The old times
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Topic: The old times
Posted By: mummy_becks
Subject: The old times
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 12:51pm
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Do you ever look over photos from your past and just wish you could go back there and have the same fun again. Don't get me wrong I love that I have my children, but there are those times that I wish I could go out to the beach with my friends and party all night and crash somewhere with whoever was there. I think i'm just missing DH even more now I'm going to try and get in contact with some old friends and see if they can come over for a crazy night once my children are in bed. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 12:55pm
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I do this quite often especially lately as I've been in really good contact with an old friend and chatting about all the stuff we got up to and just having a really really good chat which I miss a lot.
I think what makes it bad is that most of my good old friends have moved away/gone overseas so I never get to see them. And most of my newer friends are too busy or have a different type of lifestyle so we never get to really chat like I did with my older friends. And its harder to get to know people now I find. |
Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 1:03pm
Msn is good to keep in contact with friends you don't have so much in common with  It's alot easier to pretend interest and ignore someone if they're talking about something that bores you to tears, or vice versa of course 
I miss hanging out at Timezone, especially the DDR machine... grrr - Lower Hutt one is CRAP because people have jumped on it and desensitised it, and it is SO much fun, and such a great way to lose weight. I also miss having money to buy expensive clothes. One good thing about kids - you can put them in their cot/time out corner if they're having an unstopable tantrum... friends not so much
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 1:23pm
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Sometimes I do...but sometimes I think I remember it a lot more fondly than it really was! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Redbedrock
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 1:35pm
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I don't really. I spent a lot of teens and twenties drifting and on my own, but now I feel I have roots and a home, so I definitely prefer the here and now. I would love to revisit my travels, or living in London was pretty exciting but I'd much rather come home to the present and watch Coro St with Fay asleep upstairs and Neil asleep on the sofa with me. ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 2:00pm
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Nope I never want to revisit the first 3 years of Conor's life, it was hellish.
I don't really remember my high school friends etc, due to a car accident I had at 20 sooo I guess I don't miss what I don't remember. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 2:01pm
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Sometimes I get nostalgic and miss the old days, but for me they weren't exactly 'good old days' and the old me wasn't a very nice person so I usually get over it pretty quick. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: shaz
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 2:08pm
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I do sometimes miss the excitement of those younger years. But I'm sure it's all a mind trick, for some reason we only remember the good times. I'm sure my teens/twenty's were full of angst but I just can't remember ...or maybe it was all the alcohol that made me forget.
I will be letting my kids know that the teenage years are not "the best of your life" as the old saying goes. I'm far more settled and less stressed out now and loving my thirties even though they are nearly over.  ------------- Mum to Natasha Aroha 9/12/1995, Alexandra Makareta Waimarie 22/4/1998 and....Alyssa Frances Hopaea 18/03/2007 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 3:31pm
I think that I'm different to most people because well I'm still a youngin, at only 22. Plus I never did the whole go out get drunk every night/weekend or whatever. I have been drunk once in my life. So when I remember the "good old days" it really was good and not just really stupid stuff 
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 4:11pm
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all the time Becks - I had such good time and memories from my youth - but also wish i could of wispered some home truths too in my ear at the time... ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 4:33pm
Same here - I'm 19 in march... but then I moved out of home a couple of months before I turned 16, and had just over a year to try out the "wild life" both at home in gis (well as wild as it gets up there) and down here in wellington before I met Mike and realised that there were much better things out there. My fondest memory would have to be me at the movies with my best friend when I was 14-15. He was an exchange student from Germany and had been there for almost his full year, and we spent the entire movie holding hands... (omg shrek 2 LOL) neither of us ever did grow enough courage to tell each other we liked each other and he would have to be the most innocent 17 year old guy I've ever met.  He wasn't too fond of translating rammstein lyrics for me - specially the ones about incest etc.
Actually most innocent guy i've met would have to be that 18 year old whose first kiss I stole just for the hell of it - he was a christian and was saving his first kiss for his future wife. I guess he failed the temptation test I actually felt kind of bad about it
EDIT: and by future wife I do mean some translucent idea of a person and not his fiance or something! -------------
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kebakat wrote:Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 6:12pm
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No way been there done that, and I remember what I got up to. By my own admission I was a bit of slapper before I met DF. I had a lot of fun and good times, but now we've got our home and I'm looking forward to getting married and becoming a mum.
Stacey I find it difficult to make friends, as I'm the one who move towns, and there aren't many people around here in a similar situation to us. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 10:13pm
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Yes I've been really thinking about the old days recently and what I wouldn't give to go back for one night (but one night only). I think for me its more because I finally feel like I'm getting a bit of my life back now the kids are a bit older and have found I don't have any close friends like I used to.
I know I wasn't the nicest person and had a bit of an addiction I never want to have to deal with again but before that times were fun and I had the best group of friends. But in saying that I have never been happier than I am now I think I just need to find something I enjoy and make some friends lol |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 29 January 2008 at 10:47pm
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Well I just had an old friend over for the night and it was great. We laughed over everything we used to do. We are going to make it a regular thing as his GF lives in Welly. He finally got to see my wedding pics and told me I was hot so that was good. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 30 January 2008 at 12:23am
I don't really wish I could go back there- I wish I could have made the most of having no responsibility (oh and the sleep ins!!)! I had fun but it was such a shallow existence. I definitely prefer my life now 
I love catching up with old friends and reminiscing though. Its nice to remember the good ol' times. Its when we try to relive them by having a night out that I realise my glasses are very rose coloured! ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 30 January 2008 at 8:22am
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Sometimes but not very often. We are quite lucky with DH that we have both sets of parents around thus many baby sitters so we can still go out and do things like we used to. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 30 January 2008 at 8:31am
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My DH and I were teenagers in our first flat when we met so most of the best times were him and I hanging out together. Sometimes we go through the old albums and reminisce together but I think I actually kept the best of the old days with me by marrying DH and we still have a roar.
I'd love to be fancy free again but instead of wishing to go back to the old days I wish for a big lotto win! ------------- http://lilypie.com">   http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:15am
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i'd love to go back to when i was 20....ahhhhh good times, and yes, they were actually good times.
but only for a weekend, i love my life now and wouldn't change it for the world ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 30 January 2008 at 5:39pm
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Not yet - but I only have one lovely bubba so we can still do what we want - turns out what we want is to hang out at home together with our bubba! -------------  
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Posted By: linda
Date Posted: 30 January 2008 at 7:55pm
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:04pm
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Every now and then I do like Linda said I miss the fact that just can't do things randomly anymore go out on a whim so to speak and now when I do get to go out I appreciate a whole lot more even though I have only really been out properly once since James was born. I'm happy with that and wouldn't anything for the life of me. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:30pm
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I don't so much miss my life before as wish I could go back and do it better while I had the chance! Ahh the joys of hindsight! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 31 January 2008 at 6:29am
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sometimes i relly miss my old life but all my ld friends have stuck around (relly only the good ones) but i wouldnt change having james for the world ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 31 January 2008 at 8:23am
I know what you mean caraMel. I partied hard nearly every night in my late teens and early 20s (oh to have that energy again) but some of my friends bought their first homes in their early 20s. Maybe if I'd been a bit more smart about it I could have too but hey, I enjoyed myself and every moment, good or bad, made me the person I am today and I'm pretty happy with that. I have 4 really close friends I've met over the past 8 years and we try and have wines at lunch once a fortnight and a girls night twice a year. That helps, I still get to hang out and let my hair down every now and then while being a responsible mum, breadwinner, billpayer etc most of the time. hmmm. who's for finding a baby sitter and coming out for a lunch time drink ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 31 January 2008 at 8:23am
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I don't miss the single - go out get pissed try and score - life
I do sometimes miss the shopping (with money to spend), coffee/brunch with friends, ALONE time with DH... but I too wouldn't change my life as it is now for all the world! I wanted my babies soooo badly and I can honestly say I love my life the way it is now, even if I have my ups and downs ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 31 January 2008 at 8:35am
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Must admit, do miss the money thing a bit. I've never been single (was 18 when I met DH) but my income was my own until we got married and we were just talking the other day about how I had a great hairdresser I saw every 6 weeks for a cut and colour which cost at least $200 per visit. Now I get my hair cut once or twice per year at just cuts for $32 and I haven't coloured it in forever.
But same as newmum it doesn't really matter. I wanted my baby so much, it only took us 3 months to concieve but that was after about 6 years of cluckiness, subtle hints to DH, blatant hints to DH and telling DH that if I wasn't pregnant by him at 26 I'd be going somewhere else for it (ok I wasn't really serious about the last part but funnily enough we found out I was pregnant with a month to spare before my 27th birthday). ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lucky3rdtime
Date Posted: 31 January 2008 at 1:47pm
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sometimes when I feel like that Mummybecks I just need a good night out with some friends and then I feel better again.
I don't so much wish for the good old days, cos I can still remember they weren't always "good" and some of the things I did back then I wouldn't want to repeat. I prefer my life now, but ask me again in 6 months once bubs comes out ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 31 January 2008 at 2:40pm
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I miss having a sleep in on my own (pre marriage) or pottering around my flat when I lived on my own. I don't get any alone time now at all, I am either at work or at home with DH and DD. I even get grumpy when I am reading in bed alone and DH comes in to 'chat'. 5 minutes is all I ask!
I also miss just being able to drop whatever I was doing, grab my bag and be off out! And to spend money without a care in the world. I also had an amazing hair dresser and would cut and colour my hair at $200 a go once every 6 weeks! Now I have roots and a cheap haircut. At least I have my GHD's to pacify me! I miss going on random trips to Melbourne or Brisbane with my bestie - we used to do this at least once a year and blow far too much money on shopping and partying. I kind of miss the 'thrill' of a new relationship too but hey, what to you expect once you are married!!? I do admit that I loved my single life but in a different way to how I love my life now. Funny that this topic came up now, cause I have been missing my old life a lot lately! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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