Question for 2nd time mums
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Topic: Question for 2nd time mums
Posted By: EthansMummy
Subject: Question for 2nd time mums
Date Posted: 11 February 2008 at 2:36pm
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Are you worried about how you will cope????
I am almost scared some days - I can handle one - that is ok but two????? not so sure. ------------- ** MUM TO ** Ethan 29/08/2006 Brooke 22/09/2008 |
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Posted By: bub
Date Posted: 11 February 2008 at 2:43pm
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hey im in your shoes i sometimes wonder how i'm gona cope with to when theres 1 you only have to watch 1 but 2s a different story. ------------- mother to Brianna, Amelia & Mathew. http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 11 February 2008 at 2:47pm
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Hell yes! How on earth am I going to cope with 3 under 2, especially when 2 of them are the feral gremlins?!?!
I guess we'll all cope because we have to! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: hooper
Date Posted: 11 February 2008 at 3:00pm
Yer i sometimes wonder how iam gonna cope, and think why did i do this to myself.
But thats when i have bad days. Then iam also so looking forward to having a new baby.  ------------- Desiree 
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Posted By: Gremlin
Date Posted: 11 February 2008 at 4:21pm
| u will be fine i was soooooooo worried bout having 2 kids my daughter was such a mummies girl i thought it was oing to be so hard but it has been alot easier then i thought although i have had my moments went i want to walk out the door lol, u wiill be fine :) |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 11 February 2008 at 4:28pm
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OMG yes that and how would I be able to share my love was up there for me. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 11 February 2008 at 4:34pm
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Yes somedays I wonder how I'll cope. And as Becks said, how do you share your love between them? How can I love another child as much as I love Ollie?
I trust that as other women have had these fears and gone on to survive (and their kids are OK lol) that I can do it too ... I can ... I'm sure I can ...  ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: rosewood
Date Posted: 11 February 2008 at 4:53pm
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Somedays I do wonder what on earth am I gong to do or what am I getting myself into!
Sounds horrible doesnt it  .
When I had DD I lived 5 minutes drive away from my Mum & Dad and Sister. Last year we moved 14,000 miles away so dont have that support this time. (but I suppose we were the one's that moved!) Hoping that I will have a little bit of help from my 3 year old daughter though???  ------------- Gill http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 11 February 2008 at 4:59pm
you'll be fine  it wont always be easy but more often than not you'll be rewarded with watching your two children playing, lauging smiling... thats what gets me through.
now any advice for someone freaking out about having 4 soon?!!! lol |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 11 February 2008 at 5:32pm
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Doesn't matter what pg you up to, you definitely get those days ------------- |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 11 February 2008 at 11:28pm
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I wonder sometimes but not much we can about it now, eh? ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 12 February 2008 at 8:00am
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I'm one of those people who needs to be busy - If I'm not on my toes, I tend to get bored (or at least fidgety). 2 kids sounds like fun, 3 a challenge. 4? I'll see how I survive 2 and 3...
EDIT: Of course well ALL have off days! Even with just one  -------------  
 
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Posted By: tashzmum
Date Posted: 12 February 2008 at 10:02am
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im freaking out at the moment at the thought of having a 3 yr old and new born twins-one of which we found out yesterday has a heart condition.
i have no idea how i will cope, but i guess deep down we all know we will cope and make do. ------------- Natasha Jayde, 1-01-05(7lb3oz) Caroline Elisabeth, 9-04-08 (4lb15oz) Izabella Kate, 9-04-08(6lb7oz) Lexi Brenna, 23-01--2011(6lb6oz) |
Posted By: EthansMummy
Date Posted: 12 February 2008 at 10:24am
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Wow it is so good to know that I am not the only one thinking that.. I did wonder.
------------- ** MUM TO ** Ethan 29/08/2006 Brooke 22/09/2008 |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 12 February 2008 at 11:14am
that's exactly what makes me get through....there are the rough days when all they want to do is fight..but then watching them running around together, laughing at each other, sharing things with each other.....makes me melt 
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mum2emj wrote:Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 12 February 2008 at 1:07pm
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Both my Dh and I were freaking out when I was pregnant with Lily - for different things such as coping, "will I love number 2 as much?", how will we afford it etc.
But 4 months (almost) after her arrival we can hardly remember how it was before and every day is lovely if challenging I haven't found the transition as hard as I feared and Lily has just fit in with us so well!
Some days are rough but they were with just one too!! 
You'll be fine!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 12 February 2008 at 3:14pm
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You will all cope just fine, its actually the toddler thats the challenge not the newborn
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Posted By: LockieandLiam
Date Posted: 13 February 2008 at 8:13pm
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I'll remember that Rach, I hope you are right. Gosh the closer it gets the more real it seems. I suppose only time will tell how it will go. I don't know how I will do it but its obviously doable why else would anybody else do it. Can you tell I am thinking positively. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 14 February 2008 at 12:34pm
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Lol Dawn, yep just keep repeating it to yourself (I CAN do this, it WILL be fine) - I'm sure if you say it enough it will come true ... That's what I'm hoping at least ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 28 February 2008 at 2:43pm
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so how do you cope when you are only 7 weeks pregnant and can't cope becuase you are so darn tired!!!??? -------------   
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 28 February 2008 at 3:36pm
| Ben took a few days off to look after Jack so I could just sleep. Even lie on the floor while Vincent is playing around you, just lying down can boost your energy up a bit. Try not to worry too much about the housework for the first 3 months I honestly think those 3 months are the worst when you have another child. |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 28 February 2008 at 7:25pm
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It's really hard at times chonny, I can't really remember how I got through it. Movies for the kids was my biggest tip, I used to set my alarm clock for 30 minutes while Hannah watched a movie and I went to bed! You have to use the toddler's sleeps for resting, not always housework. And babysitting-share helps too.
ETA: You'll get some relief in the 2nd trimester by the way ------------- |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 28 February 2008 at 8:31pm
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thanks busymum, i have a four month old i look after too, so resting during vincent's sleep isn't always easy -------------
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 28 February 2008 at 9:41pm
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eek! It's hard enough having a 2 1/2 yo and 1 yo and #3 on the way. Take care of ya!! ------------- |
Posted By: aussiemum
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 10:41pm
| Oh yes quite concerned about coping but I'm hoping Joshie will be quite sensible at 3 and not throw so many tantrums! |
Posted By: cat007
Date Posted: 01 March 2008 at 5:21pm
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I too am wondering how I will cope - with a 1yr old and twins due August. I guess we all will somehow manage when the time comes. One thing I did a couple of weekends ago was disappeared out of town overnight to a motel and left hubby to look after our wee boy for several reasons. Firstly to catch up desperately needed sleep and also to force hubby to learn to cope on his own with a young toddler - making meals and everything. I had a blissful weekend - watched movies, ate and slept and when I arrived home to my surprise the house was in reasonable order and a toddler (and hubby) who had survived! I would highly recommend it to any expectant mum! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  [/url http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 03 March 2008 at 10:41am
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that sounds like such a lovely idea cat007!! good on you! -------------
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Posted By: AndysMummy
Date Posted: 03 March 2008 at 4:13pm
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Yeah I'm scared s%^&less as to how I'll cope! Andy has only just started sleeping well at 15 months!! Don't know how I'll manage if the new baby doesn't sleep well and I still need to be a happy mummy the next day. Or how I'll cope with the hourly feeds and still have the energy to paly with poor wee Andy. Whats harder? Going from no babies to one or from one to two?? Going to none to one was a bit of a shock! Kind of glad that pregnancy takes 9 months so that I can try and get used to the idea of having 2 wee peeps to look after.
Is so hard looking atfer Andy at the mo as I feel sick from when I get out of bed until I go back to bed! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 03 March 2008 at 9:42pm
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I found #1 hardest to get used to... DH found #2 hardest cause he actually had to help out - a lot!
Congrats, Laura!! ------------- |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 03 March 2008 at 9:49pm
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i know what you mean andysmummy, i got Vincent up today and then mum arrived as i was carrying him out. luckily i told her last night, as i felt yuck carrying him! and Vincent didn't start sleep through til about 2 months ago either so i know what you mean about disturbed nights. What if it affects number 1 and they go back to waking during the night? aarrgghh! i can't think of anything worse. i can just imagine, you will get no1 sorted and back into bed, have half hour sleep, then no2 will wake. but we are super mum's aren't we! we can do it! -------------
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Posted By: cat007
Date Posted: 03 March 2008 at 9:56pm
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Somebody told me the other day that we all will somehow cope when the time arrives - they reckoned that if we couldnt cope then we wouldnt have been able to get pregnant in the first place - somebody up there reckons we must be able to cope! I figure that we will be able to figure it out as we go and we will learn how to cope with more than one child. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> [/url http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 03 March 2008 at 10:09pm
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totally agree, but right now my big baby boy is crying, not sure what has woken him so i will say good night to you all, and remember, you have us to help and offer virtual support to you -------------
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 09 March 2008 at 1:23pm
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It's amazing how you do cope! Hard at the beginning though, especially when you have to go out, it takes us us up to 1 hour to get ready to go out! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 10 March 2008 at 12:07pm
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wow, i knwo tht feeling, i have to plany my days at the moment ( i look after a 4mth old as well) and if we are going out i have to be extra prepared, make sur ei have bottles ready, food for my son etc etc -------------
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 11 March 2008 at 8:52am
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Wow, you are getting some practise in then chonny! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 12 March 2008 at 1:11pm
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tell me bout it! went to mum's n bubs session at movies today and had both kids needing my attentiopn, i'm starting to freak out about how i will cope once baby arrives. Espesh having 3 under 3! -------------
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Posted By: cat007
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 9:43pm
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After running after my toddler, when it takes two of us to keep him happy somedays, I wonder how I will cope with 3 under 2yrs. At the mo, my DH takes the toddler for a walk in the weekends so that I can get an hour or so to sleep. That wont happen when the twins arrive! I guess it will be rosters and routine completely. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> [/url http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 9:36am
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i can only imagine -------------
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