I hate valentines day
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Topic: I hate valentines day
Posted By: Kazzle
Subject: I hate valentines day
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 7:57am
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sooo over rated...lol
of course it doesnt help that its my birthday, so it means that if Kent buys me flowers they cost the earth becasue of the day....honestly i cant see what the big deal is about one day, kent and I tell each other every day we love each other, and we both feel that there doesnt need to be a special day for it. And before anyone asks, yes i think mothers day, fathers day, easter and christmas are all over rated too....BUT we aren't religious so easter and christmas doesnt hold any significance for us, BEFORE anyone jumps on me, im not trying to offend anyone, its more that everything is so commicalised now that all the meaning has gone out of everything, and the prices go up, and we spend way too much. Hmmm i think i need to go back to bed and get up again...lol ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 8:22am
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I hate the whole commercialism of valentines day too!!
We went to church yesterday (once in blue moon experience  ) and they said they were doing a special service for married couples on Valentines Day to celebreate commitment, love etc. I thought that was a lovely idea! Plus after the service free glasses of bubbly   ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 8:24am
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I agree with you. Why does it seem to take a day for people to buy each other flowers or to show each other they are in love. It would mean much more to me if my DH came home in the middle of the year with flowers just because. We tell each other we love each other a couple of times a day and it means just as much each and every time.
As you can guess we boycott Valentines in our house too
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Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 8:25am
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I grew up like that... easter was maybe $10 of chocolate if we were lucky LOL (between 2 adults and 2 kids) But then our grandparents always bought us a little more. We are definately not christian/catholic etc, so Xmas was more about the fact that other kids got presents and we'd have felt pretty put out if we didn't get any when we were in primary school.
Mum thought mother's day was a cop-out, we never even noted the day... and I never really had a dad as such, my little sister basically followed my example. -------------  
 
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Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 8:56am
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Why does it seem to take a day for people to buy each other flowers or to show each other they are in love? Because it reminds all the slack buggers in the world that they really should be treating their mrs to something nice for a change instead of expecting her to remember EVERYTHING.
I always get my boyfriend a nice card and some little present, I dont see any harm in it at all, this year i'm hoping its gonna be a good excuse for him to finally buy me that engagement ring that he's been promising me ;) |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 9:06am
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I hate that its so commercial but any excuse for more presents is fine by me! I love getting them and I love giving them- DH is a tight ass and I would never buy anything nice and romantic if it wasn't for days like Valentines!
Its quite annoying though because our wedding anniversary is on the 4th of Feb, the only 2 times of year he 'has' to be romantic are within 10 days of each other! ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 9:26am
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I am religious and hate that feast days have been commercialised so much.
The funny thing is that if you do look into St Valentine what we're actually celebrating on 14/02 is the anniversary of his horrible violent death. "Valentine was a holy priest in Rome who assisted the martyrs who were being persecuted under Claudius II. He was apprehended, and sent by the emperor to the prefect of Rome, who, on finding all his promises to make him renounce his faith ineffectual, commended him to be beaten with clubs, and afterwards, to be beheaded, which was executed on Feb 14 about the year 270". Among other things St Valentine is the patron saint of epilepsy, fainting and the plague. Hmmm, chocolates and flowers anyone? ------------- http://lilypie.com">   http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 9:33am
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over rated here too, don't celebrate it don't need a special day to tell my man I love him and he is the same ------------- 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 9:37am
| It's just another way for shops to steal more money from people |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 9:42am
Yeah we dont do anything either. Happy anniversary Jen!  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 9:47am
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Nope we dont celebrate valentines day here. DH and i have always gotten stick for it as our friends always thought he was just trying to get out of it. But ive always aggreed withhim. If he cant show me how loves me everyday, then what does one day matter?
As for easter, we dont celebrate teh cho eating (diabetic lol) but we got to mass. I love mass for xmas and easter. Always the best! ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6"> 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 10:20am
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We don't do anything either. Although DH did ask me to marry him on Val's day many moons ago.
We don't buy the parents presents for mum and dad's day, they are lucky if they get a card. I have had to tell the grandparents to calm down with the chocolate when it comes to Easter, they used to go overboard. As for flowers? What are they?  ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 10:29am
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I love valentines day and mother, fathers day etc. However we dont just celebrate these days by buying expensive gifts but just as another day to celebrate love and family. My kids do love going off the the $2 to buy me a mohters day gift and fathers day gift Bugger about not having a partner to get at least a valentines day card from ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 10:37am
That is totally the way to go about it. We never bought gifts for any of those days when I was growing up because my mum and dad hated the commercialism but now I'm older I realise it prob had just as much to do with the fact that they had 6 kids and one income. We do cards, emails and phone calls for our parents on mothers/fathers day and will encourage our kids to do the same. Occasionally my DH writes me a poem and I'd prefer that to any old flowers especially on Valentines when it's so obvious to get a store bought, no thought required, gift. If I am going to get flowers sent to work I'd rather have them on a day when every second person isn't getting them too. Bah humbug!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Kels wrote:Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 10:46am
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I brought Arabellas Dad Shirts for Valentines day last year lol. . I'm to practical for Valentines day. .
I am so dreading easter this year! Must wear a sign that says "Don't feed me chocolate (no matter how much I beg)" ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 10:52am
LOL. Michaela was born one week before Easter 2006. I'd gained 10 kgs during the pregnancy, lost 7 kgs during the birth and gained an extra 3 kgs a week later with all the chocolate we were given.
The amount of chocolate Michaela got last year was ridiculous. She was one year old for goodness sake, why would anyone buy a one year old chocolate!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:15am
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we don't celebrate valentines day here - due to our wedding anniversary being the 19th we would rather celebrate that... one of the reasons we got married when we did. i agree over commusulized..
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:43am
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The only thing we are celebrating on that day is a birthday. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:48am
So that the parents can eat it
All these holidays - Valentines Day, Christmas etc, don't have to be about spending money. Why not make things? A heart shaped cake, biscuits etc. Some flowers from the garden. You don't have to buy into the commercialism. My DP doesn't usually get me anything for Valentines - if I want him to make something I usually buy some food for a nice dinner etc lol. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 2:53pm
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I hate the commersialisation of all these holidays and hubby knows not to go buy overpriced flowers as I will literally kill him.
But at the same time we actually just use the day to plan something nicely. One year he does Valentines day and our wedding anniversary and thenext year is my turn. Only problem is each year it is his turn he seems to be on call and actually working. And guess what this year again. Ha. We dont do presents on Valentines day either as such but I did buy him some really nice choccies at Farmers on the after Christmas sales before the Valentines day mark up being put on all the stuff. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 3:03pm
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We don't tend to buy presents for Valentines/Mother's Day/Father's day and only get one little thing for each of the children for Easter... it is just extra money at a time when it doesn't necessarily mean anything special. Instead we give cards (often home-made) and make it a day of special things as a family - breakfast in bed for the person on Mothers/Fathers day, a nice dinner and at home Date Night for DH and myself on Valentines.
I got the best present ever last year for Mother's Day - Kiya made me a card, and as her "present" she promised not to fight with her brother or argue/answer back to Nat or me for the whole day! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: hailstones
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 4:16pm
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We do Valentines day - budget style, Last year Dh bought me a miniature rose to plant, and the year before picked some flowers from his mothers garden for me. I do like the idea of valentines day, but not spending $100 on roses etc.
I agree that these days (mothers/fathers/valentines etc) have become very commercial, I think they should be more about appreciating the people you love than spending huge amounts of money on them. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: shaz
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 4:38pm
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We really don't do Valentines.
But Mother and Fathers day we make a big yummy breakfast for that person. The kids make a menu so they can choose what they want. IE Bacon and Eggs, Eggs Benedict, Cereal, Toast, Tea, Coffee etc etc. And the kids make their own cards. Last year we did a big breakfast for mine and DH's Mums as well it was really nice. ------------- Mum to Natasha Aroha 9/12/1995, Alexandra Makareta Waimarie 22/4/1998 and....Alyssa Frances Hopaea 18/03/2007 
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 6:27pm
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I think valentines day is great when you are young etc. We don't need to do anything for it because it isn't relevant for us!
Mind you, we almost forgot our wedding anni this year, only remembered it when other people reminded us. -------------  
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 6:55pm
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Mothers/Fathers day here usually means the other of us making pancakes/pikelets for breakfast. Valentines Day is no biggie for us because our anniversary is the following week. But it doesn't bother me that we have a Valentines Day. If my DH was less romantic, I'd probably look forward to it lol -------------  |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 8:19pm
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Well Valentine is my last name so for me its a big deal I treat it like a second birthday and usually do something nice for DF budget permitting of course. We used to do flowers and cards when we first met as we spent the first 2 years of our relationship in different cities.
This will be my last one with my family name so might have to do something a bit special. This year Easter is the week after our wedding day so will be a mini honeymoon break for us. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 05 February 2008 at 7:29am
I must be the odd one out but I quite like Valentine's day - I always send DH a little something and hope he remembers too this year. I think it's romantic but it could be me. As for it being commercial, what isn't nowdays? Just look at all the stuff for Easter out in the shops already  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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