Is what i’m feeling normal?
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Topic: Is what i’m feeling normal?
Posted By: Paws
Subject: Is what i’m feeling normal?
Date Posted: 02 February 2006 at 3:48pm
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I’m wondering if I’m alone in my feelings at the moment.
I have so been looking forward to being pregnant but now that it is here I feel almost ashamed to say that I am not enjoying it very much! I have found the morning sickness and tiredness harder to cope with than I thought. So many people say to me “oh you must be glowing” and “over the moon” and yes we are excited but right now I can’t honestly say I’m enjoying it. Part of me is almost a little worried that I may not enjoy it at all!! I also find it hard because sometimes I just want someone to give me a *gentle* hug and tell me it will be fine instead of telling me to “buck up” and get used to it all. Bottom line is I still feel awful at the moment! I felt bad taking yesterday off even though I felt awful because some people make me feel like I do just have to “deal with it” because being pregnant is what I wanted. As I say, don’t get me wrong because we really want this baby. I know part of what I’m feeling is probably hormones but I’m wondering if others have felt this way at first…part of me does feel like a whining madam! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 02 February 2006 at 4:07pm
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Oh paws!! What you are feeling is totally normal!! Hormones are crazy and being pregnant is not always a walk in the park!! I went thru phases when I was pregnant, sometimes i loved it and pranced around merrily and the other times i wanted to crawl under my duvet and not come out til the baby was born!!
Don't ever feel like your whining!! Being preggy is not always easy and it is really tiring! Look after yourself!! ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 02 February 2006 at 4:10pm
awww 
i found the first 12-15wks really hard too. i felt sick only from 10-12wks but it was the incredible tiredness i couldn't deal with! i've never been so tired in all my life!  but.....
it did get better and once i could feel jack moving inside me (18wks) i really started to enjoy being pregnant....then it was all over too soon 
i'm sure many of us have felt the same way, just try to remind yourself it's not for too long. 
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http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 02 February 2006 at 4:30pm
| Don't worry Paws.. many people hate pregnancy. The good thing is that it is temporary (and the first trimester is often like that... yucky continuous nausea). So yeah, bring on the next 7 months huh? |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 02 February 2006 at 4:59pm
i hated bing preggy from the word go i had only a little felling sick but i did have spoting about nine times though out with james so its tottly norm but its so worth it i wouldnt trade james for the world just try to remember its all worth it big hugss (but very gentleZ) ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 02 February 2006 at 5:45pm
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the glow will come later - early pregnancy sucks... you dont show so people cant tell and you feel like crap. i got all spotty and hideous as well. you are normal...just go with it, some days will be better and some wont. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 02 February 2006 at 7:00pm
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yeah i found the first 12 weeks the worst it does get beta ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: tabs
Date Posted: 02 February 2006 at 7:13pm
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Awww Paws Nice gentle hugs for you honey. I hated the first 14wks of my pregnancy too, hormones going overtime and the m/s is just awful. All I can say is you are feeling normal and it will get better specially when you see your tummy expanding and hearing your babies heartbeat and feeling it move inside you.
tabs ------------- Mum to 4 lovely girls and 2 loved angels http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 02 February 2006 at 7:48pm
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Well I must be one of those people who hated being pregnant the entire time. The first three months I was sick all the time, throwing up about 3 times a day and paranoid about miscarriage. The second three months I was still sick all the time, got symphisis pubis dysfunction and wwas paranoid about premature delivery. the last three months I was STILL sick all the time, didn't sleep, suffered in the summer heat, fainted from low blood pressure and worried about my baby dying in labour or at birth.
And the minute she was born I would have done it all again in a heartbeat. Hang in there Paws - even if you are one of the unlucky ones who is sick the whole way thru, it doesn't last forever, and the reward is well worth the suffering! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 02 February 2006 at 9:27pm
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Thanks everyone, I think I really needed to hear all that! So many non-preggie people (especially those who have never been) seem to expect me to be floating around on cloud 9 and I've felt bad that after the intial excitement I haven't been. It's nice to know others have felt this way!
I'm feeling a bit better tonight too...not so nauseous (that's almost the worst part - nauseous but not throwing up)...so either things are easing up a bit or my friend tip of salt and vinager chips really worked!
Anyway.....thanks again everyone! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 02 February 2006 at 10:42pm
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I second what everyone else has said - and also warn you that closer to actually having baby, you may feel the same again, and also may start to really wonder what on earth you are doing, thinking you can't possibly take this on,.. just know it's all normal and you can always come here for some support. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 8:00am
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I hated all of my pregnancys and for each one wondered why the hell I was doing it again, I never had the glossy hair and glowing skin, more like greasy hair no matter how much I washed it, and spotty skin even at 29. Glowing pregnancy I think not, but then when you hold bub it makes the mood swings and the feeling like a beached whale so worth it you forget how sh*tty you felt in the first place. Hence to willingness to do it again. You'll get there. As for other people expecting to you to happliy glow all the time, very easy to say when you're not feeling sick all the time and your body isn't going through the most drastic changes ever. You have a right to feel the way you feel and just because you aren't enjoying it doesn't mean you won't love this baby or don't want it. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 8:49am
I'm not enjoying pregnancy, and I started to feel guilty about it until a friend of mine pointed out that it's difficult to feel enrapatured by constant vomiting, extreme tiredness, feeling like greenpeace is going to be knocking on your door looking for the beached whale....  I know once my baby arrives it will all fade into a distant memory, but right now I just wish it would hurry up and be over!------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 9:37am
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my midwife told me and not this applies toeverytime but if u have morning sickness u r less likey to miscarry something about nice high hormores glad to hear u r feeling better though and maya u werent the only one i hated being preggy i was parniod about everything as well with james ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: ErinC
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 10:12am
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Hi
Im not particularly enjoying it either. But i cant wait for my baby to be born! Im 20wks so its not so bad at the moment. But I've been warned that its going to get hard again toward the end. I know what you mean paws about everyone telling me how great i must feel and how excited i must be. Which i am, but after the 100th person as just said it its hard to work up the enthusasiam and then i feel a bit bad for not being as excited as i should be. But im sure it will be over before we know it.
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 10:41am
| did anyone see sex and the city when miranda was pregnant and they told her it was a boy? she wasn't particulary excited but pretended because everyone expected her to be. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 10:45am
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James - high hormone levels do contribute to bad morning sickness, and healthy pregnancies tend to have high levels, but it's not an accurate guide of whether or not bubs is healthy because in many pregnancies which result in miscarriage the hormone levels climb normally until around 8-10 weeks, sometimes even longer. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 10:49am
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I just realised that my last post is probably a bit scary, so if it helps, once bubs heart is seen on ultrasound the chance of miscarriage is less that 5%.
"The highest risk period is between 4 and 6 weeks. Once 8 or 9 weeks are reached and the baby's heart beat is seen on a scan there is only a 4% to 5% chance of miscarriage, depending on the speed of the heart-beat. It should be 120 to 160 times per minute. (BMP) The risk then drops to between 5% and 8% and continues to drop as the pregnancy proceeds." from http://www.miscarriagesupport.org.nz ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 11:26am
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Wohooo!! I don't know what speed the heart was beating but it was seen during my six week scan...so that's a good thing at least! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: crazy_crazy
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 11:51am
hi its james i am on my sis name to maya i,m sorry if i upset u as this is the last thing i would want to do so sorry wow u no a lot about being preggy i was just going by what my midwife said and she is one of the top midwifes in dunedin and again i am so sorry if i upset u  ------------- http://www.youngnutrition.net"> 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 12:51pm
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James, I think you might have misunderstood Emma's (Maya) intention: a lot of people read these forums who don't necessarily post, and Emma makes sure that accurate, medically based information is available to us and them.
I'm sure it wasn't personal - she was just ensuring everyone had their facts straight. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 3:10pm
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Becca's right James - I didn't take what you said personally. It's just that with my work preparing the content for OhBaby! I have to research a lot of things, so I have a bit of basic knowledge. I would just hate for someone to read something on here and take it as gospel when it's not 100% accurate. And a lot of the time midwives say things to make us feel better when we are pregnant, which is great, but they are not always 100% true.
Hope that clears it up  ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 4:40pm
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and unfortunately I must be one of the ones that is in the 5% that did lose their baby even though I saw the heartbeat at 5 and 7 weeks.... one of the few unlucky ones I guess ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 4:42pm
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I'm sorry newmum *hugs* ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 4:52pm
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thanks paws. It has been almost 2 years now and now I have my beloved Joey ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 03 February 2006 at 10:17pm
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thats kool it good to no the turth about that no probs ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 04 February 2006 at 7:32am
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Paws, I still vividly remember one morning when I was about 8 weeks pregnant, crying, with my head in the toilet thinking 'what the hell am I doing/I hate being preggy/I am never doing this again!' and then a few months later it was all forgotten about ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 04 February 2006 at 8:43am
| when i was in labour I said "i quit" and the midwife said "don't you want to see your baby?", I replied "no, i hate the baby"...how maternal! I think being pregnant isn't all it's cracked up to be for some people. I have to admit, my pregnancies have been pretty good compared to others, but that doesn't stop me from whinging about it. |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 04 February 2006 at 11:03am
| lol I think everyone tries to give up in labour. I did. I don't think I cared about seeing Hannah either. Or atleast I figure that if I gave up trying to get her out then someone else would have to. |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 04 February 2006 at 1:20pm
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i keep thinking when iwas in laubour with james that if i could just get home i wouldnt have too do this any more even told my mum i dont wanna do this now can i go home lol ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 04 February 2006 at 1:47pm
| I believe I offered smoeone money to make it stop. |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 04 February 2006 at 2:50pm
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lol thats so funny i never thought of that butt it is amazeing what our bodys can do and how much we can handle if needed !!! ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 04 February 2006 at 3:01pm
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lolol, i think i just told them to hurry up and get the fricken baby outta me!!! - not that THEY were the ones doing anything.. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 04 February 2006 at 3:31pm
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Hehehe... while I was in labour with Kiya I told everyone I was going to sleep, and to wake me when it was over! I actually got about 10 minutes sleep before the second stage hit and I woke up to push! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 04 February 2006 at 4:56pm
| What cracked me up was Lewis tellnig everyone after Taine, that the labour was "really easy this time". |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 04 February 2006 at 5:09pm
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Like he would know Liz
I screamed at my midwife "I can't do this anymore". She said "Don't be silly, it's too late for that". ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 04 February 2006 at 7:48pm
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Oh the things I have to look forward to !!
At least the morning sickness appears to be easing back a bit the last couple of days which is a huge relief...it's easier to deal with just being tired rather than being tired and feeling constantly car sick! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 04 February 2006 at 8:23pm
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oh yucky i remeber when i was having a contraction every one going breth lu breath i rember screaming with gritted theeth u ###### breath i wanna go home lololol ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 05 February 2006 at 3:57pm
I was reading my notes and my midwife had written that i said i never want another baby and that i said ive had enough i want to stop now, that was the point that i got the gas ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 05 February 2006 at 7:41pm
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aw, i want my notes - i should try and get them. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 05 February 2006 at 8:09pm
| Notes?!?!?! I know of no notes. Why was I not told about this earlier?!? |
Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 05 February 2006 at 8:17pm
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Well, I don't know if it's the same thing, but I've got my notes with me now and I have to bring them with me to every appointment and scan etc, so I'm assuming this is the same folder my midwife would put notes about the birth into as well. ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 05 February 2006 at 9:25pm
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i remember my midwife saying something about it when i was pregnant with Ayja - but then it never happened - but my little sis has hers. i might ring my midwife and ask her ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 06 February 2006 at 11:03am
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i asked my 1st midwife to send them to me and she did.with Harmony my midwife had the book with the tear out pages which she kept and i got to keep the book with carbon copies of everything.ring ur m/w and they should still be able to send u even photocopies but it is ur right to have a copy of them ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com"> 
Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days) |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 06 February 2006 at 11:22am
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My midwife gave me a photocopy of my labour notes. Really detailed, like 1.55am registrar comes in, 2.00am registrar leaves etc. Plus "Emma exhausted but pushing well".
Re-read the notes when I was preg at Christmas, and suddenly wondered if I really want another baby... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 06 February 2006 at 1:41pm
| I have notes. the notes that list Taine as a different weight from the scales. |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 07 February 2006 at 6:20am
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You can also contact your hospital and ask for a copy of your birth notes from them. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 07 February 2006 at 8:11am
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Hey Liz, I was thinking is it possible the weight is different because there was a blanket or something on the scales too and they deducted the weight of that? That's what they did with Maya. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 07 February 2006 at 9:37am
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Well I slept thru most of my labour, they gave me an epidural which took all the pain away and syntocin(sp?) to get into a pattern of regular contractions but after 8hours on that nothing was happening and baby distressed so into theatre. But the whole time i had syntocin i was pretty much sound asleep. I got my notes when i was discharged from the hospital but not my midwife notes. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 07 February 2006 at 10:14am
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i got given my notes by my midwife but u can ask for them ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 07 February 2006 at 11:49am
| Emma, she put the blanket on the scales and zeroed it beforehand. Apparently. Lweis told me. |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 07 February 2006 at 12:44pm
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i reckon go with the scales... maybe she just wrote it down wrong. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 07 February 2006 at 3:21pm
| I've got my notes from my maternity book but not labour notes. Maybe I'll give her a call |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 07 February 2006 at 3:40pm
| It is quite nice looking back. |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 07 February 2006 at 4:36pm
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my midwife wrote the notes in my maternity book so I have them too. It is really nice to have them ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 07 February 2006 at 6:53pm
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Yep, nice to have for next time round. Gives me a starting point for a birth plan.
Liz, that's so weird with the scales. Like Janine said, I'd go with the scales weight tho - maybe the midwife was a bit distracted with other things (ie. you and Taine) and wrote it down wrong? ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 07 February 2006 at 7:09pm
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My midwife was so distracted with Josiah arriving that she didn't even look at the clock to see what time he arrived! Nathaniel and I told her, because we looked. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 08 February 2006 at 6:44am
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Abby is down on her birth records as being 55cm, Troy said he was sure she was only 45, When my midwife measured her a week later she was 45cm, so going by the hospital records she shrunk 10 cm! ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 11 February 2006 at 3:16pm
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My labour notes are in the maternity notes. i love my notes my midwife wrote so much detail it even has stuff about what my cat was doing ------------- http://lilypie.com">
www.jackkeith.blogspot.com |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 11 February 2006 at 9:01pm
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hehe rachael! my midwife was great at writing notes too. she noted stuff that hadn't happened at the house yet (relocated) and the dog chasing his tail ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com">
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