My ILs are making me crazy
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Topic: My ILs are making me crazy
Posted By: caraMel
Subject: My ILs are making me crazy
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 5:28pm
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They're too hard to explain but their constant demands and expectations are too much for me at the moment!
I'm just not what they want me to be and I never will be. Why doesn't loving and doing my best for their son and grandchildren make me good enough? Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!! *tanties* ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 5:33pm
| It never is good enough usually. My inlaws are retards - and I dont say that lightly either. BFs mum ALWAYS makes me do excessive amounts of work when I go over there - lifting etc, I got to the point where I had to be verbally rude to her to make her listen to me. I hope you get things sorted :) |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 5:54pm
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Mel you've married their little boy. Regardless of how old he is they will always see him as that.
I so can relate to you, I have a very difficult relationship with my outlaws. But I grin and bear it and bite my tongue ALOT. You may need to stick up for yourself, and let it be known to them that you aren't putting up with their demands anymore, and that they are NOT to interfer anymore. You can either tell Dh what you are going to do and have him backing you up, or do it on your own. Be Strong Mel, it's the only way you can keep your sanity. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: BessieBear
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 6:22pm
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It sounds like me having another whinge again. My inlaws are right royal pains in the behinds. I am feeling very scared about bringing their first grandchild into the world they seem to ring and turn up at our house enuff as it is. I feel for ya hun. but frankly if we get a man we get inlaws. ------------- Sarah Mum to, Boy 07/2008, Girl 03/2010, Boy 05/2012, Angel  07/08/2014
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 6:40pm
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Awww Mel that totally bites for you. Spose I should be glad mine are getting a lot better. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 7:01pm
*hugs* I have absolutely no experience with IL's having thankfully been spared PIL's (not that I wanted them to die or anything but it's worked out well for me  ) but big hugs Mel!-------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 7:49pm
We need a dedicated thread for this, it is such a recurring topic!! You definitely have my sympathy Mel  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 7:53pm
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Very true Aimee ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
aimeejoy wrote:Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:15pm
Same here.... Just remember, though, one day you will be the inlaw...lolololol! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:20pm
Ah yes, four times over even - I can hardly wait *rubs hands together in glee*  ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:22pm
lol, nor can I, Emma, and I already know I will be a beearch, cos NO SKANK will EVER be good enough for my son... mwa ha ha  ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:22pm
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or daughter.... she will be in the convent at 11... ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:27pm
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Hell yes, Daddy has a shotgun AND a pair of steel capped boots....
------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:36pm
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OMG I think I would be the worlds worst MIL when my boys get married. If I have a girl boys will have a lot to learn with her daddy in the Army ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:57pm
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*note to self* don't let a gremlin marry Josh... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 9:43pm
At least I won't have a DIL...at this rate  ------------- |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 9:46pm
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I DEFINITELY won't have one! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 29 February 2008 at 9:50pm
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Um you can't say that, you never know how your girls may turn out. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 01 March 2008 at 10:30am
LOL! Charlotte was just saying today that she doesn't want to marry William anymore- she wants to marry Isabel AND Abby  So I may have a lesbian polygamist on my hands!
I must admit I am glad I most likely won't ever have a DIL! (I mean most likely in that the girls will most likely be straight NOT as in I might wind up having another child!). ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 01 March 2008 at 4:08pm
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Ha ha - me too Jen!! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |