Random Acts of Kindness
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Topic: Random Acts of Kindness
Posted By: mummy_becks
Subject: Random Acts of Kindness
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 1:19pm
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So what do we want to set the rules at? I was thinking a post count, say you have to have 150 posts to join, and be a regular member. I don't mind collating the addresses and having them for people to ask for them. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 1:21pm
LOL I just posted a reply on the addicted list  -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 1:29pm
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A Koha Tree type thing would be great!!
I'm thinking same as we have somewhere else...have 2 people who have met you in real life to vouch for you...I think that would be acheiveable for most... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 1:56pm
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I like that idea paws, especially after the post RachandJack about lurkers on other sites. I am happy to vouch for you too Paws! ------------- "> 
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 1:57pm
Im confused! -------------  
 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 2:07pm
| me to! but im in |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 2:08pm
Yeah well that's my reasoning behind it!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Sarah Beth wrote:Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 2:24pm
| also slightly confused. count me in though. |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 2:36pm
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No idea what your on about, but I think I qualify. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 3:48pm
Can we go with 1 person only to vouch? I never seem to make the get togethers but Emma hopefully remembers meeting me at Sylvia Park. I have also met Bombshell and GandT but neiter are around any more 
Can I join please  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 4:20pm
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I am liking that idea Paws, so that can be a rule as well as the post count. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 4:30pm
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Sounds like a good idea.
Does anyone remember me from the waikato meet up ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 7:34pm
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Good idea! I think I have met more than enough members to qualify!! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 7:42pm
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COunt me in please ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 7:57pm
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I'm in great idea. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 8:28pm
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I'm in, agree with the conditions (2 people met IRL to vouch for you and the post minimum) because personal details are being given out. Wouldn't be comfortable adding my details if there weren't those sort of measures in place. ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 8:33pm
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Maybe write up a type of explanation of the purpose of the ROA list, just to set out that it's about giving and bringing joy to people's lives, doesn't have to be for any particular reason, just to share some kindness (but much better worded than that!). Good on you for taking this on Becks, it's a great idea!
------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 8:44pm
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OK i'm happy to collate the address, just PM me them. I'll check the post count and if I don't know you personally i'll ask you to people to vouch for you. Once I have a decent list I will post the list of people are in and then i'll ask Emma really nicely to sticky that post. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 9:21pm
Just cause I've met some of you, doesn't mean you'll vouch for me, you might all secretly think I'm a weirdo. 
You'll have to explain how it works, given recent events over the last few weeks, I'm a bit reluctant to give out my address. Not that anyone is likely to set foot in Feilding. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 10:15pm
| So how does it all work exactly? |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 8:19am
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hehe Pepsi I was thinking the same lol ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 9:41am
Pick me pick me!! I will be in feilding on the 19th my friend lives there oh yeah and so does my Mother. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 9:42am
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I think to start with it is very important everyone get's the idea that this is not about recieveing the last thing we need is a repeat of secrect santa. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 9:57am
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I'm in!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 10:02am
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and I will vouch for you too Stezza!
It still disgusts me that some people didn't send Santa presents. ------------- ">
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 10:11am
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Thanks SB!
It's not nice is it! I think we should bombard the people that missed out with SS pressies to cheer them up ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 11:12am
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OK its the randomness of kindness. Its giving something to someone but not expecting something in return. I won't be giving out anyones address to just anyone as you have to be a part of the group to give and receive. The security of it is that you are a regular member have a decent post count and that other people actually know you. I would not give anyones addy out to a newbie who asks for an address the day they join. So... those that want to join add your name to here, as the list grows I will ask for people to vouch for them (that they are who they say they are ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 11:12am
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Fluery i'm in Feilding every week ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 11:45am
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I already pm'd but I think it is a fab idea and love to give, I truly believe in paying it forward and blessing others, it does wonders for the soul ------------- 
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Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 11:51am
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Not sure if I said, but I will take part ------------- ">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 3:34pm
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And feel free to PM your addy if you want to. As I get them I can get people to vouch for you. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 4:21pm
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yep i,m in ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 5:02pm
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OK the ones that have said i'm in can you PM your addy and people who can vouch for you please. I've started my list as I have had a few people give me their addy's already. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 8:06pm
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I don't think you can have the people themselves saying that others can vouch for them, as what if the "vouchers" didn't actually feel that person was trustworthy?
You really have to have the vouches come from the vouchers, not the vouchee. (haha way to confuse ya!) |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 8:07pm
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Ah crap. I read your post wrong.
But again, just because someone has met someone, doesn't mean they would necessarily vouch for them ya know? |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 8:10pm
| Isn't it just to say they are who they say they are and not some weird old man? |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 8:13pm
Well, yes... but it's also to vouch that the person is trustworthy - I think there is a difference between knowing someone is who they say they are and whether you would trust them to have access to everyone's addresses. (Not that there is anyone currently on the board like that!) But to use your example of the girl from the other board, she'd met people... but still turned out to be dodgy. |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 8:31pm
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I get what you mean Nikki. I have had a few PM's from people and they have given me a list of people that could vouch for them. I have sent a PM to 2 of those people asking them if they are who they say they are and do they vouch for them. And there are those people that I know personally who I will be able to vouch for as not being dodgy. I'm pretty sure that the people in the Tree will be regular members that a few different people would of met. And at the end of the day if I don't feel right giving an addy out I wouldn't give it out; but I would have to have a damn good reason not to as the people in the tree would of been vouched for already by 2 other members. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 8:43pm
Adding on to this, vouching for someone brings with it a bit of responsibility - you wouldn't want to vouch for someone and then have them turn out to be dodgy or use the information in the wrong way. So people need to think about who they are vouching for before confirming it. Nikki makes a good point. I'm just thinking the people I've said have met me and may be able to vouch, I've only met once and briefly (been crap at getting to the meet ups), so I would totally understand if they didn't feel comfortable vouching for me . It would be different if I had met someone a couple of times or had a lot to do with them. Likewise, I'm not sure I would vouch for the people I have met off here, having only met them fleetingly and definitely not enough to say 'yes, I know this person well enough to vouch that they are completely trustworthy'. ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 12:37am
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Ekk I hope someone vouches for me. I wont ask anyone as Nikki said some may not feel comfortable. SO please someone vouch for me!!! FOr everyone I have meet, I have found honest so Im happy to vouch for others as well...althou that Emma...... hahahaha ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 10:17am
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Or how about this, when you PM me your address you can vouch for a couple of people that I may not know. Once the list is almost completed i'll put out a list of people that still need to be vouched for??? ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 10:51am
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I may sound synical (sp??) but 150 posts isn't that hard to get up to. Most of the people who will go for this will be 'old and regular' members so why not maake it like 1000 posts or 500 posts - something substanial that you know they are addicted to ohbaby and not just spamming. ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 12:23pm
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I'm happy with 500, if others are?? ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 12:48pm
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OK so just colating the rules to join.
How do they sound?? As an explanation of it: It is the paying forward, random gifts of kindness. You should not expect that if you send something thing you will receive something back. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 1:30pm
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sounds all good to me -------------
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 1:40pm
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That all sounds good to me too!
So...do we start pm'ing you? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 2:02pm
| sounds good to me. did you get my pm with my address? Those i vouched for are those that i have meet on a number of occassions and not just associated with OB so I know they can be trusted. |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 2:46pm
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From now, i've already had a few PM's. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 3:48pm
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So will you post list of the peole who are involved so we know who we can send stuff too. Oh and I think it is impotrant that we let you know when and who we have sent to that way it is being kept track. cause when I send something I want to be able to do it in secrect as in not using my addy. Cause I don't want to be getting credit if that makes scence I would rather people not know it was me. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 4:34pm
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OK more details please.
What kinda things do you do/send? Is there a time frame or is it random throughout the year? Do you have to buy/send something or can it be a donation of your time/help etc - i guess that takes out the randomness. I have seen the movie, but not sure how it translates into real life. Will someone vouch for me, pretty please I've been good so far this year.------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 4:45pm
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Its an all year round thing, i;m sure we will do secret santa again this year but this is on top of that. It will also be the people in the tree sending things to others in the tree. Anything and everything you want to send to someone. It could be that you have a heap of Treasures discount vouchers that you know you would use, but someone else in the Tree will be able to use them. I did one late last year to Sarah Beth. I had a heap of nappies that I knew I would not use on Josh and Jack is around the same age as Josh so I got her address and sent the up to her to use for Jack. And I know there have been more. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 5:15pm
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Ooo I want to join in too! I have lots of things that my gigantababy has gotten too big for that need a home.
I can vouch for a few people too |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 5:41pm
I think that is a great idea if you are in a postion to help ie in same way. I don't think nessarilly has to be something you buy. Like Beck's said just sending some of you left over nap's etc can really make someone's day. Maybe you ahve a hobby or you have talent in well pretty much anything I think the idea is to use what you have as well as buying the odd gift to bless someone else just cause you can it does the heart good to give. I love giving away stuff or getting something I know someone will really like.------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 6:06pm
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Yep Deb you hit the nail on the head there. So just PM your addy to me if you want to join and who you want to vouch for. I'll give it a couple of weeks before I post the list of us in it (as some people may be on holiday at the moment), but if you want to send something and you know the person is in the Tree I can give you an address. Those that have said they are in I may PM you for your addy so I can get the list started. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 6:11pm
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sounds good to me too ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 8:38pm
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ummm still deciding Its not that I don't want to give people something - cause i so do like playing it forward.. ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 8:40pm
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You have heaps of time to join don't worry, even after the list has been done people can still join. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 8:45pm
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how are the addresses kept? are there a list of eveeryones addresses or do you keep hold of them becks?? ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 8:49pm
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A state of confusing Ann lol ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 8:50pm
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OMG what a fob. Let me rephase that. A state of confusion Ann?? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 8:53pm
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I'll hold on to them for now. I have a spreadsheet set up with them all on it at the moment as i'm making sure that I get everyone and that they are vouched for. If someone wants an address they can PM me for it. I may if I need to get someone to help me if it becomes a huge job and for those times that I will be away, and also if someone wants to send something to me. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 8:55pm
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WHat happens if we want to send something to someone not on the list? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 9:04pm
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Good question. May have to go back to the getting their address from someone that knows them??? ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 9:06pm
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Or maybe someone can be the designated "stalker" and if someone isnt on the lis we can pm the stalker who can in turn pm the recipient and ask if they are willing to give their addy this way it is all confidental. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 9:33pm
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I don't want to sound like a bi*ch but... I have been speaking with a couple of people and even thou we want to have all this security in getting into the tree the whole point is its the giving not receiving, as an example someone on the TTC boards may want to join and someone may want to send her a few POAS tests but she doesn't have the 500 posts but does know others on here so has every right to join. We don't want this to turn into high school were its just the "popular" people doing it all. And we need to realise that its the giving not receiving that is the main thing. So if you are paranoid about giving your address out then don't join. And please don't moan that you haven't received anything if you join. Coz its not the receiving that matters - like secret santa where everyone gives and receives. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 9:35pm
Well said ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 9:36pm
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Fair enough Becks. Sounds GREAT to me ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 9:41pm
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So 150 posts is the min to join, you need to be known by someone else on the forum and be a regular member. So i'm going to advertise on the other forums to let the other know about it as there are some in the TTC and pregnancy threads that don't come into the general threads all that much. But that'll be tomorrows job as i'm going to have a bath now ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 9:47pm
| Good plan thank you for doing this for us, its a really nice idea. |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 9:50pm
| Good work Becks. |
Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 9:54pm
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Well done becs and if you need a hand I can help ya -------------
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 9:23am
Well said I think if you don't want to give your adress and still want to send something there is no reason why you can't just ask for the person's address no one said you have to give your's if that makes scense. I personally not too worried either way cause like Beck's said giving not the recieving so if you happy just to give then don't give your address etc. It does not have to be uch a huge drama. Beck's it is a fanrastic idea you are doing an awsome job if I lived closer I would be all in there helping you. . Maybe if it makes other's more comfortable that once you have used that address you then get rid of it that way no random are jsut storing a whole lot of address unless they have a good memory. If you need it again you can jsut Pm to get it.------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 7:55pm
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Just because I was the parniod one - explaining myself seems to be in order....
There are some people I would hate to get hold of my details and because i don't know everyones 'real' identity on here its best if i did not join. I have my reasons and although as you said its giving not receiveing there is still that possibility that some one does get my address - for dodgie reasons. If I can join without giving my details so that if I want to pass it forward and people are happy to give their addy i will...
call me paraniod but 'anyone' I mean 'anyone' could behind a log in... (i don;t mean the ones I have met ofcause) ------------- Ann
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 7:58pm
I never emplied it had to be the 'popular' people getting in - more the people who are genuinly dedicated to this site and spent the time to get to know people on here, hence the 500 posts ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 8:30pm
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It doesn't take much to reach 500 posts either. I've managed 800 without much of an effort.
I don't care about being a recipient, but would like to be able to help others if I see a need. So yeah happy to be added to the list, but I don't need anything for myself. I get more satisfaction out of helping others. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 8:51pm
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I get what you both are saying so what about anyone can join but you have to have "x" amount of posts to be given an address?? ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 9:01pm
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becks as I said if you want to keep what you have already said thats cool - I will join just dn't give my addy - as i would like to give sometime - not bothered about receiving at all.. I'd be happy with a nice pm if someone really wanted to!
LOL after all this there might be no one to vouch for me LOL ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 9:05pm
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AnnC who?? Baby called Rhyley?? Nah isnt ringing any bells....... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 9:10pm
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lol kels... ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 10:00pm
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The two people who could "vouch" for me very very rarely post anymore....
And as for secret santa where "everyone" recives... 
Anyhow, I would be keen, I guess. Pay it forward and all that! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 9:18am
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 1:08pm
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This is a great idea! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
 
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Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 2:50pm
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Given it is about the giving not receiving I don't think a star system is necessary or a dollar amount, however perhaps those that do receive something just note it on a post somewhere so the sender knows it was received ------------- ">
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 3:13pm
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The basic idea of a koha tree is random gifting to someone for no particular reason...the one I'm a part of doesn't have any monetary limits or anything like that...nor is it a pay it forward thing...just because you have been koha'd doesn't mean you have to be the next person to send someone something.
I presumed that was how we were doing this one? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 3:33pm
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I figure who cares who gets more, as it is the giving not receiving that is important. ------------- ">
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 4:00pm
Ditto. I've only ever received one gift from the other Koha Tree I'm part of but I don't really mind, it's not the point of it. Fair enough though if people don't want to participate for that reason... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 4:06pm
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Thus far I've decided I'm not going to join for various reasons but I may change my mind later.
I did however just want to say that although 150 posts may not seem like much, it actually took me a good six months to reach that number of posts. It was only once I got pregnant that my post count went up so much. So although some people may not have a high post count it doesn't mean they haven't been around for a while/aren't trustworthy/don't know people on here etc. I still got to know many people on here before I hit 150 posts and I'm sure there are many others who are the same. |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 4:11pm
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I've never won any popularity contests, and don't care if I don't.
I just want to be able to help out if I can. Wow Stacey I must be less of a lurker than I thought as I've managed to chalk up 800 posts in less than a year. How does the Koha Tree work Paws? What do you do to belong? I feel safer being part of a group thing IYKWIM ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 4:32pm
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Ok just so im on the right track its not like we have to buy things right? I thought the idea was if you have spare nappies, clothes whatever you could send them to someone who needs them, or if you see someone is having a hard time, rough day etc... you may want to cheer them up so send them a little something and by giving our address's it basically just gives us a database so we know where to send it without having to get sneaky ourselves and try to track down the address somehow or ruining what might have been a surprise by having to ask the recipient for her address.
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 4:35pm
That was how I thought it worked. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 4:55pm
That's pretty much how they work...you can buy someone something if you want to...or as you say you might have spare clothes or nappies to send them, you might want to make someone something to cheer them up if you are crafty. It's not about buying presents...it's about doing something nice for someone just becuase you can. And yes effectively the Koha Tree gives a database of who belongs and who is trustworthy to be given personal information such as your home address. On the one I belong to we have done a thread answering questions of what we like, allergies, kids clothing sizes etc...but it is only there as guideline if someone needs it...NOT a request list! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 6:14pm
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Thanks Paw you have pretty much answered those questions. I also see it as, you know its someone babies birthday coming up so you want to send them a birthday card. I have also received a PM from someone about it and I totally agree with them, if you don't join by giving your address then you can't get someone else's. If you don't feel safe giving your address to me coz you don't know me ask someone who may know me to vouch that I am who I say I am. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 6:16pm
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I am too trustworthy! I didn't even bat an eyelid at giving you my address Becks! ------------- ">
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 6:18pm
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my take is you don't have to give nor should you expect to receive just cause you have given. Its because you want to not cause you have to and infact sometimes there might be no giving nor recieving in the koha tree... just there if you one day wanna do something its there to get the info so you can be anonomous.... ------------- Ann
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 6:59pm
Nicely put! 
And that is the other point of the Koha Tree..it's not there to get brownie points or whatever for giving...the anonymous gifts are the best I think. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 8:09pm
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oh glad i was thinking right paws ------------- Ann
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 05 January 2008 at 9:09am
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Well if other people feel that way then maybe this isn't the sort of forum that can do a Koha Tree...once again...reciving is not what it is about...and if people are going to feel unpopular or neglected for not receiving something then they have not joined in the spirit with which the Tree works.
I for one would opt out if rules were put in place about how much should be spent and that everyone has to recieve something. That's just me. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 05 January 2008 at 10:02am
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Im with you paws. It not about receiving and I for one am not joining hoping to get anything. If someone did receive an expensive gift and posted a thankyou I would be in there saying how cool, or if another received 4 in one week then I would be saying the exact some thing. Its the gift of giving whether it be a second hand pair of sock for someone littlie or a fancy face cream for a very cool mum! Koha is a gift of money value, support value or love. It cannot be priced nor compared to the koha for another.
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 05 January 2008 at 10:05am
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Getting back to the tree, Im very excited Becks and hoping the list isnt taking you too long to do. If you need any help just let me know.
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 05 January 2008 at 11:08am
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ok so i've just come back from holiday and found this thread.....
i'd love to join, do i just pm you becks? in my opinion, random acts of kindness are just that. you see someone is having a tough time and want to do something nice to perk them up, that's it....nothing needs to be sent in return, no 'credit' given to anyone for it, just knowing you made someone smile. i don't care if there's a limit on price, i know what i can spend on these things and that's it. i also don't care if i don't get a pressie, that's not what it's about. so, have the 'rules' been determined yet?  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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