What do I tell Quinn??
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Topic: What do I tell Quinn??
Posted By: Anna
Subject: What do I tell Quinn??
Date Posted: 19 December 2007 at 9:17pm
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Quinn got a beautiful kitten for his birthday six months ago, his name was Marcellus (named by Q!) and he was full of personality. He thought he was a dog, he'd play fetch!
My neighbour has just knocked on my door to tell me that his dog has mauled our cat and now Marcellus is dead. I am so upset. He was such a cool cat! What do I tell Quinn? I can't imagine breaking his little heart! I need some serious help before breakfast tomorrow! PLEASE HELP ME!!! ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 19 December 2007 at 9:23pm
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Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 19 December 2007 at 9:33pm
We lost one of our kittens a couple of months ago - big hugs 
Sorry no ideas otherwise of how to break it to Quinn.  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 19 December 2007 at 9:41pm
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OHhhh that's so sad, and so trickey, I'll have to think about this one... Um.. are you going to report the dog to the SPCA? ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 19 December 2007 at 9:42pm
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So sorry you guys are having to deal with this. Our ten year old cat and Alyssa's best friend got run over earlier this year. We had him wrapped up in a blanket and i let the kids pat him (i guess you wont be able to do that if your little guy is badly mauled) and say what ever they wanted to say to him. Explained what had happened. and got them to put anything they wanted in his little grave. Very very sad time. Alyssa was really wanting another cat straight away i think she thought it would help or something but we refused to get one. I think honesty is the best way to go ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 19 December 2007 at 9:52pm
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OMG i'm so sorry hun!!!! what a terrible shock for you
i'm sorry i have no advice for you but i hope quinn handles it ok (and yourself) ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 19 December 2007 at 10:20pm
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OH NO! I'm so sad and sorry too.
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 19 December 2007 at 10:24pm
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Just put it to him in a nice way. That kitty was hurt and he is going to a nice place now, to be with other kittens in heaven (if you believe in this).
I'm really sorry that you both have to go through this ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 19 December 2007 at 11:54pm
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oh thats awful chick! my friends cat was killed the same way.
I would just say it like meow said big hugs , to you and your little man
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 20 December 2007 at 6:36am
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Thanks ladies! I am dreading him waking up now!!!
I'm still a bit stuck, he's a bit of a sensitive one. Once I told him that we have to wear sunscreen outside cause the sun can burn us, then he wouldn't go outside ever unless he had sunscreen on cause he didn't want to get hurt. I do nto want to tell him that the cat was killed by a dog, I don't want him to be scared of dogs! I still am unsure of what I will say to him, Andy is at work again so I think i'll tackle this one solo! .Mel, I do not think i need to call the spca. My neighbour was miserable when he told me, he said he'd phoned animal control to come and get the dog. The told him that it was his choice as to if he wanted the dog destroyed but catching cats or chickens for example is instinctual for dogs, doesn't mean he is dangerous for people. And I don't want him put down, I don't think it is right that his family loses their pet too. ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 20 December 2007 at 7:42am
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I'd be inclined to say that the cat was in an accident and leave it at that - hopefully he's not too inquisitive?? lol
you'll have to be careful saying an accident - hurt - died... then next time he scrapes his knee he'll think he's hurt and going to die   -------------  |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 20 December 2007 at 8:01am
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Oh Anna I really feel for you we lost our 12 year old cat to a dog when I was 14 I was so gutted. I guess telling him the truth is better, but yeah I think thersa is right don't tell him it was a dog. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 20 December 2007 at 8:25am
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oh that is so so sad for you all, this close to christmas! about 3 years ago we had the same thing happen, my furbaby sambo was killed. what was worse for us was it was our dog that killed him. up till then the two of them got on really well, even used to snuggle up and sleep together. we were devestated as you can imagine. we took the dog to the vet, and a dog behavioural consultant, and asked the questions, ie WHY did he do that. they both told us that it was our decision, but the fact he had attacked his *own* cat made them very worried that he would be aggressive in other ways. if we did keep him we would never be able to let him be around the kids, and would have so many restrictions on him. the vet said if it had been a stray cat on the property or like you, the neighbours cat, they wouldnt worry so much, as it is in a dogs nature to do that. we made the decision to have our dog put down, was very hard but i would do it again if i had to, my kids come first.
it really was a case of wrong place at the wrong time for marcellus, poor wee kitty. i hope you manage to talk it through to quinn ok. Xanthe was about his age when we had to tell her that her kitten was run over, and she coped really well. having a place to visit in the garden helped. ------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe - my big 4 year old
and Jordis - 1 year old 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 20 December 2007 at 9:18am
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Anna! I hope it went/is going okay with Quinn xxxx ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 20 December 2007 at 10:00am
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Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear this Anna, I hope it went ok with Quinn this morning ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 20 December 2007 at 10:32am
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how sad.... :( what an awful thing to happen.
Our kitten ran away, we told our daughter this and she seemed to have coped really well. she thinks she ran away because i put her outside too much. maybe just tell him that the neighbour had knocked on the door to tell you that marcellus has had an accident and had to go up to heaven? ------------- Mummy to two beauties... Formerly Kaiz. |
Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 20 December 2007 at 4:16pm
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Phew... thanks for all the advice! I really needed some help here!
Bit of an anti climax really... I told Quinn that there was an accident and marcellus had to go to heaven to be with grandad. He asked what happened? I blatantly lied and said it was a car (i figure there's a bonus lesson in there to be careful of cars!). He asked whos car? Me: I don't know Him: What colour was it (!?!) Again: I don't know. Him: That's ok, I want summa apple now. Hmmmm... so he really doesn't get it. And I am dreading the questions that will surely follow as to why he hasn't come home. But we are having chips in the park for dinner and so far everything seems ok. Sending Andy off to bury poor kitten tonight. Now hating neighbours dog... ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 20 December 2007 at 5:54pm
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you might not think he has taken it in too much, but he will have. just be prepared to answer questions over the next wee while, that will seem like they come out of the blue to you! having dealt with a grandparent who has died he probably has an understanding of heaven already. ------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe - my big 4 year old
and Jordis - 1 year old
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 20 December 2007 at 8:28pm
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Argh Lyla! I now know what you mean...
Right before bedtime I fielded all sorts of questions that I was not expecting (well, I was but just not yet!?)... Blubbered my eyes out too! Quinn seems to be ok. This is one bit of parenting that I did not sign up for!! ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 21 December 2007 at 12:12am
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