Am I weird?
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Forum Name: Life After Miscarriage
Forum Description: Up to one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet for many the loss of a pregnancy is isolating and lonely. Share your thoughts and feelings here with others who have experienced loss.
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Topic: Am I weird?
Posted By: kebakat
Subject: Am I weird?
Date Posted: 11 March 2008 at 7:22pm
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I'm meant to be miscarrying, my hcg levels had dropped when I had my last bloods (friday) and I've had very mean drugs to "help me along" to make sure this ectopic gets flushed.
Thing is, and this might sound heartless or anything.. But.. I actually don't care that I'm miscarrying. I just want it to hurry up already. Is this weird? |
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 11 March 2008 at 7:25pm
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No I don't think your weird at all for the way you are thinking. The pregnancy wasn't viable so you want/need it out of your system asap. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 11 March 2008 at 7:26pm
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No I felt like that too, after the scan confirmed for sure that things weren't progressing as they should I just wanted it to end. I was actually relieved when the bleeding started and I am now relieved that it has stopped. I am upset but a lot of it is that I feel that I should be more upset, if that makes sense. I think that perhaps it just hasn't sunk in properly yet.
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 11 March 2008 at 7:37pm
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no your not weird at all, i felt excatly the same way, just couldnt wait for it to be all over with, so i could start to deal with it and move one.
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 11 March 2008 at 7:38pm
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Yeah I want the bleeding to hurry up and start - so long as it's not the hemmorraging that I'm being supervised for.
But I think that will show too, my CM has a pink tinge to it so I'm thinking it won't be too far away. Esp since it's been 5 days since I got those drugs in my system. But I really don't care that it's miscarrying. The biggest part that sucks is that I'm not allowed to try again for 6 months! Grr! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 11 March 2008 at 10:16pm
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You've probably already dealt in part with the knowledge that it 'wasn't going to happen', but I think whatever your thoughts on being pg, anyone who knows they are going to m/c just wants it over and done with. Take care -------------  |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 12 March 2008 at 10:55am
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I think that's a normal response, but at the same time, be prepared for a bit of a rollercoaster over the next few weeks, things seem to hit you when you least expect it, esp with all the hormones etc. involved. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 12 March 2008 at 7:07pm
| My friend who is a shrink doesn't believe that will happen to be (the rollercoaster thing) because I'm the type of person who might get sh*tty if anything is going to happen but I don't get down and depressed. I just take everything in my stride, probably because I've seen friends go through much worse than I have, or ever will. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 13 March 2008 at 8:11pm
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OK so I've been thinking about this since yesterday, and I need to say this. Ouch! I'm a bit offended by your last post Stacey. This is pure;y my opinion, not getting at you personally, but it's going to make my head explode if I don't get this out.
I mean, sure, we all know people who have been thru tough times, I have several friends who have had stillborn babies at term, and a close friend who lost her son to SIDS at 7 months in Feb '06, and that's truly tragic for them. But that doesn't undervalue the things that I have been thru in my life. Who decides which is "worse" and who's had the roughest deal? IMO there is no "worst", each experience is what it is to those going thru it. I'm normally an incredibly strong person, I take on the problems of the world and don't often take time to feel sorry for myself, but losing my baby was, and is, the most devastating experience I have ever been thru in my life and I don't feel I'm weak because I grieved and raged and reacted to it. I wasn't suggesting that you definitely *would* go thru the whole rollercoaster thing, just to give you some idea of what *might* happen. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 13 March 2008 at 9:29pm
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It's just the way that I see things. It obviously differs from yours so you shouldn't take offence at it because it wasn't aimed at anyone but myself.
Everyone sees those types of things in life differently and gets effected by it differently. I still stand by what I said. I've seen a friend die of aids.. and watching that is far worse than anything I'll ever go through so that is part of why I said what I said. |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 14 March 2008 at 1:46pm
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I don't think you need to worry Emma - losing a pregnancy/baby is a very personal thing and also dependent on a lot of hormones etc so I would never consider someone weak for 'caring' about their loss. Nor would I consider someone callous for not outwardly dealing with the same thing.
I'm a bit of a stony heart and like to move on from these things quickly. I must admit with the pregnancy I terminated, I did have a massive crying session (which I entirely blame on hormones) but then I got over most of it and just wanted it to happen. Anyway, internalise away Stacey  We all have to deal with these things how we need to!
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