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Topic: Letter from my dad
Posted By: Maya
Subject: Letter from my dad
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 1:30pm
My dad is a man of few words when it comes to emotional stuff, he's always upfront about the negative stuff but doesn't often praise the positives. He
s also a big letter writer, in the past when we've been having issues with our relationship (and believe me, we've had issues!) he would often write to me and tell me how he was feeling. Usually it was about how he was disappointed with some of the decisions I've made, how I can do so much better with my life etc. etc.

I've also often said that just once in my life I'd like to be able to say to my parents "I'm pregnant" and have them say congratulations instead of "you've ruined your life" (Maya) "what the hell are you doing having another baby?" (our angel) "they'll be a noose round your neck" (the gremlins). So you can understand me being very apprehensive about telling dad about this baby given that the circumstances are less than ideal.

So I finally told him when I was 10 weeks, mostly coz he was about to come to NZ and I wouldn't be able to hide the vomiting etc. from him, and on the plane on the way over he wrote me a letter. Yesterday (my birthday) he gave it to me. I was nervous to read it coz I knew it was going to tell me how much harder my life was going to be with four kids, how useless Willie is etc. etc.

So you can imagine my surprise when I read how proud of me he is, how excited he is about baby #4, how lucky he thinks I am to have been blessed with 3 and a bit beautiful children, and how much joy my kids have brought them, and how proud he is of me for finishing uni and balancing work with the kids etc. It made me cry!

It means so much to me to know that he is proud of me, for all the problems we've had in our relationship it's the only thing I've ever wanted and the one thing I thought I'd never get.



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Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)



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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 1:39pm
Oh yay. That is so good to hear. I have been wondering what your dad would do/say this time. Im so pleased to hear that he has finally come around. And lets face it he always loves them and spoils them rotten once they arrive

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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 1:57pm
Thats cool ....How neat and must have made you feel super!!! Thats awesome babe!



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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 2:08pm
that is so sweet. something for you to cherish forever


Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 2:14pm
That's great, it's so nice to have your parents acceptance

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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 2:20pm
Oh geez, you've just made Stoney Heart cry. (What the freak is with me lately?!?!)

I'm really glad he could come out and say it Emma. That's really great and it's all true!!!


Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 2:26pm
I am so happy for you that you have received something you have so desperately wanted, which you will treasure forever, and which has made you so happy

(Nikki - Not baking another devil child?? )

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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 2:46pm
Originally posted by ginger ginger wrote:

(Nikki - Not baking another devil child?? )


No chance of that! Thank goodness. (Sorry for threadjack Emma!)


Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 2:54pm
I was just gonna ask her the same thing ginger!


Oh emma, thats awesome, im so glad for you :-)what a great way to start the new year


Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 3:39pm
That's so cool, so glad for you

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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 4:14pm

That is so cool Emma. I love it when my dad sends me thinks like that too.



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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 6:54pm
Wow I'm so pleased to hear that! I bet you tell yourself enough of the negatives yourself lol. My parents are super-traditional and I think they think I'm a bit of a rebel

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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 7:13pm

Go Emma's Dad. I defintely saw the love he had for his granddaughters when I was there. Thats so neat Ems



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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 7:27pm
Oh Emma, thats great to hear.

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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 7:52pm
Thats really cool it brought tears to my eyes to

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Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 8:29pm
That's so cool Emma, yay for your dad to put his heart on paper like that.

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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 9:23pm
Awww! That is really cool Emma, and so special to get it on your birthday too.

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Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 9:42pm
or touched my heart too, glad that he was able to write you such a lovely letter and that the cringing turn to joy for you

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Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 12:28am
And it touched my heart too


Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 9:59am

Awww that's so incredibly sweet!  Yay, Emma - big yay for your Dad... awesome stuff. 



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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 4:45pm
thats sooo cool emma

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Posted By: Bumble
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 5:37pm
awwww so sweet of your dad to say that.

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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 02 January 2008 at 9:55am
Yay DAD!!!

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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 05 January 2008 at 11:27am
awwwwwww

i've got tears in my eyes now too......what a special thing to have from your dad, a treasure to keep for sure

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