Presents pre-baby?
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Topic: Presents pre-baby?
Posted By: T_Rex
Subject: Presents pre-baby?
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 4:51pm
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My friends and I are getting a housewarming present for a mutual friend who has just bought his first house. Now he's been married for many years and renting as a couple for ages too, so I can't imagine that they actually need much housy stuff. Plus they've actually been in the new house for 6 months, so any missing stuff they probably already have too. They are expecing their first baby in about 6 weeks time.
I thought we could get them a baby factory voucher or similar, so that they could buy something for the baby's room, kind of a cross between housewarming, and yay, your having a baby! Because surely thats the area that they might not have covered yet? Anyway, most of my (single, childless) friends think that its a terrible idea to get something until the baby is born, in case something goes wrong. I think surely they'd like to see their baby being celebrated and looked forward to, not hidden from until its born. But being currently childless (although rather clucky) myself, I though maybe you lovely ladies would have a better idea than me. So, what do you think? Is it totally out of line to buy a baby-related present before the baby is born? |
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 5:01pm
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No! We got given heaps of stuff before our babies were born and we loved getting them! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 5:15pm
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We got most of our stuff before our baby was born!! It was great being organised. And if there's 6 weeks to go, the likelihood of something 'going wrong' is very very slim indeed.
Hmm, though this does remind me of when we just found out we were preggie and we were doing market research of prams (not to buy yet, just to suss them out). The girl in baby city asked if we needed any help, so we asked her to show us how a particular pram folded down. She asked if it was for us and how preggie we were, and said 'you know we recommend waiting to buy big ticket items until after the first trimester'. I felt like saying 'awesome, thanks for saying my baby is gonna die!'. But yeah preggie hormones did make me a bit sensitive 
Anyway, I'm sure your friends would totally appreciate a voucher or something, I know we would have ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 5:16pm
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its totally normal..most people have baby showers beforehand etc.. go for it:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 5:16pm
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arohanui what an awful thing for her to say.. what a cow! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 5:19pm
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I agree with everyone. It's a fabulous idea!
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 5:30pm
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Hmmmm, they said that to me in BabyCity too - I wonder if it's policy or something?!? I'd say it's a wonderful idea to get a voucher or something for the baby's room... sounds perfect. ------------- Andie |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 5:45pm
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A voucher for baby - or a voucher for a restaurant for a last dinner out together before bubs gets here would be nice too. -------------  
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 6:05pm
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 7:20pm
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Yeah agree with all the others. Esp practical as they have been living in that house for a while and married, so what else do you get theM? ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 7:58pm
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I agree with what everyone else said too. I think its a great idea and I'm sure they'll enjoy having you excited over their imminent arrival. ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 8:02pm
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That's so oldfashioned! My aunty told me off for buying stuff when I was preg with Maya coz something might go wrong, but I figured there was way more chance of nothing going wrong and I didn't want baby to come home to no cot, clothes etc.
I think a BF voucher is a great idea, even if they decide to keep it till after bub is born and use it for all the little bits and pieces that you suddenly realise you can't live without in the first couple of weeks. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: hooper
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 8:30pm
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i agree with everyone else to.
vouchers are a great idea. ------------- Desiree 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 23 January 2008 at 10:13pm
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definately a great idea!!!! ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 24 January 2008 at 9:36pm
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With just 6 weeks to go, there's not a high chance of things going wrong now and they will hardly have any time to sort out anything in the way of furnishings after the baby is born - go for it! ------------- |
Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 24 January 2008 at 9:49pm
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I think it's a great idea and you can never have too much baby stuff. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 24 January 2008 at 10:14pm
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I looooooved getting baby pressies before Gina was born - it gave me such a warm fuzzy feeling to just potter around her room, looking at things and touching my belly. I also had more time to admire the pressies before she was born - I was too tired later to really admire them
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 25 January 2008 at 9:14am
Thanks ladies. In the end we compromised with a Farmers voucher. I think they'll spend it on baby stuff, but the other girls could cope with it. I think the girls figured out we'd done the right thing tho, once we were shown the nursery, and the scan photo and various other baby paraphenalia (sp?). I think it was pretty clear that the couple's excitement was about 90% baby-related and 10% house related and it was really neat to see the couple so happy. Made me want it to be my turn 
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