I dont know what to do ... any ideas,
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Topic: I dont know what to do ... any ideas,
Posted By: angel169nz
Subject: I dont know what to do ... any ideas,
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 9:11pm
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Our baby girl is only 6 weeks old, I love her soo much so does my Husband.
The ways things are, we can hardly live. He works in retail and it just doesnt pay enough. I'm a baker and have always earnt the most. Because of that it looks like I have no choice but to go back to work in the next month. I dont want to go back, because I know what I'll be missing out on, yet if I dont go back. Then we cant afford to live. I'm kinda starting to get really angery at myself. Beacuse I dont know what I should do. If I go back, I'll never see her. I'll miss out on everything I want soo much to be apart of. If I go back I know that I wont be the Mum I want to be. I'll be going to work, working 9 - 11 hour days. Comming home shattered, eating then to bed. But if I dont go back. She misses out on the most simple of things. Ps been to WINZ and they wont really help. So any ideas? |
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 9:16pm
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ummm, I know it could be tough but as a baker you could maybe do catering/baking from home? Go round the cafes in your town/suburb and ask if they need cakes to sell their customers, saves the cafes heaps of time and gives you work...? Sell bread/baking products at a local market once a week? ...
Probably impractical but although I'm not a professional I was thinking about doing the cake thing myself. I know even Cafe Lafarre here in Welly buy cakes in!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: angel169nz
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 9:19pm
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It will end up costing more than what I could sell the product for. Big companies are able to sell more product at a cheaper cost.
We thought of part time, only noone wants a "part time baker" full time or nothing. 
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Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 9:20pm
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Sorry Haven't really got any ideas for you. I know what it is like tho, my partner and i are both studying plus he has a full-time job but it doesn't hardly bring in enough for us to survive. Have you looked at family assisstance thru IRD, you should be at least entitled to the parental tax credit which is a max of $1200.00, going to the IRD website and check it out, you have to apply in the first 8wks of your baby been born.
That is all i can offer you sorry. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: angel169nz
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 9:24pm
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we got on the working for families web site and it took us to IRD to work out how much we could get and that was $26 a fortnight was all we could get, so that gas for one week.
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 9:33pm
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What about in one of the big supermarkets? I was at New World for 7 years (thru uni) and we had some part time bakers. We also had bakers that worked during the night/early morning. If you could pick up a 4-5 hour early shift (say around 2 or 3am) could you tie it in with your partner's hours? -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Roxy
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 9:34pm
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Hiya.....I really feel for ya.....lifes so bloody hard sometimes eh.....What about looking into caring for other kids at your hm????I dont know much about that sort of thing but maybe put ad in paper or talk to anglican care.I know a girl that works for them.has two other kids aswell as her own two......that way your hubby can keep working too....(thats if you can handle that many kids at once)I probly couldnt.But at least you get to be there all the time for your little girl ------------- Caleb 15/11/02 Brooke 14/11/05 |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 9:35pm
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ooh yeah there is Barnados and Porse network - both do the childcare from home programme ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: angel169nz
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 9:39pm
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I'm still employed by a supermarket. Only thing is around where I live its all full time bakers sad ay.
I dont think I could handle too many kids. Chasity is out 1st baby. I kinda dont like barnados, very long story, lets just say one baby would still be alive and almost 9 if it wasnt for them |
Posted By: angel169nz
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 9:44pm
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I'm off to bed.
I'll read your ideas tomorrow. Thanks to everyone tonight that has tried to help.  Good night everyone. Sleep well
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Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 16 January 2006 at 9:59pm
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Family assisstance is different to working for families apparently, but ring up IRD and request a family assisstance form anf fill it out because there is no harm in applying, I didn't know about the $1200.00 till my mums friend told us, and at least you are pretty much guaranteed to get it, almost everyone gets the full $1200.00. Or ring them and talk to someone about it. I know what you mean about WINz, all they could offer us was $33 a week which if you ask me is pretty pathetic. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 17 January 2006 at 8:52am
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Hrmmm... if you don't have enough to live and say you can only get $26 a fortnight then perhaps they didn't give you enough to work with on the website. (They aren't always brilliant at advertising ways to get extra income)
Have you checked out the accomodation supplement too??? |
Posted By: kasbee
Date Posted: 17 January 2006 at 9:41am
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You must be entitled be more then that. Its blows me away sometimes how the govt expects families to live on next to nothing. Do they think raising kids is cheap i dont think so! ------------- Kelly, mother to 4 wonderful children. http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: angel169nz
Date Posted: 17 January 2006 at 12:07pm
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thank everone. We are going to ring IRD today. I knew money was going to be tight once baby was born, but I never expected to be living off weet-bix and milk for dinner!
I'll let you all know how it goes today. Chasity has to get her first shots today, so once she has clamed down from that I'll be back |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 17 January 2006 at 1:37pm
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Sorry, I dont have any other ideas but I hope you are able to sort something out with IRD. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 17 January 2006 at 2:05pm
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Xanda just had his first shots this morning as well and is now really grizzly, hope all goes well for Chasity. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 17 January 2006 at 2:48pm
| If all else fails I'd go in to WINZ and make an appointment with a case manager. It really depends who you get as some are extremely helpful and will do everything they can to help you while others let their cynicism get in the way of their job. Grrrr. They annoy me. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 17 January 2006 at 9:24pm
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Yep - I had an awesome experience with WINZ today. I was getting a partial benefit until last November when my income finally got over the limit and I am now able to be self-sufficient (Yay - no more DPB for me!). But over Xmas things have been tight, and so I went to see them and the lady was awesome - gave me a food grant to stock up on groceries, and paid my power bill. I think it's partly because I have managed to get off the benefit and just need a bit of extra help, coz they were never that helpful when I was actually on the benefit.
Although a friend of mine who has two kids and whose partner only earns $400 a week got the real run around - $83 a week from family assistance and not a peep from WINZ. So it really is true that it's all about which case manager you get. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 18 January 2006 at 9:29am
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if you ring winz or really any government agency, write down the time and name of the operator...as well as the info they give. if anything is contradictory you can then make a complaint. doesn't really help too much, but makes you feel better.
BTW I completely understand the dilema about to work or not to work. In japan i went to work at 8am and got home at 7 pm. saw jake on weekends and about 30mins during the day. It was tough and i did it for a year. Don't know how looking back. |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 18 January 2006 at 9:47am
I definitley have to go back to work... we are starting to really struggle and all our savings have been eaten up so there is no emergency stopper to fall back on!  Peter and I might be moving to Nelson in April though so I thought I would wait until I definitely know what we are doing before I go and find a job.... They make it so hard on young families don't they! Peter apparently earns too much for any Working for Families money but it still goes quicker than I can count it and believe me the only splurge I have every week is a womans day and a big wednesday ticket, hehehehe, although when I win tonight our worries will be over, heheheheeh------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 18 January 2006 at 11:04am
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I knew a girl once who was in a similar situation. This was in Auckland, she went into North Shore Hosp and asked if she could make sandwiches and bring them round the wards to sell, to visitors and staff etc. She ended up doing really well from it and 'sold' her business a year or so later when she went back to her old job. It was good for her as it was something she could do while she had her bub with her. What about trying a similar thing? Maybe you could approach some biggish companies and ask if you could do a similar thing and sell lunches to their employees? Might be a bit of work initially but at least you can stay at home? ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: taranaky
Date Posted: 18 January 2006 at 12:08pm
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Not a silly idea, Anna. Years and years ago when my littlies were babies (teenagers now), I did just that. I went around local workshops etc... (mechanics and the like are good business, love their savouries and filled rolls) sold heaps, well enough to get by on for extras, while hubby worked. Take orders too. Just went to each place, we were in an industrial area in Auckland at the time. That was a long time ago. I had my sister to do it with me, pays to have a helping hand and anything that doesnt sell, well you get to keep it all comes back. Also the thing that someone said about I.R.D giving $1200, that is a one off payment and only if you don't receive Parental leave payments, its either one or the other sorry, at the time your baby is born. This time around we are having another littlie and we are in a better situation, hubby works and earns good money, I quit work and will be spending time with baby, for a few years at least. but I know I will still want to do something, so am thinking of making things, crafts etc... as a hobby but also to sell for extra at fairs and things, just for a little bit for me and baby. Remember I have teenagers too now and they are going to be a big help.
Time is important with ours babies, but I can tell you now, I spent all the time in the world with my other two and they would say when I did go back to work, Oh its not fair you should be at home blah blah and when I was they didnt appreciate it much. Honestly I would have to tell them things I did with them in the first 5 years, they couldn't remember. My life was them! I enjoyed myself though. But I have known mums that went straight back to work (they had to) and their relationships with their kids are fine. I hope things work out for you, but really look at all your options before making a decision, no harm in trying aye. http://www.tickercentral.com"> 
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Posted By: angel169nz
Date Posted: 18 January 2006 at 8:51pm
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Hey Everyone, thanks for your help.
IRD said all they can give is well nothing, $0.00 until 1st April this year, because I earnt too much from the last finacial year to now. Even tho I'm not working now and we have about $300 comming in a week! And when April rolls around, we can only get $51 a week! How sad is that? So We decided that Chasity is way more important form us to miss out on, I mean she only gets this first year once right... so I'm going back to work part time. Strange as shifts, only thing is I'm not going to be baking. So that means I have to work more shifts to earn the same money. Ah well life as ay. Yeah Chasity was all good after her shots, girzzy for about 5 mins and was fine after that, she even slept better than she did the night before. |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 18 January 2006 at 9:31pm
| Possibly in April that might mean you qualify for the accomodation supplement too. I think it is WINZ that you go through for that. Give it a go anyway |