned that she just wasn't going to get it. After the third night she would still ask for it but wouldn't cry when she didn't get it, only a moan. It took about another week for her to completely forget about it and not want it anymore, then we gave her a lovely soft toy "Mr Monkey" which she adores and that is her bed-time friend now. You just have to stick to it. You feel so mean at first, but once its over, its over, and its worth it! :o) Be strong... you can do it. ------------- mama_wendz My Girls: Maddisyn Tylr & Layla-Mei Virginia
My Baby Boy: Noah Aotearoa
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 20 December 2007 at 11:00pm
Its gone yay been a week now  He never had a word for it so I suspect he asked for it but i just pretended I didn't know what he was saying.
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 21 December 2007 at 8:44am
Awesome!! Well done Rach  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 27 December 2007 at 7:24pm
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Hmmmm I really should start doing this too with Blake......... -------------  
 
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