Lonely:(
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Topic: Lonely:(
Posted By: kellverona
Subject: Lonely:(
Date Posted: 09 January 2006 at 5:46pm
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Im only 6 weeks pregnant. My fiance and I had just moved to Papamoa and he works full time and I stay at home. I dont know anyone. Cant find a job because of being pregnant, and getting very depressed. Anyone have any ideas on what I can do? My dreams have all come true. I met a fantastic guy, having a baby, live in a nice home near the beach... Im just missin some friends. I lived in Australia for 8 years so most of my friends are over there. Its so hard not having a close friend whom I can talk to, meet up with, do stuff. Anyway, thanks for taking the time to read this and hope someone can come up with some ideas for me. Happy New Year all. take care.Replies:
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 09 January 2006 at 7:34pm
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hi kellverona! Sorry to here you're feeling so blue. It can be pretty rough justy moving, let alone going through baby and stuff. Maybe join an ante-natal group. you could try and meet others also pregnant and then you (hopefully) can get together after the kids are born too.
Or you can just come on Ohbaby all the time like the rest of us! |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 09 January 2006 at 8:50pm
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Heya Kellie!
Feel free to waste away your time on here! All the rest of us do it 
I come on here as I don't have many (any.. oh actually one) mummy friends, being so young, but have made plenty of mummy mates on here! Huge amount of support and good for a laugh 
I'll bump up our introduction page so you can figure out who we all are. 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 09 January 2006 at 9:36pm
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Yep, antenatal (and ohbaby of course) are probably best ways of finding new friends. Have found that I get on best with other mums cos my other friends dont seem to understand what its all about!
And welcome Kellie! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 7:52am
| Aimee, isn't it great being able to rabbit on about baby stuff without people trying to change the subject! My pre-baby friends just aren't as interested in jake's bowel movements as they could be!! |
Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 7:52am
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Hiya Kellie!! It is so rough moving to a new place. I moved to Sydney a while back knowing no one, it was so hard to meet people, the only thing that I found to help was to talk to absolutely everyone you meet and being pregnant and then having a baby is an excellent starting point of conversation! OhBaby is fab for meeting brilliant ladies or even try jumping on treasures.co.nz, there are heaps of people on there and there are bound to be people in your area! Hope it all gets easier! ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 8:35am
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pmsl Liz!! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 8:37am
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Hi Kellie! I moved to NZ from Germany when I was 10 weeks pregnant and didn't know anyone either so I know how you feel. I have to say Oh Baby and the internet helped so much! I met people online and then later in perosn and it was great. I also met people at our antenatal class. It's not easy but I decided noone was going to come and "find" me so I had to get out there!!
Hope to see more of you on here! Ana ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 8:53am
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Ana, I didn't know you were German!! I lived in Hamburg for a year when I was a teenager, and have been back a few times over the years. I love Germany. Don't love the weather tho I have to say Jeesh, I've become a soft Jafa!!! ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 9:25am
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Hi Kellie, welcome to Oh Baby.
My sister-in-law lives in Tauranga, and she told me there's some great antenatal groups around, so maybe when you sign up for classes (if you decide to) you can meet some mums that way. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 9:52am
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also if you are only newly pregnant maybe a part time job, or temping. or a volunteer job.
and if you are near the beach, head down there and start up conversations with people, maybe those with young kids.. oh heres an idea - you could do babysitting, then you could meet other mums and maybe even have babysitters in return for when it is your turn. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 10:48am
| We always found that when we were in Japan, going to the park was a great way to meet mums. Even when you are pregnant, reading a magazine or something. Often people (or kids) will come up to you and strike up a conversation. jake would often "visit" homeless drunk dodgy men in the park. I don't recommend that, but you can see it could work |
Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 1:17pm
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Hi, Thanks everyone for all your ideas. Seems like there are alot of nice people out there. Thanks!!
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 1:18pm
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You have plenty of time to get a job yet! I was studying for part of my pregnancy and then did temping for a while, until I was about 37 weeks.
All of the ideas here are great, there are tons of ways to meet people, maybe try and join a mothers coffee group or contact Plunket? Good luck :) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 5:59pm
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Hey i had the same problem and i did a computer course at polytech and met heaps of nice ppl and learnt stuff too ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
www.jackkeith.blogspot.com |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 6:20pm
Clare - I was born there but we moved to NZ when I was 3 years old. I went back for a holiday when I finished Uni end of '99 (aaarrgh how old do I feel) and met my hubby. Ended up staying for 5 years in which time I pretty much lost contact with everyone here almost and the people I still know have no partners let alone babies!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 7:41pm
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He he Ana - I finished high school at the end of '99!! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 7:49pm
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How old are you Aimee? I finished in 2001
I'm 21 ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 7:52pm
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Im 23. Will be 24 in March ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 10 January 2006 at 9:32pm
| nevermind Ana, I should've finished uni in 1999 if that helps. |
Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 11 January 2006 at 8:29am
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Well, I finished Uni in 95!! Jeesh, I think I may be the grandma of Oh Baby!!!! ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: lou
Date Posted: 11 January 2006 at 8:39am
I finished uni at the end of 99 too, though then decided to do a year of teacher training ------------- Mother to two beautiful children - Sophie age 6 and Ephraim age 4 |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 11 January 2006 at 9:31am
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hee hee uni whats that?? ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 11 January 2006 at 9:44am
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It's this place you go when you want to get yourself into HUGE debt and learn how to drink beer ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 11 January 2006 at 10:35am
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or in my case, end up pregnant
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 11 January 2006 at 10:49am
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Whew dosent sound like i missed out on much did all 3 and didnt go. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 11 January 2006 at 5:27pm
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Me too Nikki!! Yay!!
Am finally going back beginning semester one this year! I cannot wait!! ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 11 January 2006 at 9:16pm
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lol Maria, uni is definitely overrated in that respect!
Anna - Yay! Something to focus on other than the child. I am going insane at the moment, can't wait to get my brain back in action for fear of it shrinking away
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 12 January 2006 at 7:03am
| My course starts in Feb and am a little nervous...I've studied for a while so should be okay, but not sure about the big juggle of kids, family and studies. Oh well, only two years and then i will be a qualified teacher....hmmmm, do i really wanna teach high school kids??? |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 12 January 2006 at 9:40am
hmmmm teaching high school kids.....that thought would scare the sh*t out of me! 
but i'm sure you'll be fine  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: lou
Date Posted: 12 January 2006 at 9:44am
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I'm a high school teacher - well as least trained as one. 6 months was enough for me. I think if I go back teaching I'm going to try and get a job teaching special needs - so much easier lol ------------- Mother to two beautiful children - Sophie age 6 and Ephraim age 4 |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 12 January 2006 at 12:12pm
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LOL Are they that bad Lou! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: lou
Date Posted: 12 January 2006 at 3:54pm
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not all - half of it is the age, self centered, unappreciating, and lacking respect. my our kids never be like that ------------- Mother to two beautiful children - Sophie age 6 and Ephraim age 4 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 12 January 2006 at 10:20pm
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Aww I'd like to teach high school kids.
I'm forever an optimist and would like to think I could inspire them to follow their dreams! (Not by example of course. Being a single teenage mum should never be part of the plan )
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 12 January 2006 at 10:23pm
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aaah Dead Poets Society Nikki??
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 12 January 2006 at 10:47pm
| Oh yes, I wish I was Robin Williams! |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 13 January 2006 at 7:32am
| Hairy back and everything!! |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 13 January 2006 at 9:53am
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I'm sure Zeke would be delighted if Nikki suddenly morphed into Robin Williams! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 13 January 2006 at 4:24pm
| I do wonder sometimes... |