My new man
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Topic: My new man
Posted By: mamanee
Subject: My new man
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 1:02pm
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So after months of breaking up, making up, moving out, getting back together only to break up again and again, I finally called it quits with Sam's dad.
He pressured me and pressured me to move out with Sam who was then 4 months old, because he needed space and didn't think we had a future. So I did, I moved out, I found my own place, I pay my own bills and I do my own thing. Five weeks after I moved out he decided that he really did want to be with me and that I should give up my flat and get my bond back because he could really do with the money!! Err no!! He wanted to still be together which was not really ok for me because who wants to be with someone who comes over for half an hour to play with the baby and then go home again. And he wouldn't stay the night here so I was forever packing up all of Sam's overnight stuff and having to walk around there to stay the night. Well a couple of weeks ago I had the worst stomach bug ever, Sam was just getting over it, but I was really bad. I was vomitting and all the rest and running off to the toilet every five minutes. Sam's dad slept in till after lunch time, got up and lay down on the couch and left Sam to crawl around and get into everything, and his place isn't exactly baby friendly. Anyway, I had to do everything, I was tired and sick and he did nothing, so I suggested we go to the mall and get a drink, thinking that maybe it would make me feel better. It didn't, I was really unwell so I asked if we could go home. Well. He got sh*tty and annoyed with me (wtf?!) and literally took me back to my place, dumped me on the doorstep with the baby and then took off. Nevermind that all of Sam's stuff was around at his place (bottles, formula, wipes). My neighbour actually came out and took Sam into her place so that I could go and vomit and have a drink of water. She wanted to yell at him too! He eventually dropped everything off but didn't even talk to Sam or say goodbye to him. At this stage I said to him 'This is it, I told you if it came to this again, it would be the LAST time', and he wouldn't look at me or speak to me, then he proceeded to ignore me for EIGHT days straight! No calls, no texts, didn't ask after Sam, didn't bother to see if I was ok. I tried to get hold of him in the beginning of the eight days, but he totally ignored me so I assumed it was over. Anyway, he showed up eight days later, unannounced, no text beforehand only to find that my friend Gavin was here. He stormed off, didn't even come in and see Sam. So it's finally over. I feel so free And I've pretty much fallen in love with my friend Gavin, who is the nicest, sweetest, kindest guy I've ever met. He treats me like a person rather than something he's stepped in. And this is a person who actually wants to get married and have a family, rather than someone who hates marriage and never wanted kids. My whole family likes him and he is so good with Sam too. 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 1:05pm
aww yay so glad it worked out in the end best of luck with your and sam furture ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: hooper
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 1:30pm
hey thats so cool and sounds like ya get to have the happy ending as well. ------------- Desiree 
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 1:30pm
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Oh that's great that you have called it off with Sam's dad. Didn't sound particularly healthy for any of you.
All the very best for your relationship with your new man - he sounds absolutely lovely  ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 1:54pm
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Yay for you (and Gavin)! It's so annoying how 'gorwn men' can act like such children and expect you to give them what they want ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 2:26pm
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Yay for you he sounds way better than Sam's dad hope everything works out for all three of you. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 3:06pm
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Yay Renee, hoepfully everyhting works out for you and Gavin. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Bumble
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 3:27pm
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YAY!!! Well done for giving Sam's dad the flick and all the best for you and Gavin! ------------- formerly known as "Bee" Ethan ~ March 2003 Big 6 year old school boy! Micah ~ Aug 2008 ~ Smiley pants who loves telephones! |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 4:00pm
oh thats so neat Renee!! Gavin sounds like a real sweety! and your ex sounds like an arse!! 
You go girl!!! 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 4:05pm
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Wow Renee reading that gave me big frowns and then big smiles. So happy for you and Sam, as for the ex, clearly he's got some growing up to do.
------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 4:13pm
Thats fantastic news Renee, I'm so happy for you And you totally derserve someone lovely who respects you and treats you well I've been wanting to ask how things were going for you but didn't want to pry  ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Skyflame
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 6:35pm
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Great news Renee, I am so happy for you and sounds are turning out so well.
All the best. |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 6:49pm
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Good on you! At least you know you tried and he was still a jerk so obviously you're better off without him. I hope everything goes well for you from now on
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Posted By: Brenna
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 6:53pm
ditto  ------------- My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
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BaileyandAstin wrote:Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 6:55pm
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Yay Renee! You and Sam totally deserve the best and your new man sounds like a total sweetie. Ihope you guys are sickeningly happy, you deserve it! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Faraway
Date Posted: 22 January 2008 at 9:07pm
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Great news Renee!! Great for you and awesome for Sam to have a positive male role model too! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 2:27am
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Great news! Hope everything works out OK for all 3 of you - you, Sam & Gavin that is ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 3:54am
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Thats awesome news Renee! Have been wondering how you were getting on... ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 2:53pm
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i've been wondering how you were getting along too renee...i'm sooooo glad you've ended it definately this time with the ex...he sounds like a real arse!!!!
you and sam deserve so much better than that...and here's hoping you've found it! all the best ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 5:04pm
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So cool that things have worked out so well for you Renee!
You guys deserve to be happy with someone who appreciates you both ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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