How open are you?
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Topic: How open are you?
Posted By: kebakat
Subject: How open are you?
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:22am
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After another post I just wondered..
Are you more open about you/your life etc online or in real life? Are you more likely to state your opinion online or real life? Do you have anything you are less open about? And if so, why is that? |
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Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:33am
I think I am more open about some things- and less open about others! Depends on what it is really- although I would feel comfortable talking about almost anything I say on here with my close friends anyway, it would probably just bore them though 
I think I'm more likely to state my opinion IRL- like I said in the other thread, I used to be more opinionated on here but it just got too much work so I have just started avoiding the things that might get peoples backs up. I am less open about personal details like DOB, last name and address etc. I wouldn't mention where Charlotte goes to school or put photos up of my kids naked. I'm just paranoid and theres no need for any of those things to go on here anyway  ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:39am
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I'm more open in real life definitely. I think because online people misinterpret what you are trying to say or I just have trouble wording it.
I'm also more likely to state my opinion in real life. I like to do things face to face. I will state my opinion on here but things get misinterpreted so if it's too heavy I don't bother. Sometimes I misinterpret a post and then when I read further I see that someone else has interpreted it correctly and think ahhhh; and the penny drops. I have things that I'm less open about. I'll tell people things quite honestly face to face if they ask the question but I don't go out of my way to share my experiences really because I hate the way people start feeling sorry for me. And there are some other things that I only discuss with close friends and family because it's just the kind of stuff that you really don't want others to know and then start making the wrong assumptions. |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:46am
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I'm very open, if someone asks me a question about me I'll answer it. That's whether online or real life. I don't always go out of my way to share some things but I have no problem with anyone knowing something about me.
I can be quite opinionated. I try online to keep that under control, sometimes I can't help myself though hehe. |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:51am
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I'm open equally in real life and online just about different things.
I try not to state my opinion online as people get worked up way more and its just not worth it. In real life I do most of the time. I'm probably a little too open online with my details. The only thing I'm not so open with is relationship details, I generally keep any disagreements between me and ben, between me and Ben. |
Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:54am
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I'm generally quite an open person so there's nothing really different I talk about online or IRL. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 10:37am
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Too open.
My blog tells all about my life. |
Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 10:43am
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I'm a pretty open person generally but certain aspects of my life are out of bounds online and in person so both are treated equally I guess. ------------- http://lilypie.com">   http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 12:30pm
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I think for me it depends on the subject. I can speak more of my mind online, but have a hard time in real life expressing my opinions.
There are definitely things I am not open about online as I know some people on here in real life so at times, there's just some things that you want to keep for yourself 
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Posted By: EthansMummy
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 1:27pm
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I am probably half & half. I guess some of the questions I ask or things I talk about I am more open and happy to talk about them online. ------------- ** MUM TO ** Ethan 29/08/2006 Brooke 22/09/2008 |
Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 2:12pm
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I guess it depends on the topic/ circumstance, but I think I am much more open in real life. I often worry that you cant use "tone" online very well, so its hard to read what people are saying the right way. IRL you can use your voice, body language, smile etc....which makes it a lot easier to voice opinions or be open about things.
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 2:36pm
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I'm a what you see is what you get kinda person online and IRL, my online personality is pretty much me IRL as well. I don't really do shy, which is funny coz I was painfully shy as a kid.
I am probably a bit more careful/tactful with what I say on here coz I am aware I have certain responsibilities with this being my job, sometimes I might read something and think "that is so stupid" but I keep it to myself coz it's not really an appropriate thing for me to say. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 4:12pm
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I am pretty open on line and irl. -------------  
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 4:47pm
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I am very open in IRL and pretty much the same on line as some of our Oct Mums have probably found out by the things I openly discuss (in particluar my very graphic and traumatic birth)!! I don't have many secrets that I don't share, I like talking too much ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 10:46pm
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I'm less open on-line about some TMI-type topics, because, well, I know the net to be a great place for people to have a perve at whatever takes their fancy. Also I wouldn't want men reading some of the stuff I could talk about with a girlfriend. IRL I'm not shy about anything much being TMI. When it comes to stuff I think 'oh puh-lease' about, I think I'm a little more open IRL, because when you're talking with someone face-to-face they can see your intentions behind it better. I find if I say something difficult via writing alone it sometimes looks harsher than how I really mean it, so I try *try* to restrain myself sometimes! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 11:05pm
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I think i'm an open person (I mean I have given my story on my pregnancies for Emma to use). Sometimes I feel that what I have written isn't what I am trying to say sometimes so IRL is easier for me as i'm a talker not a writer. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Alisa
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 11:22pm
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I think it would depend on the topic and if I was comfortable with it or not, am pretty much an open person and normally freely talk to people either online or IRL about most things, obviously there are some things I might only talk to my sis or best mate to about. Am more or less an open book, if you ask me a question 99 % of time you'll get an answer. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 11:53pm
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I am half / half. Quite happy to talk about raising my kids and health etc but on the other hand dont talk about relationships or anything personal like that. HOWEVER anything I post I would say IRL. I like to think im what you read is what you get kinda girl!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: cheekymonkeysmum
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 11:57pm
| I'm quite open but find it easy to get across what i want to say when I write or type it (my brain and mouth don't work well together...I think to fast and of lots of things but am unable to articulate it properly so I'm saying probably more open online). |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 3:03am
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I am probably more open online, as I find it much easier to write than talk. There is a lot of stuff I just dont feel comfortable talking about IRL, either TMI type things or controversial type things unless I really know what I'm what talking about. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 8:42am
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I'm less open than I used to be partly from moving to a new town where I don't know a lot of people so I tend to keep my opinions to myself until they're asked for.
Online well I've been on these forums for almost a year now so kinda view some of the members as real life IYKWIM. I guess as I've got older I've realised that sometimes noone actually wants your opinion, and unless its really important I keep it to myself. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 12:58pm
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I'm less likely to share personal info online then IRL ie names, phone numbers, address info. I also don't like posting pics either online.
I tend to be a private person IRL too and only share a lot with a few really close to me ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 4:46pm
I use to be really open about heap's of stuff on here, but scince relising it is a small world and I know too many people on here I have kept alot of topic's to myself that I would have normally posted. which I think is a good thing. Cause you do run the risk of thing's getting back to people intentionally or not I would hate to have said simething on here that someone had clicked on and then had it get back to me via someone else if that make's scence. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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