I lost the baby
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Topic: I lost the baby
Posted By: Maya
Subject: I lost the baby
Date Posted: 31 December 2005 at 3:51pm
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I sterted spotting this morning, and went to the doctors. The ultrasound shows a gestational sac only 4w6days which is smaller than it should be, and fluid around my ovaries. They told me to come back in a few days to repeat the ultrasound and see if baby is growing, but it looks like he/she stopped growing a few days ago.
I also had my hCg levels checked, and will get the results later today or first thing tomorrow, but the bleeding is quite heavy now so I supsect that the test will just confirm the obvious. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 31 December 2005 at 3:58pm
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Maya i dont know what to say except i am so sorry for your loss.....this must be a really difficult time for u and i wont give u any of the "u can try again" speeches etc cos i know it wont bring ur baby back....my thoughts are with u chick *big hugs*
But let us know when u know for sure a? |
Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 31 December 2005 at 4:03pm
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ohh Maya Im sorry to hear about your loss :( My thoughts are with you and your family
Trish |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 31 December 2005 at 4:33pm
 Oh Emma I am so sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you too ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 31 December 2005 at 5:09pm
 Emma, I wish I was there so I could give you a big hug. Im so sorry for your loss. Im sending lots of love your way.------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 31 December 2005 at 5:16pm
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Oh Emma! I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss!
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Posted By: Alan Mum
Date Posted: 31 December 2005 at 8:41pm
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oh Emma I am so sorry to hear about your loss take care of yourself . ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: lou
Date Posted: 01 January 2006 at 7:25am
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My thoughts are with you - make sure you take care of yourself ------------- Mother to two beautiful children - Sophie age 6 and Ephraim age 4 |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 01 January 2006 at 8:39am
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send you and your family lots of love and support, my thoughts are with you at this time. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 01 January 2006 at 10:52am
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Sorry to hear this Emma, that is so sad. Lots of hugs to you all, we'll be thinking of you. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 01 January 2006 at 12:00pm
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Oh Emma, I am so sorry. This is such sad news, I hope that you are being well looked after. You are in our thoughts. ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 01 January 2006 at 1:51pm
Emma i am so sorry to hear if you need to chat u can talk to me  my thoughts are with you and your family *hugs*
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 01 January 2006 at 3:37pm
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you know where i am if you want to talk... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 01 January 2006 at 5:47pm
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Emma I am soooo sorry to hear your sad news and shed a few tears for you. Big hugs to you from us ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 02 January 2006 at 12:55pm
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Oh Emma, thats such awful news. Hope you are doing ok. We are all here for you & I'm sure you are spending a lot of time with family. Big hugs
------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 02 January 2006 at 2:13pm
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I'm really sorry to hear that, I know words cannot make it easier so just know that my thoughts are with you. *hug* ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 02 January 2006 at 3:28pm
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i am so soo sorry to hear about your loss (lots of hugs)
------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 02 January 2006 at 9:40pm
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Oh Emma. So so sorry to hear about your loss. Lots of love and hugs
xoxoxox |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 02 January 2006 at 10:10pm
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Emma, I too am so sorry. My thoughts are with you. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 January 2006 at 3:20pm
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Thank you everyone for your support. I had a D & C last night at Royal North Shore Hospital here in Sydney. The doctor told me that it is the safest way to ensure that we are able to fall pregnant again soon, and it also gives me some closure knowing that baby is actually gone. They have been really good about letting me keep 'baby' too, so we are able to bring him/her home and bury him/her in the same spot where we buried Maya's placenta. Its apparantly an unusual request for them here, in NZ it is commonplace, so the doctors did think I was a little strange, but they were very respectful of our wishes.
I am now undecided whether or not to cut our plans short and come home in a couple of days, or wait till 15th like planned. On teh one hand I really believe that this is something Willie and I need to work thru together, and so I should go home, but on the other hand it is 3 weeks till Maya starts back at daycare, so I will just be sitting at home feeling miserable, and making her miserable too, and Mum and Dad have booked an apartment for next week on the Central Coast and I'm sure Maya would enjoy that a lot more. PLus I have great supportive friends up there who will look after me. So I haven't decided yet. I wish Willie would come here, but this place already holds bad memories for him (his first wife died here) so he isn't keen on coming back again under bad circumstances either. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 03 January 2006 at 4:50pm
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Im glad the docs were respectful of your wishes.
Go where you feel you will have the most support. Is it possible or do you want to leave Maya in Australia for a couple of weeks so you can come back to NZ for just some you and Willie Time? Thinking of you, and Im glad that the bush fires didnt get to you! ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 03 January 2006 at 6:40pm
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please just do what u feel is right for u and maya (big hugs) ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 04 January 2006 at 8:35am
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Emma, I am really sad to hear your news. I hope you are doing ok. Take care, and big hugs to you.
Clare ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 05 January 2006 at 5:27pm
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Ohhh, Emma! I read one of your other posts somewhere else, and was so excited for you I went looking for your "official" announcement so I could congratulate you. When I saw this one, I cried.
You, Willie and Maya are in my prayers (but especially you). ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 05 January 2006 at 9:19pm
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I was reading a post and noticed that you didn't have your baby due message in your sig anymore, so came looking here for answers.
I'm so, so sorry.. I can't imagine how it must feel, but take heart in that everything happens for a reason. *big hugs* p.s I'm not sure what you should do about being in Australia, but your parents will help look after Maya if you stay.. but like you, I'd want to be with my s/o too  hope you figure things out soon!------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 06 January 2006 at 7:41pm
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Oh Emma, I'm so sorry to hear your news. We are all thinking of you. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Dashone
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 2:18pm
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Im So Sorry to hear that. I Know just how you feel. Before this pregnancy i had a missed miscarriage. I still remember seeing my baby on the ultrasound and there was no heart beat.
Big Hugs -------------  
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Posted By: carissah
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 4:53pm
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 8:39pm
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Thanks It is getting easier as time goe by, although in the beginning I thought it never would. And being home in NZ is really healing too, seeing Willie and being in my own house again. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: faewie
Date Posted: 18 January 2006 at 1:51pm
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aw emma, i am so sorry.
sending big soul hugs your way. glad your home :) ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 26 January 2006 at 6:31am
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Emma I'm so sorry, It breaks your heart when you see that scan and then find they have gone. the best advice I can give you is talk about it, that was a baby and no matter how small you,willie and maya have suffered a loss. I reckon having bubs back really helps as it's quite healing. Thinking about you! ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: 1ontheway
Date Posted: 13 February 2006 at 1:59pm
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IM SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR LOSS, I HAVE BEEN THROUGH IT MYSELF, I WAS 13WKS WHEN IT HAPPENED, SO I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH, BUT REST ASHORE THINGS DO HAPPEN FOR A REASON EVEN WHEN IT SEEMS THAT THE WORLD HATES YOU. IN TIME YOU WILL MEND THINGS WILL GET BETTER AND YOU MAY END UP WITH A LITTLE BUNDLE AGAIN MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 13 February 2006 at 7:27pm
| Thats really sad Emma, Im sorry to hear you lost your baby. Whenever I hear things like this it reminds me of when I lost our twins at 10 weeks. For ages I felt like I had to justify why I was so upset when I was only 10 weeks but in the end I thought no matter how far along I was they were still my babies and part of our future. I buried them with a rose and now think of them whenever I see it. Our baby is due 3 days before the twins were due which was not at all planned but kind of nice. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 13 February 2006 at 11:31pm
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Thanks We are planning to bury bubs on Willie's family land up at Helensville, I'm not quite ready yet tho. Soon, but not yet. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 14 February 2006 at 6:46am
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It takes time emma, you will know when you are ready and when you do you will find a lot of comfort in doing so. I brought a tiny little chest for our little might and it took me months before i could even bring myself to look at it. Then one day i was just ready to say goodbye. You never ever forget but on the whole it does get easier. And now you have this whole other thing to deal with as well. Look after yourself and remember to talk when you need to. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 14 February 2006 at 12:24pm
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Oh Emma....So sorry to hear about your loss (I never use to log on....so I am sooo behind). Dont know what to say??? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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