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Topic: I got some answers

Posted By: kebakat
Subject: I got some answers
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 6:58pm

Today has been one very long day..

Firstly Daniel had insane wind in the early hours of the morning and decided to scream the house down for about 3 hrs straight. Not a great start to the day!

Arrive at the hospital at 8am sharp to get bloods done. They said they would take about an hour to have the results so DH and I walk to a nearby park to kill some time. Finally at 10:30 we get the results! Grrrr, that's one long hour!

My hcg had dropped. It was over 1100 and was now about 900. I've been "diagnosed" with an ectopic miscarriage.

Good and bad.

The house surgeon didn't seem to know what she was talking about so I was very glad to see the gynae.

I was given 3 options:
1. conservative: go away have continuous bloods and another scan in a few days - basically monitor my situation
2. get given some heavy duty drugs - they are actually a form of chemotherapy which should speed things up and expell the "problem". works 95% of the time.
3. surgery, involving removal of my left tube.

We ended up going for number 2. So I've ended up with a very sore butt from being injected with drugs. Both arms are sore from all the bloods with one arm with nasty bruises and also needed anti-d.

The downside to this approach is that I'm not allowed to be alone for the next 2 weeks in case I hemmorrage (as it's ectopic it's still a big risk) and I am not allowed to get preggers for the next 6 months as the drugs will still be in my system and damage any eggs my body releases. But it's worth a shot than damaging my fertility by removing one of my tubes. And to top that all off my chances of having another ectopic pregnancy increases dramatically.

I'm so shattered. I'm buggered from lack of sleep but also because we didn't get out of the hospital until 2pm, and I had been fasting since midnight so no food or drink in that time. Not to mention the stress of it all.

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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:01pm

Aww Stacey!

You've had to go through so much in the past few days!
I hope you have someone nearby to help out - your mum or someone?

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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:04pm

awwww hunny i am so so so sorry to hear this news

, i had all my fingers crossed that it wasnt an ectopic, I hope that things arent too nasty for you.

I am thinking of you and your family

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Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:04pm

Oh Stacey... wow. I guess it's a good thing you didn't get your hopes up about this pregnancy. It sucks that this has to happen to anyone. Huge hugs to you guys, I hope you get some rest and feel better tomorrow.

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Posted By: JadeC
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:24pm

Oh no, I'm sorry it's come to this. Take care of yourself

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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:30pm

Hugs hunny, it all sounds terrible!!! You poor thing going through all this... there is some definite lows to trying to have children isn't there, hugely stressful time. I hope the drugs do their job & there are no more complications with it.

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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:31pm

How do they know that it was ectopic?

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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:31pm

Oh gosh. Really sorry u had to go through all that Stacey. Hope u are able to rest up over the weekend, and the drugs dont knock u too much.

Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:33pm

Hugs. Hope things settle down for you really quickly

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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:35pm

Oh my gosh, Stacey, that's so much to go through. You hang in there, girl... my thoughts are with you.

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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:37pm

Stacey

Posted By: Mum2ET
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:49pm

so sorry to hear that Stacey

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Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:57pm

I'm so sorry Stacey. What a horrible full on day. So much to process and deal with. Thinking of you.

Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:59pm

Anytime you need me, txt me OK.

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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 8:02pm

Hey you!
So sorry to hear the news. Take care of yourself.
Hugs!

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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 8:09pm

Wow! I'm sorry to hear that. How can you be 'supervised' 24/7? Has your DH got time off?

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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 8:31pm

oh no!

I hope the drugs do their thing and everything goes as smoothly as it can. How stressful and horrible it must be for all of you.

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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 8:41pm

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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 9:13pm

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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 9:23pm

sorry to hear that. did they do another scan?

Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 9:41pm

Big hugs Stacey

Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 07 March 2008 at 10:34pm

Oh Stacey... I feel for you and Richard.

xoxoxoxoxoxox

I hope you manage to get some rest and hugs etc over the next while.

Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 08 March 2008 at 12:24am

So very sorry to hear your bad news Stacey. Hugs and thoughts to you and Richard.

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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 08 March 2008 at 6:59am

Stacey, I'm so sorry that you are going through this

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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 08 March 2008 at 8:07am

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Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 08 March 2008 at 9:02am

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Posted By: AandRs_mum
Date Posted: 08 March 2008 at 11:04am

kebakat
I am so so sorry. I hope you are felling better soon. It is not a nice thing to go thro. I have lost a few babies but never this way. I am thinking of you. Be kind to yourself hun. When you feel ready go and spoil yourself

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Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 08 March 2008 at 11:54am

Stacey, thinking of you

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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 08 March 2008 at 11:56am

Stacey, I am so very sorry to hear that the loss has been compounded by having to go through this treatment as well. Big hugs and hoping that things don't get worse.

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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 08 March 2008 at 12:39pm

My mum is going to come over each weekday while DH is at work and the days that she can't DH is going to work from home.

Cuppatea they know it's ectopic because of the scan. It showed nothing in my uterus but did show it right beside my left ovary. It's so obvious that even I can see it very clearly. And all my pain has been on my left side, none on the right.

Stupid meds have made me feel blah, the anti nausea stuff is partly working at least.

Posted By: james
Date Posted: 08 March 2008 at 1:06pm