Help from your other half???
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Topic: Help from your other half???
Posted By: Glow
Subject: Help from your other half???
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 8:26am
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I'm curious to know how much your other half helps out with the kids & around the house.
Is it all left up to you or do you share the work load? ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 8:29am
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lets see....Kent gets home at 6pm, we all have dinner, he then plays with Rhiannon and gives her a bath/shower, or will take her to the park to give me some time out...
He does the dishes as i cook, he hangs out and folds washing, but i do the bulk of the housework...but in saying that, he does all the work outside, gardening and lawns, painting etc, so we are pretty even i say ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 8:30am
I pretty much do it all. He does bath time at night and plays with them alot but I do all the housework/cooking/chores and pretty much all the the child related 'work'  ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: Kallie
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 8:35am
| We dont have any kids yet but DH does help me clean up. He hates dishes though but does the vacumming!! |
Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 8:39am
| LOL! Okay, Matt does dishes. Oh and if I bitch at him, he'll peg the washing out (usually I threaten dryer use) We have my mum come in and clean for us on fridays as I cant do it. He doesnt really do housework cuz he works so much - luckly from home, but still. He's crap with DIY or anything to do with outside, and I generally like to do most of that myself anyway! |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 8:39am
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Hmmm well out baby isnt here yet but at the moment Im home all day cos Im not working, so I do all the cleaning etc, he does the dishes for me though, and when I get annoyed with him he will clean up a bit aswell lol.
Ive told himt hough Ill need more help from him once our baby is here. ------------- |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 8:46am
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My DH being a pain atm..cause he's 'so tired'lol..but anyway normally he does the majority..he loves things clean and I don't...lol...but atm i do the dishes and the washing and look after the baby and he does everything else (he does EBM on weekends or if he's not 'too tired' :) and he does bath him cause I'm a bit scared:) oh and most of the nappies when hes home.. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 8:57am
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Hmmmm.. should i even put an imput in..
At the moment, i do everything. Hes good with cleaning up after himself (thank god) but he doesnt do dinner or anything, maybe once a fortnight.. ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 9:12am
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Dh gets home around 5.30 he'll play with the kids for half an hour then will cook dinner!! - Yes he cooks dinner every night!
He does the second wakeup during the night for Cooper. I do the first. If I ask he'll vacuum and fold the clothes. He is not allowed any where near the washing. I basically have the kids. Drop them off and pick them up from school. Of course I have Cooper all day. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: sparkle
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 9:13am
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Mine isn't too bad, I do inside, he does outside. BUT when he does do the housework I hear about it for days if you get what I mean! I don't tell him everytime I vaccum!
We take turns bathing Cooper and putting him down, but I go to him in the night as DH works the next day. He gets him up first thing though. Dinner is also taken in turns. Always a fun surprise when he is on........last night was hotdogs  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: gemsmum
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 9:13am
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Mine's actually pretty good. I do most of the cooking (I'm home first) but he's been doing the weekend cooking while ms is playing up. He generally does the after dinner clean up. We both do stuff with the kids. He vacumns and does all the outside stuff, and all the DIY. I do the major spring clean type clean ups (occasionally). Best of all, on the days I work he does Gem's school lunch!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 9:15am
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Mike should be the one answering this.
Equal.. if not more on his part. When i am working he takes over the motherly role, does the day to day stuff, dishes, washing etc, cooks cleans, baths them, all that stuff. Then the manly stuff too like the lawns and any building/fixing that needs doing. He doesn't mind dancing round to hi-5 or girly pop songs, (with his daughters that is lol   )
He cooks far nicer traditional meals that me.. ie the meat and 3 vege thing, and i do the cooking on the nights that i'm home to have a turn, and tend to be the nights we have the more out-there stuff like big vege-laden stir-frys and indian or other types of food. We take turns with things, so on nights where we are both home, I'll cook and he'll bath the kids or vice-versa and we just go and give a hand etc. It's like a well-oiled production line lol. Even down to bedtime routines we take turns reading stories at night, while the other cleans up after dinner, have a kid each to put in jammies, then i brush 1 kids hair while he takes the other to do teeth and then they swap. I do tend to be the one that puts them to bed when i am here - they pretty much will only let him put them to bed when i'm not here. And stuff like the major cleaning, like scrubbing the bathroom, washing floors, wiping kitchen cupboards is alllll mine. I find it so hard to comprehend guys that don't help out and don't lift a finger and then get grumpy cos you're tired and just want a break. It's 2000's guys, get off your but, play an equal part and stop being a neanderthal.  ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 9:23am
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At the moment its all ME ME ME ME. But usually he will help out, he cooks, cleans and does all the stuff outside. I do the lawns as I love doing them. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 9:23am
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My hubby does A LOT! He normally does all the pick up and drop offs and on the weekends entertains Miss M if I need to grab a snooze after an early shift.
We split the housework between us pretty evenly. I got myself a really good one!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 10:12am
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My DH does a lot, he is very good at doing loads of washing, pegging it out, folding it putting it away. He always does the dishwasher and will quite often cook dinner and clean kitchen. He never cleans the bathroom and will only hoover if asked to, but he doesn't make a performance about it. He looks after the gardens and we have a big section so its a big ask. He spends lots of time with Spencer either before or after work. He's not keen on nappy changes and he doesn't understand solids...lol but will make up bottles. (normally when Spencer related he comes and asks me if he's hungry/tired etc first). ------------- 
 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 10:29am
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My DH does a lot when he's actually home. He doesn't finish technically until 5:30.. but he's rarely home before 6 and can sometimes get home well after 8ish if he's been in the hawkes bay or somewhere for the day.
When he is around he does help a bit with the cleaning though he does have to be prompted a bit to do anything beyond clean the kitchen. I do almost all the washing. We share the cooking, I'm a vege, DH is a meat eater. If he wants meat cooked he does that himself and we will always cook together. On the weekends though he'll do anything and everything with Daniel. He doesn't mind nappy changes. He will feel Daniel and do anything I ask or if I go out he will be happy as to look after him. |
Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 10:31am
I do most of it myself but I do have a cleaner once a week which helps out big time 
DH is not allowed near the washing, he mucks it up every time. He also gets DD ready for daycare each morning, gives her breakfast etc and then picks her up in the afternoon. But I do all the cooking. I don't like pasta bake and it seems to be all he can make!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 11:01am
| lol I forgot to add - cooking wise - i wouldnt let Matt NEAR the kitchen unless I wanted to die from food poisoning, and i'm fussy with the washing - he puts everything all in the same load - towels and clothes (hate that) |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 11:08am
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DH plays with Isla when he gets home from work (5.15pm) while I cook dinner, and will supervise her dinner. He baths in with her, but I dress her etc. We then watches tv while I tidy up/ do dinner, but then he does the dishes most nights while I have a break.
He mows the lawns,washe the cars, and often does washing and will make the bed, and will do the food shopping if I do a list! |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 11:11am
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Right. Thats it- I'm trading mine in. I obviously got a dud It doesn't do what all the other ones seem to.
I blame the MIL!!!!  ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3
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Posted By: ShellandBella
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 11:19am
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We are equal (DH may even do more as I work more than him). If I cook, he does the dishes (and vice versa). When I am at work, he tidies (and may vacuum too ), does the washing, washes the nappies (I taught him well!), looks after the baby and baths Bella in the evening (if I've been at work and am tired) On the weekend, we both tidy and clean the house together. My DH has even started baking - he made banana loaf the other day and makes chocolate cake too!
We have a recipe roster that works in with who's working when so we do an equal share of cooking too. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 11:21am
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Lol Jennz - Yep definitely the MIL's responsibility! I'm already trying to teach my son how to do housework!
I got another good one. He does all the outside work and heaps of DIY. I do most of the housework, however he will cook, clean, do the washing etc if he sees that I'm tired or if I ask him to. When Ollie was born he basically did all the cooking and I took advantage of that for MONTHS! He spends time with Ollie when he gets home from work and will usually bath and put him down to bed. ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 11:23am
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KylahsMum - you're not alone.
We don't have kids yet, but I do the washing, the tidying, the dishes, a lot of the cooking. If I'm tired, he will cook (I'm teaching him how to cook - I don't eat 2 minute noodles which was his whole diet when he had to cook before I came along), but I can guarantee I will have to clean up afterwards. I do the washing because I don't want my work clothes to turn into different colours - self preservation really. If I get a bit naggy, he will do the vacuuming, but he HATES doing the dishes. He also does the lawns and outside stuff. We both make his lunch (he makes the sandwiches, I do everything else). It's not too bad though, if I'm tired he will help out, as we both work full-time and he knows what it is like to be tired. It's all give and take I guess. ETA: He will do something (quite happily) if I ask him to, but just doesn't offer to do it. |
Posted By: ShellandBella
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 11:25am
I so agree with you, Janine. Especially when both parties are working - its only fair, isn't it? I am really blessed and don't understand guys who don't pull their weight. Having said that, since DH took over 'primary cargiver' role for Bella he has begun to appreciate the hard work it is to look after her and do everything else, so that has really helped things in our household. And we are very much like a 'well oiled machine' too! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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mum2paris wrote:Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 11:46am
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During the day I try to stay on top of the washing - though he will often put it away or do loads in the weekend.
I don't vacuum - allergic to dust. I have never cleaned the toilet tiether, he does it so well. I mop and I also clean the bathroom. I do dust though not very often as I am allergic so it has to be a time when I am not leaving the house.I usually cook, he does all the dishes and cleaning up. Childcare - I do days during the week. He does dinner for lily, bath and bed every night he is home. In the weekend I can take off when I want and he looks after Lily. -------------  
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 12:17pm
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This is one of the reasons Arabellas dad and I didn't work out. . He did nothing - couldn't clean up after himself and didn't even know what drawers his clothes were in. . He complained if something wasn't done and wouldn't hold Arabella much especially if she cried. . And always had some reason to leave the house when it was her bedtime ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 12:23pm
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I traded mine in for a better one as the last one did absolutely nothing, infact I'm sure he created more work for me because he was so lazy and messy.
My new one does the dishes, washing, plays with Sam if I need to get something done and even gets up in the middle of the night if he hears Sam!!! (Not even his child!!) So I think I might have found a keeper.
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 12:37pm
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Lol Jennz, thanks for the giggle, very well said!
Mine used to be a useless toad that sat on his fat behind and let me look after Maya on my own and take care of the house and pay the bills and look after his older daughter. Then I left him and man, what a culture shock for him! Since we got back together 18 months later he has been much better. Not Man of the Year or anything but a vast improvement on Neanderthal Male. He starts work at 4am and doesn't finish till 5pm so I have the girls on my own till then (I have a nanny while I work). Then when he gets home he takes the girls and plays with them while I cook dinner. He sometimes (very occasionally!) does the dishes, I bath the kids and he dresses them and then he does the bedtime bottles and I put them to bed. I put Maya to bed coz she plays up if he puts her down coz he's not strict enough on the stay in bed rule. Sunday's are his only day off and he gets the girls up, dressed, fed etc. so I can sleep in, sometimes till lunchtime lol. He does cook sometimes if I'm flat out with work or going out, but he does the standard meat, potato, carrot and broccoli so it's pretty boring but the kids like it. We have a cleaner who does all the housework, and the nanny does the washing while the gremlins are asleep. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 1:23pm
Maaaaan, can he come and clean my toilet - while I do have a cleaner, I sitll have to do it during the week too and I dont think DH would know what a toilet brush was!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BellaBoo
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 1:56pm
Mine is not too bad although I do have to give instructions on how to do everything. I appreciate the fact that he does some dishes but dont appreciate the dried up food on it when it is time to put it away . We often set aside an hour on Sunday when Bella is asleep and both get stuck in to the cleaning. I do however keep the house tidy during the week and do all the washing. When he does do a load (once in a blue moon) he only does his and not mine Oh and we share the cooking. ------------- http://lilypie.com">   http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 2:09pm
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We try and split housework fairly evenly... having said that we've agreed that DH's job is paid employment so that we can survive, and my job is raising the children! Once he'd realised that looking after 3 kids is a full-time job in itself, things got alot better!
I vacuum, mop, clean shower/basin/toilet, do the washing and cook dinner 4 nights a week. Nat dusts, cooks 3 nights (and any others I need rescuing on), mows the lawn, washes the car, and will vacuum or bring in/fold washing if I ask. We do the dishes together, and whoever remembers first sets up the breadmaker to make the loaf overnight for breakfast. When we're both home (evenings and weekends) we split the childcare between us... whoever notices that its time to change nappies does it, etc. Shower nights are a joint job, with Nat usually putting the boys in and washing hair/bodies, then we take one each when they get out and dry/dress them. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Mum2ET
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 2:21pm
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DH gets home around 5.30 and then he entertains Ella while I do clean up after Ellas dinner and start our dinner preparation. We do bath time together and then I put her down to bed. He cooks dinner once or twice a week (the days that I am working), sometimes does the vacuuming in the weekends, mows the lawn, puts the rubbish out ,washes the cars and feeds the cats.....so he does quite a bit. During the weekend he will play with Ella and changes the occasional nappy but most the baby stuff is left to me. He will do something if I ask, but I do have to ask him first to do it.... (i.e. give her food). In the weekends have just started him giving her b/fast one morning and then I will do the other morning so we both get a turn to lie in bed for an extra 1/2 hr or so. ------------- Mum to Ella (5) and Tom (2) |
Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 2:25pm
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Ha I think I have a dudd too..
We dont have kids yet, but I do everything inside and he does outside. He will sometimes make a meal on the weekend but thats usually something like toasties or something like that lol. He reckons hes going to be great when kids coming along - I sure hope so! Mind you to be fair to him, he does get up at 4am and doesnt get home until 6 so hes normally in bed at 7.30! Thats all about to change soon though yipppeee
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 3:07pm
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DH comes home, bathes Rowan, plays with her, changes her and settles her while I get dinner ready and then does the late EBM feed. In the night I do the feed and then he gets up and changes her. In the morning he will often make me breakfast before he goes to work to make sure I eat.
I usually manage to get washing and dinner done but not much else. He does dishes and whatever I haven't got to that really needs to be done. He even stuffs nappies! I usually feel horribly guilty about the amount he does especially the night changes but he insists that it's his job too and I work just as hard as he does during the day. I my DH
Edit to add: Of course I'll be doing much more once she's a bit older and is actually sleeping for any length of time in the day. -------------  
 
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 3:24pm
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Mine has obsessive compulsive disorder, so i can never be equal with him.
He does the dishes, and pretty much follows me around everywhere picking things up. he will even reclose my duchess drawers so they shut properly, even though i am still standing there trying to decide what to wear. he has a tendency to rewash the dishes if i have done them. he also does the vacuuming every day, sometimes twice. and will get behind every single piece of furniture. everything has to be organised the night before. including my stuff. he likes me to be organised, including my towel, knickers, clothes picked for the next day, cell phone, keys, purse, shoes lined up at the door. He cant cook though, and generally all the parenting duties like showering, reading stories, etc etc are on me. he also spends hours doing ironing and having things perfect. years ago he used to go crazy if i hadnt done things to "his standard" but hes definately calmed down a bit now. i just let him do his thing and deal to janaya! ------------- Mummy to two beauties... Formerly Kaiz. |
Posted By: hailstones
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 3:51pm
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My DH is Fantastic! He is a great help around the house, he spends the day looking after Elle and will do a general tidy up, and then goes off to work (I work day shifts, he works nights). Although he is great with general tidy ups, he is not so great at cleaning IYKWIM, so he tidys up and then I come in and do the actual cleaning (you know toilets, bathrooms etc).
I generally do the cooking around here (that tends to happen when you are a chef) and its easier for me to cook, cause if he does there is a giant mess to clean after. He is a great help to me though, couldn't complain at all! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 7:04pm
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I'm the "other half" here IYGWIM...
When I get home from work I play with the girls then we tidy the toys and set the table together while DH cooks dinner. I put through a load of dishes every morning before work and we share the bedtime dressing etc. We have a housekeeper to vacuum, mop and change beds and we pay for the lawns to get done too. On the weekends we share getting ready to go out, meals (except that I cook dinners and DH watches the kiddies), nappies (finders keepers ), etc. And DH pretty much does everything else during the week------------- |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 7:17pm
Ditto. And I'm actually surprised at how many DH/DP's are very helpful of their own accord, cause mine has told me that he's "just a typical male" and won't do anything without being nagged into it
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 7:19pm
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Mine didn't help of his own accord, he was 'broken in' when we had #2 and I just about burnt out lol ------------- |
Posted By: Rackhell
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 9:13pm
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I do food preparation and DH does all the cooking (I invariably burn things, I'm just not good about being in the kitchen) and DH will set things to soak.
He does the outside, washes both cars and will occassionally vacuum for me. Since cath has been born I still have not done a full grocery shop either, so i think that I have a darn good DH. I do the childcare but as he works 7:30 to 5:30 this is not surprising. He's never fussed about a crappy nappy, and will bath and agonise over what she wears on the weekend (very funny to watch!). I do feel incredibly blessed. |
Posted By: SquishysMum
Date Posted: 05 March 2008 at 9:59pm
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No kids here yet either, but my DH is just wonderful (most of the time!)
he does the dishes every night, and cooks when I'm too tired or working late. He will peg the washing up before work if I've put it on before I go out. And when I came home tonight, he'd tidied the living room, kitchen and dining table! Admittedly it was because we had a potential flatmate coming round, but it was nice to not have to stress after a long day. I think I'll keep him...
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 06 March 2008 at 6:41am
| My dh, well he tries. i work full time during the day and he works during the night so we share the child care duties and the kids go to daycare at 12. he will do some housework - but I usually have to leave a list of some sorts. at the moment he will do the dishes and washing without prompting - but anything other than that needs to be reminded. Taht said, when he is with the kids he will not do housework - he plays with them. He encourages me to do the same. |
Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 06 March 2008 at 8:39am
| Seriously Kaiz how do you cope?! I couldnt cope if DH was that organised - I like to call my house organised chaos lol |
Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 06 March 2008 at 10:22am
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I dont know booboo... ------------- Mummy to two beauties... Formerly Kaiz. |
Posted By: Shorty
Date Posted: 06 March 2008 at 10:26am
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LOL Jennz & Pepsi. I am in that same boat.
Need to trade my "typical" male. Up for offers? |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 06 March 2008 at 10:43am
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I am the SAH mom so it is naturally for me to do most of the housework. But just taking evenings in consideration and weekends I will say it is about 75% me and 25% him in the house.
He baths McKayla if she has a bath that night. Some days she showers with me or her dad. He makes the hot chock for her at night and sometimes tea for me. I cook at night (but that is while he is still at work.) I do the dishes and cleaning of kitchen and lounge before bedtime. I entertain McKayla most nights while he does his thing and his chill time. He does play with her a bit during the week. He locks up when we go to bed. In the mornings I take care of McKayla. Make breakfast and his lunch and if we go to Playcentre morning tea for bubs. He just gets ready for work. On weekends he will help out with nappy changing ect. It depends who she goes to for a change or who she is closest to at the time. He doesnt try and get out of it. He plays quite a lot with her. Does the garderning. I am not allowed to mow the lawns at all as he feels it is too dangerous. He refuse to do the shopping with me but did go do clothesshopping last weekend with me for McKayla. He will totally take care of her while I study even if it is during the weeknight. He is a full on Dad and some days I wish he can help more with cleaning over a weekend but that I think is just a typical male thing. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 06 March 2008 at 10:45am
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i dont agree with typical male thing...my Dh is very clean ;...loves to have things tidy..and more of the messy people i know are women:) lol. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 06 March 2008 at 2:15pm
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Hmmm yeah I have to say it was all women who were my messiest of flatmates, and the guys were generally fab! Well my DH does the renovations here (yes, the saga of our marriage!). I don't help with those - I helped with a rental we had, but here have only scraped away lead paint and haven't done anything more for almost 2 years! So he doesn't bust a gut on the housework - or "your jobs" as he calls them!!! (yeah, he got that from his parents; his siblings still refer to helping with housework as "got stuck having to do one of mum's jobs" ------------- Andie |
Posted By: Bel
Date Posted: 06 March 2008 at 2:32pm
Same around here!! The standard rule is that I do inside and he does outside... I think I lost out somewhere... But the best bit is that mum thinks that I SHOULD be doing everything - as he goes to work and I am at home all the time! So I am trying to keep up with all the washing and housework - not as easy as I thought it would be. DH loves helpig with Luke and is fine with changing nappies, bathtime etc, so that helps me out, because I can then get dinner ready. Now that we are moving to formula, he can do bottles too ------------- Mum to two beautiful kids
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Posted By: hooper
Date Posted: 06 March 2008 at 2:40pm
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i do most of the house work but DP does the out side so iam fine with that, we normally take turns with the cooking.
He always takes over with DD when he comes home from work which is good. ------------- Desiree 
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Posted By: kabe
Date Posted: 06 March 2008 at 2:55pm
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We share the cooking, doing alternate nights each. DH baths Eva, dresses her and changes her nappy whenever he's home.
I do most of the housework, but he'll help out if I ask him to. He also does his own laundry and ironing. It's funny how traditional the roles can get once a baby is born. Prior to Eva's arrival, we shared the housework more evenly. However, as I'm at home all day, I think it's only fare that I do more HW. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 06 March 2008 at 7:57pm
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We're pretty 'traditional' here - DH does outside, I do in. Prior to Jack we did all cleaning on a Saturday morning and it would be quite equal, but we're not really back into a routine as such yet. DH looks after Jack when I work (usually 3-4 nights a week) and takes a feed in the weekends one night so I get a full nights sleep. If I ask him to he'll help with hanging out washing and drying dishes, but I wouldn't want him to fold clothes or clean the bathroom as I'm very pedantic about all of that!
He's pretty good really. I think I probably cut him a bit of slack though as he's in a job he doesn't particularly love just so we can have a house and a baby, so he has to be commended for that 
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 10:58am
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We share pretty much everything. I work at an office 37.5 hrs pw, he works 30 hrs pw. He looks after Michaela from 6:45am - 3:30pm mon-fri and I do the rest of the time (including taking her out on one weekend day so he can have a rest).
As far as housework goes we're pretty much even too. I'll do more 'cleaning' than he does but I don't vacuum or do the mowing and gardening. I do all the cooking but he organises Michaela's breakfast and lunch 5 days per week and occasionally makes me chocolate fudge (mmmm) and is always happy to help if asked. ------------- http://lilypie.com">   http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 11:09am
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Mine is so great now. He used to be terrible and hardly even held Jack let alone did any housework.
Now we all get up together around 7, sometimes I lie in bed for a while lol he makes everyone breakfast (including me) while entertaining the kids and making his lunch. When I make it up I feed Caprece or instruct him to feed her and then he changes Jacks nappy if he has time before work. I only do the washing during the day, the rest of my day is kid time or relax time. I cook tea and when he gets home around 6 30 I'm usually bathing the kids. After bath he gets Jack dressed and puts him to bed and read his stories. Caprece is really clingy to me at the moment so I get her all ready for bed. I do the dishes and clean up toys after the kids are in bed and one of us vacums. I do all the other cleaning on the weekend and he does all the outside jobs on the weekend. Ben sometimes gets up to the kids if the wake in the night if I'm too tired. Its 50/50 with childcare on the weekend. |
Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 3:53pm
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I confess that I am the slob in the marriage! I plan all the meals for the week, usually do the groceries and cook about half of them (depending on how tired I am). DH does the rest of the meals, the kitchen and the cleaning. We do 1/2 the washing each, depending who has run out of undies first. I sleep in on the weekends and DH gets up early so tends to get the housework done while I'm asleep. And if I'm lucky, I get breakfast in bed . ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 3:56pm
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Im another lucky lass: DH cooks, does teh washing, hangs it out, brings it in, folds it, takes care of teh bills does teh food shopping!!
I do the rest ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6"> 
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