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Topic: school today
Posted By: lizzle
Subject: school today
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 8:49pm
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on tuesday i had the most obnoxious child in my class - claimed not to have a pen cause he didn't have his stationary list yet. pain in the bum.
anyway, for homework they had to write one page about themselves. most wrote about themselves, family etc. His story well, broke my heart. I actually asked the principal about it, and was all confirmed. basically it talked about each of the scars on his body and how they were caused by his parents - as a baby he cried too loud as he was born drug dependant, so his parents stubbed cigarettes out on him. then he has a cut on his knee from a broken window when he and his sister ran away from a foster home and broke into people's houses to eat (he was 4). the scar he has from hitting the man who was "hurting" his sister (the principal told me his sister was actually sold into prostitution as an 8 year old). he went on to say that he loves the school cause he can stay there during school time and he knows he is so comfortable and happy. he didn't like the holidays cause he had to go back to the foster family. I nearly broke down in tears reading it, cause it was written in typical 15 year old boy fashion - very matter of fact. it took all my strength not to rush in and tell him to move in to our house. After being so harsh on him on day one though, he has been really well-behaved since then. the principal said he has very little respect for women because of his mum,, so I needed to be really tough on him. the teaching part of this job - it's kinda easy - it's all the other stuff that makes it hard. |
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 8:52pm
oh my god that poor boy ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:00pm
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That is so sad, that poor boy ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:00pm
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Wow, I didn't think that still happened - poor boy. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Neeks
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:06pm
OMG that's terrible! That poor little guy  -------------  
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Posted By: Rachel75
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:17pm
| That's so sad. It's great you found out about it so you could handle it properly. The people who have these poor children need to be ..... (too rude to print!) |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:21pm
| he's actually really bright, but quite obnoxious. I just hate hate HATE the matter of factness - like "oh yeah, this happens to lots of people" kind of thing. kids shouldn't think like that. i've been sitting here hugging my kids thinking "how could you?" I mean, my kids can be little horrors sometimes and there are times where I could almost quite cheerfully chuck them out the window - almost...but in seriousness, how could you? |
Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:29pm
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I know what you mean liz. When that 18mth old was abandoned in the bush by her mother, Ollie was about that age, I just couldn't imagine doing that to him (or any child). They trust you completely and to betray that trust is awful. Oh man, now I'm crying again ... ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:40pm
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Poor guy!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:53pm
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That is so sad! Probably helpful that you know that background to him at the start of year. Sounds like you may have your work cut out in winning his respect. I presume that if the Principal knows this stuff that he has already had some form of counselling? I suspect his obnoxious attitude is some cover for not being "able" to be vulnerable to adults or something. -------------  |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 10:00pm
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Wow! I'm stunned! So terrible for him to have had that happened to him. It's sad to think that SCHOOL was his safe-haven, going home was a nightmare - even to his foster home.
Very very sad . ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 10:10pm
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It's so horrible when school is the only constant, reassuring thing in a kids life.
I had an 8-year old at one school who was strangling kids and starting trying to beat me up. Turns out he was so upset and frustrated because... his uncle had turned a shotgun on the family during the holidays and had the armed defenders not taken him out, he would have killed the whole family
Like everyone said.. how could you? I look at my wee boy and it just makes me cry to think that people are so evil that they could harm something so innocent. |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 10:16pm
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Wow. Makes me wonder if he already respects you because he shared his story with you.
Maybe you'll become the one steady influence in his life. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 11:06pm
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Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 11:12pm
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oh that is so so sad, that poor boy. you have to wonder how many children that end up before the courts have stories similar to that one, if you knew the background would you still judge them as harshly? (general you, not you liz!)
i think it is great that he shared that with you, i hope you have a fruitful year together, he stretching you and you empowering him to overcome his beginnings. ------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe - my big 4 year old
and Jordis - 1 year old 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 11:19pm
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Liz I have that same feeling as much as Andrew drives me nuts I could in no way do anything like that to him. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 12:02am
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 2:57am
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Oh that is so sad. There is so much going on in some families like this, and we just have no idea - its a totally different world to what we live in. Hope all goes well with him this year Liz ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 9:42am
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Eeeeeek. Shivers.
Sounds like you can make a real difference - and that's what being a teacher is all about yeah? xo |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 12:53pm
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That is so sad, poor poor boy. Hope his sister is OK, is she around? ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 12:55pm
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I'm surprised the teachers aren't forewarned about these kids and given some strategies on how to deal with the behaviour. I'm an HR Manager and every role I've gone into I've had a briefing on all the personal 'issues'. You need to understand the background and be aware of any special circumstances if you expect people to function at work. Surely its no different at a school. Maybe this is something you should raise with the principal lizzle. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 1:01pm
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Thats is just horrible that poor boy ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 2:07pm
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Often they don't want to tell you too much abotu children prior to the start as some teachers will prejudge the child and how they will handle the situation. By waiting for teachers to ask, they have got a genuine impression of the child first to go on. -------------  
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 4:11pm
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So sad what some kids go through. Breaks my heart. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 6:57pm
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 7:52pm
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Oh thats so sad that poor boy and his siter... ------------- |
Posted By: shaz
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 8:32pm
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OMG thats so sad. But if he is willing to share that information with you maybe it's a start to a trusting relationship for once in his life.
My sister worked as a high school teacher in "certain" area of Sydney for a while and she used to call it Heart Break High like the TV programme as the kids there were all from broken homes and either didn't know who their dad's were or they were in Jail. It was heart breaking for her but some of them inspired her so much. She managed to get one kids writing published in some sort of short story book, I can't remember exactly but I think they took entries from all over oz and he was one of the ones chosen which was pretty cool for them both. Good luck it sounds like you are a great teacher. ------------- Mum to Natasha Aroha 9/12/1995, Alexandra Makareta Waimarie 22/4/1998 and....Alyssa Frances Hopaea 18/03/2007 
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