Does everyone else around you seem to....
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Topic: Does everyone else around you seem to....
Posted By: kobec
Subject: Does everyone else around you seem to....
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 9:54am
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get pregnant the first month they tried, or just by not taking pill a couple of days!!! I don't want to seem horrible to those people out there reading this in that situation but I am getting obsessed with TTC that I am on this website several times a day. Which does remind me that there are plenty out there struggling like us. So I will just shut-up now!!! Sorrrrrrry. Just think all you ladies how wonderful it would be to get pregnant by surprise. Oh well maybe next time.
Anyway sorry for rambling. Just taken DH's 'sample' to the lab before our specialist appt on the 9th Jan. So hopefully that will bring us some good news. Hope Janurary is a good month for you all |
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 9:59am
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That is totally and utterly normal to feel like that. I am one of thoe people that has gotten pregnant very easily but my body is very random with PCOS and endo. I have a friend who is now on to her 5th year of TTC for her first with no luck at all, and I know she would be a great mum. Good luck for your appointment next week. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 10:29am
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I'm sure those feelings are normal, and I'm sure its only how it seems.
I've had a number of friends that have taken a while to get pregnant or had a mc and then conceived. I guess its a subject that doesn't get talked about much. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: kobec
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 11:11am
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Oh mummybecks I feel for your friend having being ttc for 5 years. And here I am moaning about us ttc for 1 year. Now I feel stink!!! Yeah i guess it dosent get talked about much. Thats why this site is so great cause you know that there are actually heaps of us going thru it. And I guess we feel more comfortable talking about it when we know people are in the same boat. Oh well jsut waiting for a friend to turn up for coffee who took 3 years to get her darling little girl! Can't wait to have a wee cuddle.
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Posted By: kobec
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 12:45pm
| LOL bellababysmum. I am just imagining you driving with your sample. That just cracked me up reading that. Thanks for cheering me up!! |
Posted By: kobec
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 1:25pm
 Yes that would have been an interesting story! I am sure the cops wouldn't have heard that one before. hehehe
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 1:37pm
It DOES happen! The gremlins were 12 months and 14 cycles of TTC including a m/c and I was starting to think it was never going to happen, had started having fertility testing done. Then this time round we were a bit lax with contraception based on how long the gremlins took to conceive, and I swear we only had sex ONCE so you can imagine my shock at finding out we are pregnant! Hang in there, it WILL happen for you one way or another! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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kobec wrote:Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 4:29pm
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dont worry kobec - I sometimes feel the same way (actually a lot of the time). I'm probably more annoyed at myself though, as I was one of those people who got pregnant first time 'trying' (although we weren't looking at ovulation etc - we just didn't use protection), but then I miscarried and here I am, still trying. My GP told me she will get me a referral to a specialist if I'm not pg by February, so hoping that next month is my lucky month! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 8:20am
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Aww hun, I know its hard, and its really hard when you have friends who fall pregnant an dont even want kids and then smoke and drink throughout their pregnancies like they dont care!
Its took DF and I about 3 months to conceive the first time and a "friend" had fallen pregnant just before me, then I lost my baby and she continued with her pregnancy while smoking etc and it made me so mad cos Id done everything right! Then we tried again and after a few cycles fell pregnant with this one. My friends baby was about 8 or 9 weeks early...I sometimes wonder why...drinks and smoking maybe? Her little lungs wernt developed properly and she was in an incubator for weeks. ------------- |
Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 10:08am
I totally understand your pain Kobec. It seemed like everyone we knew got pregnant the first month! It took us 5 years, 3 miscarriages and 2 surgerys!
The thing I hated the most was the people that would tell us to hurry up and have kids. We got this alot from my brother and brother in law who both have kids themselves and their wives/girlfriends never had any problems! It's not like we weren't trying!!! Chin up, I am a firm believer that it will happen when it is supposed to. We now have a gorgeous girl as proof of that  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 11:07am
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It is funny you say that S, M and I were talking last night about how we are pleased we fell pregnant when we did, as any other time would have been a different egg and sperm and Jack is just perfect! ------------- "> 
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Posted By: kobec
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 4:18pm
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Yeah thats so true. People keep asking when 'is it time for number 2 yet' and because you don't really want to broadcast every detail of your private life to EVERYONE I just ususally say 'yep maybe someday'. I really feel so much for you mum2sam and all you other ladies out there who have had miscarrages as I can't even imagine how tough that must be!! Oh well I got out in the beautiful sun for the day today and feel heaps better. It's amazing just to be distracted even if it is just for a few hours aye - just enjoying the little darling that I do have.
Hope everyone had a good day. |
Posted By: honeybun
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 5:21pm
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Kobec I am where you are, people always asking when are you having #2. I have a gorgeous 4yr old girl and I KNOW how blessed I am to have her but it doesn't diminish the feelings of wanting another baby. It feels just like the two yrs it took to get pregnant with her (the wondering and waiting you don't forget even though you have a child) but now it has been over two yrs again trying and still I'm not pregnant so I truly understand how you feel, some days are just hard. Just remember you are not alone. ------------- Mum to a gorgeous 5yr old girl and a beautiful baby boy. |
Posted By: kobec
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 8:29pm
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Thanks honeybun for that. I guess people just don't think before they ask aye??? I tell you what - this experience has taught me to not ask those sorts of questions because you just never know what situation people are in.
Just a question to all - do anyone know if you have a laparoscopy for endometrosis, does it grow back over time. Just wondering if this is the case with us. Will ask the specialist next week but just thought I would see if anyone has had that experience. 
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 12:06am
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Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 8:57am
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The bad news is that yes it can grow back over time. Once you are diagnosed with Endo chances are you will be in for more than 1 surgery.
Good news is that if you can get PG then the symptoms go away for a while  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kobec
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 10:46am
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Oh well if it takes more surgery to get pg then 'bring it on' I say. Stink public holiday cause I can't get thru to dr's surgery to get DH's test results back. Will have to wait untill tomorrow. Never mind. Hope everyone has the day off and enjoys it.
Plus up to cd21 with still no ovulation!!! Come on now ovaries get working!!! |
Posted By: kobec
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 10:48am
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Wow I haven't heard of the barriers thing for endo. Will add it to my list of things to ask the specialist. Thanks bellababysmum.
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Posted By: kobec
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 1:28pm
Well just got my DH's sperm test results bac and they are not good. Apparently greater than 20 million is normal. My DH's are less than 1 million!!!!!!! DH is a painter and mostly sprays the houses and it is soooo bad for him. All the chemicals going thru his system. I knew the results wouldn't be that great but wasn't expecting them to be that bad. So pretty much no chance of any swimmers getting thru. Oh yeah and the motility is below normal as well. I wish DH had got tested when we started TTC as I feel like we have just wasted a whole year. any way enough moaning from me how is everyone else!!
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Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 1:31pm
| I know of a house painter who has six children so dont lose hope |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 1:57pm
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Hugs Kobec! Do you know where to from here? Is there achance of doing IUI or are you looking at having to do IVF? ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: kobec
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 2:48pm
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Thanks Maya. I have to do a day 23 blood test tomorrow to see if I have ovulated as they seem to think that I may not be (of just not that often). Then we are seeing the specialist next wednesday and I guess she will tell us what our options are. Last time we ttc it took 1.5 years to concieve our little girl who's now 2. I had a laparoscopy for endo and I got pregnant the following month - just 1 week before our first appt at the fertility flinic in hamilton. So really I am not sure what they will suggest. I guess it depends on my test results now.
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Posted By: honeybun
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 4:55pm
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Kobec best of luck for your appointment next wednesday and you receive some much needed hope. ------------- Mum to a gorgeous 5yr old girl and a beautiful baby boy. |