give up breastfeeding???????
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Topic: give up breastfeeding???????
Posted By: Roxy
Subject: give up breastfeeding???????
Date Posted: 22 January 2006 at 11:11am
 Hi here I go yet again.....I am having such a bad time with Brooke again!!!! Has been going on for bout three days now.....shes worse than she ever was and Im really not dealing with it well.I try my best with her but am at a loss to what her problem is......She has been checked by doc and yet again Im told theres nothing wrong with her....She is always happy and smiling when I take her.She wont sleep hardly at all during the day.sometimes 30 mins and other times 10mins.and thats after spending sometimes an hr or so trying to give her dummy in bed and rocking her.....I am only feeding her 3hrly yet it seems like alot of the time she has tummy upset......and by the time evening comes she is so overtired that we have huge screaming sessions......leaving her to cry it out in bed just doesnt seem to work...she just gets hysterical.Im having fights with hubby bout that one.he thinks leave her to scream no matter how long but I feel it not the way.My little boy is missing out on my attention and when he does finally get it I just yell at himHe doesnt even want to be home with me anymore.I feel like since Brooke been here theres been nothing but stress in our household...lastnight I put her in carseat and drove up to my mum inlaws and told her that I dont want her anymore and burst into tears....she came hm with me and helped and it took till 10.30 to finally get her to sleep.soooo here I get to my point.....do you think I should give up breastfeeding????would she be more settled on formula?????I am being soo careful what I eat but she always so unhappy..perhaps the quality of my milk is not great cause Im so tired and stressed.Id really like to find a miracle............sorry this so long but Im honestly so desperate now  ------------- Caleb 15/11/02 Brooke 14/11/05 |
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Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 22 January 2006 at 12:04pm
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Roxy i sorry to hear you having a hard time again and i'm sorry coz i can't offer you any advice, but I really hope the other ladies can.Is there any chance that you mum inlaw can help you out for a little while, give you some time to spend with your boy or have a nap? Once again I really am sorry i can't give you any advice to help make it better. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 22 January 2006 at 1:07pm
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Poor you guys. I really think before you do anything as drastic as giving up breastfeeding you should speak to a peadiatrician. i dont know if you are currently under a pead or if you are just going to a GP. Ask around. If you go to the www.cryingoverspiltmilk.co.nz website im pretty sure there are some paeds listed there.
In my experience cutting down breastfeeding and starting formula didnt help at all and possibly made things worse. Because Jayde ended up having to go on a special formula that you can only get on perscription. I know going to a paed is expensive but i think your sanity and the health of your child is worth the cost. You could also ask your gp for a refferal to go to a public paed but you may have to wait some time for an appt. I went to one publicly as none worked privately here and i just phoned every day and got people i know in the hospital to phone for me as well and instead of a one month wait i got in in 2 or 3 days. The health system is there for you, but unfortunately you have to push and push. Another thing you could do is to just go to the emergency dept at the hospital and ask to see a paed. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 22 January 2006 at 1:13pm
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I'm sooo sorry you're having such a difficult time again :(
I wanted to say that it's great you have breastfed for this long. It must be really difficult trying to juggle both kids at once, so I hope some of the mothers here have advice on what to do with the older child when you are breastfeeding. I am going to put a post up on the main forum I go to and post what you've written here, as there are many breastfeeding/veteran breastfeeding mothers who have excellent advice, I've known them for ages and they are all great people. I'll send you the replies :) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 22 January 2006 at 1:19pm
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Just wanted to add that putting her on formula won't help if she has a tummy upset, but maybe there is someone you are eating that she's allergic to.. dairy? or something else.. you need to see a different doctor as you're her mother and you know something is wrong..
Have you called Plunketline? Asked to see the plunket nurse again? Tried La Leche League (they are in the phone book).. all will have lots of suggestions to try as they've seen so many babies before.. also you could try the Familiy centre, they are great for advice too. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 22 January 2006 at 1:33pm
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i,m so sorry to hear this i undrstand u get so desperate to stop the screaming i cant tell u any diff then what the ladys have told u but i understand u need help mabey your mil could take bubs for a couble of days or a close friend ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Roxy
Date Posted: 22 January 2006 at 1:42pm
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Thanks heaps guys.....maybe formula not the go............I will have big talk with my mum inlaw and try decide what to do...think I will try family centre.mayeb go for day and they can see what Brooke like....we even talked bout trying to get someone to come stay for a week so they can help us sort her out.....we honestly wouldnt care how much it would cost us!!!!!!!!Not sure if there is that kind of service in NZ though.Really wish we could have a happy relaxed family............She sooooo beautiful when she happy and smiling ------------- Caleb 15/11/02 Brooke 14/11/05 |
Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 22 January 2006 at 1:43pm
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Oh dear Roxy, sounds like you are having a really bad time of it! All I could suggest is trying to find someone to come & give you a hand with Brooke so you can get some sleep. Everything is a lot better with some sleep, and babies pick up on stress so easily that this could be the problem (or one of them). If you think putting Brooke on formula may help that is up to you, but it's just very hard to get back into bfing (if you wanted to) if that turns out to be not the problem.
Usually when you are stressed or tired its not the quality of milk but the actual supply can decrease, which can make bubs upset. Maybe sit down with your hubby & make a list of what you could think the problem is, as her Mum you are probably the best one to figure out what might be wrong and if it is something a doctor might be able to fix (such a silent reflux, colic etc) then you will just have to be very pushy to get a helping hand. Hope things can settle down for you soon. It is soooooo hard when you are tired, and your hubby needs to help out abit more too by the sound of it. ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 22 January 2006 at 2:43pm
i no i would have paid anything too help james,people told me your his mother u must no whats wrong the thing is i didnt it turned out he had a heria in his groin and the pulket ladys found it u do have to be real pushy when it comes too doctours/pulket (my spelling is arwful)lol i say give anything a try its worth it if u can help yoyr bubs and yourself ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 22 January 2006 at 3:34pm
Oh Rox, I am so sorry to hear that. Maybe you should try taking her to a paediatrician like Maria suggested. Did you take her to Michael again last week? What about trying Anna or Jane again? Sorry I cant be of much help matey, but give me a call if you need to chat, ok  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 22 January 2006 at 7:13pm
have u thought about a nanny just a thought ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 23 January 2006 at 7:41am
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This is a summary of all the posts I recieved, these mums have great advice.
- baby could be having a growth spurt - these last for up to a week - and in this case you will need to feed more often. - try feeding on demand, not every 3 hourly, your baby is still little and might need to eat say, every 2 hours. - try getting rid of the dummy and feeding when she cries instead, even if you did feed her 5 mins ago. - colic, try gripe water. - your stress is being passed to baby, they pick up on things really easily.. - try these websites for great advice - I really would recommend them.. www.kellymom.com and www.askdrsears.com There is information on how to juggle breastfeeding a baby with an older child too. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 23 January 2006 at 7:43am
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oh, and to try getting a sling too... these have helped alot of the mums on there, esp the ones with two children or more.. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Roxy
Date Posted: 23 January 2006 at 9:28am
Thankyou so much you guys...I really dont no what I would do without you all......Well am taking Brooke to docs again today as yesterday afternoon she coughed up a big huge lump of mucous(dark green)it was so yuck!!!!!she was sneezing a little bit and doing some small coughs but didnt think it was a major.but think I should get it checked out as green is usually infection eh????She is little bit happier today so far......The doc Im going to take her to is not our family doc as he is away and she is a mum so maybe she can give me some advice on all our probs.I really hope so..................... ------------- Caleb 15/11/02 Brooke 14/11/05 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 23 January 2006 at 9:31am
| Good luck rox, hopefully that is what is causing the crying etc and that the osteo really did work!! |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 23 January 2006 at 11:47am
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All the best for today. I hope she has a magic cure for you. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 23 January 2006 at 12:48pm
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good luck please keep us updated if u feel somthing is wrong with bubs pushed till u find out i hope this doc can help ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 23 January 2006 at 2:09pm
good luck today roxy! hope things get sorted for your family soon!!  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 23 January 2006 at 3:14pm
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Poor you, Roxy, I totally sympathise with you.I hope you get some answers today, poor thing.
Am thinking of you, so take care. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 27 January 2006 at 11:31am
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Hey i know excatly where you are.. my Lil Briannah is 10 weeks old and just crys and crys and crys, i wanted to give her away to... i still to this day dont know what is wrong with her, i tried gipe water it helped a lil... i took her to he drs every day for a week, they ouldnt find anything wrong with her.. she coughs and spews up mucas but dr said she is fine, she just gets alot of wind from breastfeeding which is quite rare.. so i expressed and bottle feed her for a week made the biggest differnce, shes back on the boob now and is still a screamer during the day.. im naughty and lay her on her tummy during the day in the bassinet so she is right beside me and she will now sleep 3 hrs at a time sumtimes and i give her a expressed bottle at her last feed of 150mls and she now sleeps from 10pm till 5am it is bliss... i feel for you as i have a lil boy and yes when i finally did hvae time without lil b i found i just screamed at him.. with the lil bit more sllep im getting has made the world of difference
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 27 January 2006 at 12:45pm
Hey glad to hear you are doing alright Judith. Sucks about the wind but it sounds like you have found some solutions. 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 27 January 2006 at 12:49pm
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How did it go Roxy? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 27 January 2006 at 8:20pm
hows it going just logged in hope u found some anwsers dont worry sometimes i have just wanted too sell james i swear i,ve even had offers from friends hahah lol ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: newlife
Date Posted: 29 January 2006 at 9:23pm
Please don't despair & give up breastfeeding. I have had the same situation with my baby girl Jazmyn who is now just over 4 months old. I'm not saying this will be an overnight cure for you as I'm still betting to grips with it myself. Firstly you need to make sure that you husband will support you 100% as it's tough going and you have to clear your schedule as best you can as this does take some time. Secondly you have to have a definate structure for baby for this to work. During the day the structure is feed play sleep and at night it's feed bath sleep. It's a technique called the shushing technique. Make sure you take all toys out of cot and take down any mobiles. Once baby is showing tired sings you wrap them in a muslin, put them on their side hold them there and to settle them you shush & pat them for 15 mins. If baby is still not settled you pick them up for a cuddle with no eye contact & once calm put them back in cot on other side & repeat process. Once settled roll baby onto their back to sleep. If they wake you go back in & repeat the process again. I was told to allow at least 3 weeks before you see any results. We had results within the first week and Jazmyn has slept through a couple of times but we still have a long way to go. I know it's better than what I was doing and I'm slowly getting my sanity back. Good luck Roxy & let me know how you go.------------- New Kiwi Mom |