Messing with my head
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Forum Name: Life After Miscarriage
Forum Description: Up to one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet for many the loss of a pregnancy is isolating and lonely. Share your thoughts and feelings here with others who have experienced loss.
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Topic: Messing with my head
Posted By: Vanillabean
Subject: Messing with my head
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 7:56am
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I'm starting to feel quite stressed with the conflicting information I've been given about why my miscarriage might have happened.
Three the doctors I have talked to plus a book I got from the library, plus wikipedia say that a 5-week miscarriage is very likely to be caused by something going wrong with the chromosomes during cell division. However, my acupuncturist said that it was probably because I have low progesterone (my bbts fell below the coverline a lot during the luteal phase when I conceived and this is supposed to be a sign of low progesterone). Also according to traditional Chinese medicine I am too cold. While I am a bit skeptical about all the TCM theories I do know that acupuncture has been proven to be effective in improving fertility. But apparently the low progesterone theory is really controversial amongst the medical profession because despite it having been studied there is no proof that progesterone supplementation works to prevent miscarriage. This is where it really starts to mess with my head. If it was cell division problems then there was really nothing I could have done (although, irrationally, I feel guilty that my egg wasn't up to scratch). If it was low progesterone or being too cold then there were things I could have done and didn't like getting progesterone supplementation. And theoretically that I would need to do next time I get pregnant. It makes me feel like I could have saved the pregnancy but failed. I know from a rational point of view that the miscarriage wasn't my fault but all these feelings are so hard to deal with. |
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:07am
:( yes they are hard to deal with and a natural part of the mc...even before i found out the reason for mine..i felt like this too...as or the cold thing i haven't heard of it before and as you say rationally nothing you can do can prevent it happening:( there's nothing i can magically to say to make you feel better but please don't blame yourself.. :(  ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:22am
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Its hard yah Vanillabean, i even had information given to me that i when i miscarried that there wasnt even a baby there to start with, which was wrong information, but it really did my head in....
my doctor (my family doctor of 30 yrs) whom i trust with my life, told me that if you miscarry at 5-7 wks i think he said, then it was because there was something wrong with chromosomes and nothing wrong with me. I know how hard this is, and the emotions you are going through that in themselves are hard, please remember you can ring me if you need to, or if you dont want to chat on the phone pm me and i will give you any support i can ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:28am
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Oh man so many different ideas do start playing with your head. I think you could throw the low progestrone one out the door as I have always had low progresterone and I have managed to get pregnant 3 times now. My first pregnancy was a MC at 6-8 weeks and was put down to chromosomes. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 6:28pm
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Vanillabean, I know exactly how you feel. Even though the MC was not your fault, it's quite natural to wonder what could have been done differently to prevent it. Usually nothing I think!!
I am not an expert on progesterone, but it is one of the things that is being monitored for me now. I'll tell you what I know, but I am not too sure how helpful I'll be!! Progesterone is produced by the ovaries prior to ovulation, and if conception is successful the ovaries will continue to produce it. It causes the lining of your womb to thicken so that successful implantation can occur. Supposedly, if progesterone is low, implantation is harder. My fertility specialist (Fertility Associates) thinks it is an important factor, and was going to put me on supplements if mine fell below a certain level. However, mine's been really high so far. I honestly believe that the majority of miscarriages are due to chromosomal issues. But, it sounds like your acupuncturist is referring to somthing that a lot of specialists also believe in. I just got this off a website... there is lots of information if you Google "progesterone in early pregnancy". You'll then be able to make an informed choice about what you feel is best for your body. "The progesterone levels during pregnancy is also crucial for the survival of the fetus, it keeps the uterus from contracting and promotes the growth of blood vessels that give nourishment to your baby during pregnancy. Natural progesterone aids in conception (fertility clinics use sometimes natural progesterone for treating infertility), and the progesterone levels during pregnancy help maintain a healthy pregnancy." Good luck Vanillabean!! Thinking of you. xox |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 7:39pm
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I have borderline progesterone and a short luteal phase and I'm well into successful pregnancy #3.
The most common cause of early miscarriage is a chromosomal abnormality, both of mine were likely caused by a blighted ovum which is where the chromosomes aren't right and the pregnancy never develops past a gestational sac. Blighted ovum miscarriages account for up to 75% of early/unexplained miscarriages. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 7:39pm
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PS. Self blame is the hardest thing to deal with, but rest assured at that early gestation nothing you did or didn't do could have altered the outcome. Hugs! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Rashika
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 6:47am
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I was told much the same about early miscarriages, they are *most* often caused by chromozomes 1 or 22 problems. The others 13, 18 and 21 often will go much further along, even to birth (especially for 21 -Downs) tho 13 & 18 will often result in a stillbirth.
Still if you are unsure, why not get the levels tested and if low take whatever you can have to lift the levels ( I dont know the specifics)... insist on it with your doc. Its always hard trying to get your head (the rational part) to agree with your heart, but as the others have said early miscarriages are often simply bad luck, and we cant do much about them. |