Wheres the drive?!
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Topic: Wheres the drive?!
Posted By: Guests
Subject: Wheres the drive?!
Date Posted: 12 February 2006 at 5:15pm
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Hey girls
I dont know what to do, i have absolutely no sex drive what so ever not even an inkling, im a newly wed and love my husband to bits but i feel really mean coz i have no desire to please him or put out so to speak  did anyone else have this problem and when did it return?
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 12 February 2006 at 6:20pm
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I don't know if it was lack of drive, morning sickness, or fear of hurting the baby, but we only had 'relations' about 5 times during my entire pregnancy. Some people say theirs comes on with a vengeance but definitely not for me.
I'm not one to ask for advice about it tho - Willie went 'shopping around' to solve the problem  (We were only very barely together at that stage)-------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 12 February 2006 at 7:41pm
Yeah I was like you Jess. It did return when I was about 5 months, but by then Daniel was NOT keen!!  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 12 February 2006 at 7:45pm
Me too Jess, and it hasn't returned..... Sorry! Luckily my dh is understanding... sort of... !! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 12 February 2006 at 7:49pm
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I had quite a high drive during both my pregnancies, but I bled so much with Josiah it kinda put a dampner on things. I didn't fully get my sex drive back until Josiah was a couple of months old and all the random bleeding had stopped.
That aside, us women are funny creatures. The more sex we have, the more we want! AND, if we tell ourselves we are maybe a little interested in some fun with our partners, then we will enjoy that fun more! What I did to help get my drive back was tell Nathaniel in the morning that I was going to jump him that evening, then the for rest of the day the anticipation would help get me in the mood to follow through on my promise. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: kasbee
Date Posted: 12 February 2006 at 8:52pm
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hey Jess i had no sex drive at all with both my pregnancies My hubby got it twice with my first and once with my second, i'm suprised he didn't pack his bags and leave. With Blair it took a while to come back but with the twins it was back within 3 months. I remember talking to my midwife about this and she said it is very normal some women want it and others don't. ------------- Kelly, mother to 4 wonderful children. http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 12 February 2006 at 11:03pm
I had a really high sex drive while preggers but now it is at ZILCh and hubby is not impressed  so sorry can't help either.... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 13 February 2006 at 10:32am
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. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 13 February 2006 at 11:21am
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I had a huge sex drive with my first, then nothing with my second and third, I'm probably lucky hubby didn't go walk about. Talk about being patient. I was 4 months pregnant with our second on our wedding night and he didn't even get it then. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: mamawendz
Date Posted: 13 February 2006 at 3:10pm
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There really is nothing you can do. I don't seem to have that problem yet, but my bump is starting to make things difficult! haha
I did read though that mid-pregnancy is when some woman enjoy making love more than ever before... so fingers crossed perhaps? I'm sure your hubby loves you to bits and can live without it for the sake of his child... I find my darling hubby is sometimes too concerned about the baby to want to go there anyway. Its hard, but its just one of those things you have to sacrifice I guess? ------------- mama_wendz My Girls: Maddisyn Tylr & Layla-Mei Virginia
My Baby Boy: Noah Aotearoa
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 13 February 2006 at 3:54pm
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My hubby is very understanding and to be honest we both feel it would be a little wierd...silly I know!
Probably a good thing seeing as I have as much interest in sex as I do in have a root canal with no pain relief! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: tania4
Date Posted: 13 February 2006 at 3:57pm
Drive?Are we supposed to have drive?? haha,when i was preggers with both the girls i couldnt get enough but with this one(boy)i cant even find the energy Hubby is really understanding(thank god)I am just hoping it returns afterwards But then I will probably have less energy
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 13 February 2006 at 6:03pm
Yeh hes being really good about it and i said i wasnt gonna do it for the sake of doing it coz then id get sick of it, i dont think he can fully grasp that idea lol but hes getting there  Kinda hard to want it when you have round ligament pain etc lol
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Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 13 February 2006 at 6:40pm
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I was the same and we attempted it when i had about a week to go to get things going it was the worst i didn't want it and ben thought he was hiting baby on the head ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 14 February 2006 at 7:50am
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Hey Jess I have this problem too with this pregnancy, wasnt a problem the first time around but this time I have absolutely NO interest at all, I'd rather go to sleep lol. By 6 weeks after DS all was ok again, they just have to learn to be patient lol ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 14 February 2006 at 10:17am
well it is valentines day today and as I forgot to get Peter anything.... looks like I will have to get over it today hehehehe  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 14 February 2006 at 10:34am
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hehe. go ana!!!
As for me, drive is pertty much gone, although with Lewis back in Japan, it's probably a relief to him, rather than a misery. However, I must say that using it for guilt-tripping works a treat. "i'm just so tired after looking after the kids AND doing all th housework.." (me) "Here baby, let me wash the dishes and vacuum for you tonight" (lew) "oh, that wuold help a little....probably be feeling relaxed enough if you gave me a massage too...." (me) 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 14 February 2006 at 10:56am
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ROFL! Liz, that's priceless! I'm SO gonna remember that! Just wait, Nathaniel... you're not gonna know what's hit you! Hehehe... ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 14 February 2006 at 1:10pm
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Very good liz lmao!!!
I had a really high sex drive when preg and after had the boys. As for now - well since my ex and I broke up its nothing!! People ask if I miss sex but I'm way too busy running around after two 2year olds and to be quite honest have gotten used to not having to share my bed (unless one of my little dudes sneaks in in the middle of the night lol) ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 14 February 2006 at 3:19pm
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We're kind of at-it on schedule atm with TTC. Really spoils the moment. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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