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Topic: Question for SAHM’s
Posted By: Mookey
Subject: Question for SAHM’s
Date Posted: 15 March 2008 at 10:35pm
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How did you make the decision not to return to work? I mean, what was it that made you think "no, definitely not going back". Money, emotional, etc? TIA. ------------- http://www.cushytush.co.nz - |
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 15 March 2008 at 11:44pm
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I always thought I would be back at work asap - 3 months even. It was a great surprise to discover that I didn't want to once LIly was here.
For me it is purely emotional. I have worked in early childhood so I know how great the care can be, I have no problems reccomending childcare to others and I have even conducted research into the importance of regular breaks from children as part of a high level university paper. But I can't leave her. It is that simple. The very idea of someone else spending every day with ehr breaks my heart. I may have to return to work soon one day a week (and eventually will have to for some money) and I don't even want to think about it. I just enjoyed it so much - still do - every day with Lily is a pleasure and even the bad ones are good. There are very few moments that I don't enjoy - event he screaming clinginess with teeth just makes me roll my eyes and cuddle her closer. I am very surprised to find that I am so well suited to the role of SAHM. I consider myself a feminist and I am a SAHM who sews as a hobby and cooks. Still a feminist though. I think a key to it though is how well you handle isolation. I am really happy with my own company and find the chat online on this and another forum are enough on the days that I don't hang out with adults. if I neeeded more than that - as many people do - then I would probably look to work. But I am happy with me and my Lily. -------------  
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 12:12am
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I suppose as alot of us do I never thought that I be able to afford to be a SAHM, and assumed that I would be back at work by the time Samantha was 6 months old.
As it got closer to the date I was due to go back we actually sat down and worked out the budget. As it turned out by the time I had taken into account the cost of fulltime daycare, parking, petrol, etc etc we would only have been $250 a month better off. This suited me fine as I would have been heartbroken to leave her in someone elses care. I personally feel like I waited so long for my wee girl that I just couldn't bare to let someone else see her firsts. I suppose the other thing that helped me make the decision was that I really hated my job by the end of my pregnancy. My boss had been a real (insert numerous bad words here) during my pregnancy and I can't imagine they would have been understanding about me needing time off for a sick child when it arose. 
I went in a few weeks ago and handed in my notice - one of the best days of my life  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 3:45am
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i was also a preschool teacher and although as miss said there are benefits..for me i couldnt put him into fulltime care.. I couldnt miss his firsts as PP says..I've seen too many children who are so very attached to me because they spend so long in my care and we see their firsts.
also even though i could take my baby to work with me..i didnt want to..its not fair on the other kids..and although money is tight..we can *just* afford to have me at home and its important to both of us that one parent is home...DH wants it to be him but he earns way more than me and I would be gutted if i didnt get to be the main carer....i trust him 100% ..but its my job:)! before i had him I thought I would be fine with leaving him but quickly realised I'm not..I have regular small breaks but for me personally..at least at the moment being at home with him is best for both of us. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 7:46am
I've been a sahm for 2 and a half years now and I still haven't made the decision, LOL, I feel differently every week almost  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 7:50am
| We sat down and worked out how much better off we would be and it wasn't much, about $200-300 a month. We decided that the stress of getting to work/daycare on time wasn't worth the hastle and I also didn't want to leave Daniel. |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 8:01am
I always wanted to be a SAHM but we didn't think we could afford it, turns out we could. God knows where all our money use to go. If I were to put Spencer in full time childcare we would be $6-700 a week better off. Oh well I just don't think about that
I did originally intend to return part time but that hasn't really happened and i now just work casually around DH's work so maybe 5-10 hours a week. I would like to spend the preschool years at home and then may return to work properly. Oh so to summarise, completely emotional here as the financial situation would be a million times better with me at work. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 8:50am
I always thought I would be a SAHM, I never liked the idea of putting my child in daycare - nothing wrong with it for some people just not right for me. Although I had problems getting used to the idea that my entire life had changed once Jack was born, plus I liked my job, so when Jack was about 3mths old I asked if I could work from home part time. I realise now that it was a mistake (yes, has taken me about 7mths!  ) as it put too much pressure on me. I have resigned now and am just working out my notice. Although on some bads days I wish I was back at work, those days as so few and far between. Plus I would miss all the amazing things that Jack learns how to do - still in the glow of seeing my baby start to crawl, not quite at the tearing my hair out stage when he just pulls the house apart! ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 9:46am
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Amen S, though must say, they were very forgiving of my very huge mistake last week ------------- "> 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 10:14am
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I didn't really have much choice, I wasn't working before I had them and I have never worked so don't have any experience and would prob have a hard time getting a job that would make us any better off. I love being at home with the kids and it would break my heart having send them somewhere else most of their awake time.
On the other hand I'm looking at going into full time study next year so will have to put them in daycare. I'm a bit sad about putting Caprece in at 18 months (if it all goes to plan) but I know I've already had the most important time with her and I'm doing it to make our life better in the future. It really is a hard one and a completely personal decision. |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 10:42am
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I wasn't earning a heck of a lot on retail wages before I had Ella. I really enjoyed my job but if I were to have gone back all my earnings would have gone on paying for childcare anyway.
I do love that I am able to stay home with the kids and feel very lucky that we can afford to have me stay home. I really wouldn't want to have someone else doing it, although there are days when I feel like I could happily give them away! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 2:28pm
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Id love to stay home BUT I earn enough to support our family and DH doesnt so at the end of my p/leave DH will resign and be a SAHD ... at least she will have one of us fulltime ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 2:48pm
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That's what we are thinking about doing.. have only just started talking about it. I earn more than DH so we are trying to work out if I go back to my job will I be earning enough to keep us happy.
My other two kids both went into d/c but they were only in there part time as I've only ever worked part time so I really didn't have any guilt about that. I was gutted about how much we paid though in a year! Enough to have a family holiday or buy a decent car! ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 7:29pm
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When Grant and me got together and we talked about our future both of us felt strongly that one should be the primary caregiver and as far as possible we would like to be the ones in our kids lives for the most part.
We didnt wanted to leave her in the care of someone else for the major part of the week. We did however say if the parent that stays behind is feeling like it aint working we will discuss it at that point. I really wanted to be a SAHM and Grant knew he would not cut it as a SAHD. We were never use to a two income salary so the money wasnt a problem. We knew how to cut costs when needed ect. Sometimes I feel like I dont contribute (society pressure) and will feel really bad about it and then just to prove a point to me Grant will work out what it will costs us at the moment for me to actually go to work and it will just not work out. It really works out great for us. After I had her I really cant see myself putting her in creche and rushing to a job and then rush back get her. Make food, clean house, put her in bath and then in bed and live for weekends. Hey it aint glamarous being a SAHM most of the time but I love it. ( 95% of the time anyway.) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 16 March 2008 at 10:06pm
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With Maya it was neccessity - I didn't go back to work but went back to full time study when she was 5 months old, I had to finish my degree if I wanted to get off the DPB.
With the gremlins I planned to take a year but went back after 5 months coz I was bored out of my brain, missed my job and the money of course helps. I'm lucky tho that my job is super flexible and I mostly work from home so can fit it in around the kids. We chose a nanny for childcare as it suits our needs best, she looks after the gremlins while I work and is also on hand if I need an extra pair of hands for doctors appts etc. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 8:17am
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As much as I'd love to be a SAHM we decided I had to return to work after 5 months because at the time we thought we couldn't do without my income but the closer we got to D-Day the worse I felt about leaving Michaela in the care of strangers.
DH and I discussed it seriously and we both agreed that we would rather our baby girl be raised by us instead of other people. We then did the sums and found that over 1/2 of DH's salary would pay for childcare then once we took into account travel to work, work lunches, office expenses (occasional leaving gifts, morning teas etc), work clothes etc plus the emotional cost of sending our little baby into care (I know daycare's not bad but this is how we felt at the time) it actually made good financial sense for DH to quit his job and become a superdad. ------------- http://lilypie.com">   http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mookey
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 8:25am
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Well thanks for all your input - we have made a decision. I'm going to resign today.
How does this sound for the letter: I hereby tender my resignation to you, effective immediately. I will not be returning from maternity leave, as I have decided to be a stay at home mum. Should any opportunities arise where I could work from home as well as look after my son, I would be interested in discussing them with you. I have enjoyed working at {company name}, and wish you well for the future. ------------- http://www.cushytush.co.nz - |
Posted By: sparkle
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 8:56am
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that sounds fine. I like the part "Should any opportunities arise where I could work from home as well as look after my son, I would be interested in discussing them with you." Plants a seed.......
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Posted By: Mookey
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 9:01am
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It sure is!
But I really enjoyed working for them for the 4 years that I was there, and would definitely work for them again in the future, so really want to leave the door open for me. Hopefully it works! ------------- http://www.cushytush.co.nz - |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 9:08am
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i couldnt go back cause fat boy only wanted boob :) i rushed back to do 4 hours work and then rushed home to feed him etc but it was so exhausting and he wasnt sleeping for his poppa. now he is taking bottle but im due to go overseas and then we have to fall pregs this year ......we so need the money but next year will have to do :) ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 9:51am
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OK so my opinion might be a bit unpopular - I thought twice about sharing it and erred on the other side of caution. But I think that if you have a supportive partner - as in, they do their best to earn their wages, then deciding whether or not to go back to work is a lifestyle choice rather than a financial one. I hear lots of people saying that they didn't have a choice - their family needed the additional money. No, I think their lifestyle needs the additional money - and if that's what they choose and they're happy with that, then go for it, and don't feel bad about it! We shouldn't have to justify wanting to buy more and healthier groceries, or wanting to rent a more kid-friendly house (or whatever reason it is that someone has), and therefore choosing to work. But it does really irk me to hear people go on about the necessity of returning to work - sometimes we gotta downsize our bills rather than upsize the income. The old classic is the mortgage. Well, if you can't afford the mortgage, you can't afford that particular house. Before I'm shot down for not knowing how hard it can get, yes, I have been left unable to pay rent thanks to a long-term sickness. And yes, I had to leave my house - even had to give my 2 pets away because I couldn't afford to look after them at the time. But this is what I'm saying - so long as we have roofs over our heads and food in our bellies, we're OK. If we want a nicer lifestyle than that and are willing to work for it - then good on ya!! For most people, that is a choice we can make and we're very lucky to be in that position. And yeah, I do think the situation is quite different for single parents (though they should always be given the choice whether or not to work when they have little ones at home, IMHO), and there'll be other reasons too why mums need to return to work.
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Posted By: Mookey
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 10:00am
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I do agree with you Andie. We've had to make major changes to our lifestyle to enable me to stay home. No more going out for dinner, new clothes every week, etc, etc. I got rid of unneccesary bills, and only buy the essentials when we go to the supermarket (which cost alot more than they used to nowadays anyway!). I've even asked myself if we are being selfish living in our house with our big fat Auckland mortgage, and wondered if we'd be better off downsizing, but the fact is that our house isn't that expensive, and if we were to downsize, we simply wouldn't have enough room, and the money we'd be saving wouldn't be worth it. We manage - just! But I would personally rather go without than put my son in daycare. ------------- http://www.cushytush.co.nz - |
Posted By: Mookey
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 10:01am
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Ok, where did Andie's post go? I didn't feel there was anything wrong with it. Oh well. ------------- http://www.cushytush.co.nz - |
Posted By: Bayley
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 10:13am
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I can see where you're coming from Andie, but unfortunately living in Auckland it's not always as easy as saying that we can downsize our house/mortgage. We live in a 3 bedroom home that we bought 3 years ago, and have a huge mortgage. If we were to sell now, there is nothing that we could really buy that would enable us to be able to live on one wage, as house prices in Auckland are ridiculous. I think even if we rented we wouldn't be able to do it as rent is just as bad - and my DH does earn a pretty decent wage. We have no option of downsizing (space wise) as my DH has a 12 year old son that needs his own space while he's here. We have no luxuries like Sky, dinners out, new clothes etc, and the only money we owe is on our mortgage - no credit cards or anything like that.
I would absolutely love to stay at home with my son, and it breaks my heart to think that in 10 weeks time, he will be in the care of someone else - I can't even bear thinking about it at the moment. I have gone over and over our bills and there is absolutely nowhere we can cut down - our only major expenses are our mortgage, child support and food. We have even looked at moving out of Auckland to live somewhere cheaper, but DH's job is here and he wouldn't be able to get a job in a smaller town (not doing what he's doing anyway). I guess I just wanted to say that it's not as cut and dried as selling our house or finding somwehere cheaper to live for everyone thats all ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Bayley
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 10:15am
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Yeah I agree Mookey - Andie bring your post back...everyone is entitled to their own opinions!! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 10:44am
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Hey Mookey, great resignation letter. I especially like that you've suggested working from home. A lot of employers will be thinking more about this with the new ligslation coming into effect this July (re: flexible working options) and by telling them that you're willing to consider this it'll sew the seed so to speak and make them think of you first if an opportunity to work from home does arise.
Bayley, there's an interesting article in this months Littlies magazine (free from PP or amcal) kids in care and how to choose a quality daycare. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bayley
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 11:02am
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Oh thanks The_Stuarts, I'll head down to PP and grab a copy this afternoon. We do have him enrolled at a daycare, just hope it's as good as it appears to be!
Also Andie, I hope my post didn't offend - just having a bit of a melt-down about returning to work and I so don't think I can leave my son Probably not the greatest timing to read your post!------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 11:41am
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Bayley, are you going back fulltime straight away or are you going to ease yourself back into it? Worth thinking about because it is hard adjusting to working fulltime, especially if you're already feeling bad about leaving your little one. I started back full time and then found I'd earned quite a bit of annual leave while on maternity leave so I used it over the course of a couple of months by having every wednesday off, it helped me get used to the different pace of working life.
Your meltdown is totally understandable. I felt the same way and although I'm ashamed to admit it I was so angry at DH for a long time that he didn't earn enough so that I could stay at home with our baby. Check out http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15358&PN=1&TPN=1 - Tips for being a working mum and http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13521&KW=joys+of+being+a+working+mum - The joys of being a wokring mum There's also a good article about the stereotype of working mums, sahm's and work from home mums. Here's the link: http://www.forparentsbyparents.com/mum_work_every_mum.html - every mum is a working mum ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 12:36pm
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Hi Bayley - sorry I didn't mean to offend! I took my post out pretty quickly because I figured that my opinion on the issue is a strong one but there's no reason why everyone should share it, and I thought it risked offending other caring and loving mums with equally as strong but different opinions. Sure, I don't mind a clash of viewpoints - makes for interesting conversation, but when it comes to one of the issues that mums already tend to feel really emotional about, I thought it wiser to hold my tounge. Last thing us parents need is MORE guilt! And far out are you ladies fast - I couldn't have even read it in the time it was up there! Dag nab it talk about being caught out But Bayley - don't mind what I said. Only you know what's best for your family, and I can understand it'd be so hard to return to full-time work. I'm not against returning to work at all (again, not that my opinion matters when it's your life and family - it really only matters for mine) - I just have 'issues' about what's often described as 'having to return'. And you're right about it not always being as cut & dried. I'm sorry! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 12:56pm
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Hi Andie
Good on you for sticking your post back on again. Everyone here is entitled to their own opinion - that's one of the beauties about being part of this forum. Despite being a working mum I agree with you on many points and had I thought more about it during my pregnancy and maternity leave I think that DH and I could have found ways for me to stay at home. Having said that although I regret that I don't get as much time with my daughter as I'd like and I resented my DH for it I am glad that DH has had the opportunity to be a sahd. We now have a great balance with the hours we work so that, taking into account her sleeps, we both get to spend about the same amount of time with Michaela - unfortunately we have very little time with each other  but that's our trade-off to having Michaela raised by us, planning for more children and still being able to have a few luxuries.
Despite being two very tired parents who work 30 & 40 hours a week plus look after our daughter fulltime we are happy with the choice we've made. Anyway I guess one of the great things about this forum and discussing opinions and scenarios with the members in it is that there are often ideas that you haven't thought of and there is always support - whether we agree or not ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bayley
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 1:04pm
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Yep, I am going back fulltime straight away. But in saying that, I hadn't thought of using some leave and taking one day each week off for a while - thats a really good idea.
Thanks for those links too - its really great to read that sort of thing
Andie no need to apologise! I realise that everyone has something they feel strongly about, and this is your subject! I just don't entirely agree that its a lifestyle choice for everyone, unfortunately for a few of us it really is a necessary evil. I do feel lucky that I at least got to spend the first year of my son's life with him, we saved up for a while before TTC so that I could stay at home for that first year. To be honest, I never expected to want to stay home with him permanently - just goes to show how much these little ones really do change your life. I'm still pinning my hopes on a Lotto win this weekend
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 1:11pm
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he he... and I'm sorry for the threadjack too, Mookey!! How rotten! I think your resignation letter is a proper stunner - love that you suggest another option should you want it. Good on ya. ------------- Andie |
Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 1:14pm
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Hmmm. I best add my apology in there too mookey
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Posted By: Mookey
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 1:18pm
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No worries guys. That's what this is all about. I asked a question, and now I've reached a decision, and your responses have helped me do that.
But now I have another question! Do you accrue annual leave while on maternity leave? Does it accrue at the same rate as it would if you were working? ------------- http://www.cushytush.co.nz - |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 1:20pm
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I am wages so it might be a bit different as I accrue 8% of what I earn. So I got 8% of the maternity pay in annual leave and then 8% of what I have earnt thereafter. So on my payslip my annual leave is given in $amount rather than days. Does that make sense? It might work differently for Salary paid. -------------
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 1:37pm
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Hey Mookey.
Check out http://dolworkplace.custhelp.com/cgi-bin/dolworkplace.cfg/php/enduser/std_adp.php?p_faqid=47&p_created=1110495095&p_sid=jIoHYT-i&p_accessibility=0&p_redirect=&p_lva=&p_sp=cF9zcmNoPTEmcF9zb3J0X2J5PSZwX2dyaWRzb3J0PSZwX3Jvd19jbnQ9MSZwX3Byb2RzPTI0LDYmcF9jYXRzPSZwX3B2PTIuNiZwX2N2PSZwX3BhZ2U9MSZwX3NlYXJjaF90ZXh0PWFjY3J1ZWQgYW5udWFsIGxlYXZl&p_li=&p_topview=1 - dept. of labour website There's a full answer and calculators to help you determine your entitlement. Basically the short answer is: Yes. Under the Holidays Act 2003 all employees are entitled to annual holidays either on the anniversary of their employment commencement date, or on the date of the beginning of their employer's customary seasonal closedown. An employee's time on parental leave is included as continuous service and the taking of parental leave does not affect entitlement to annual leave; the employee will still be entitled to a minimum of four weeks of annual holidays. However, the payments for the annual holidays will be affected by the parental leave. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 4:39pm
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Let us know how you go with this Mookey. I was told that because I was on parental leave my annual leave that accrued was basically worthless. I would love to be able to go back and demand some money ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mookey
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 4:56pm
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Well I ended up running out of time to resign today, so it will have to be tomorrow.
But I did ring the Department of Labour who said that you can only get your annual leave if you return to work following maternity leave. So yeah, I guess if you resign and don't return then your leave becomes worthless. Maybe it would be worth going back to work, resigning the day you return, working out the notice period, and then getting all your annual leave paid out in your final pay! lol. Sneaky, but probably the only way it can be done going by what the DOL said. And M2S, I guess as you and I work(ed) for the same company, I will be given the same answer. ------------- http://www.cushytush.co.nz - |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 5:06pm
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I think the way the annual leave works is that you still accrue the time. So you might be entitled to the 4 weeks but they will only pay it at the 8% so if you have earnt no money then you will get 4 weeks leave paid at 8% of nothing. Does that make sense? Sorry so hard to explain things in print. But basically you are entitled to the time off but not to it being at full pay. -------------
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 10:33pm
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Ah well. It was worth a try
Gotta say though, I still don't regret not going back 
Did you guys get the shares last year in the company? If you did I'm sure I read they are supposed to be sold and paid to you. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mookey
Date Posted: 18 March 2008 at 7:52am
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Shares? Hmmmmm, I don't know. Around about what time of year was that? I vaguely remember being sent something about some additional shares, but remember thinking there was no point in taking up the offer as I probably wouldn't go back, and they would just take them off me again.
Did you still have some shares when you resigned? Did they get paid out to you? I think I have some available, but most I have to wait till the end of this and next year to get. So how have you been anyway? Sam is a real cutey! ------------- http://www.cushytush.co.nz - |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 18 March 2008 at 9:10am
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Bah, I lost 30 days sick leave when I resigned - if only I had known beforehand that I wanted to sah, I would have taken them as days after finishing work - a month more pay would have been brilliant! -------------
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 18 March 2008 at 9:42am
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I think it was about July/August when the offer came out for shares. You had to pay the $1 for them but the book said that if you bought them and then left the company before the 3 years was up they would be sold and paid to you. I did take up the offer since I figured I was going back but haven't heard anything about them being sold. My resignation only took effect from the 14th of this month so probably still in the process. They are still showing as curent on the portfolio too. I do have other older shares but haven't sold them as don't want to pay the fees They are not worth much though so not too worried.
We are good Very happy with our wee girl, but amazed at how much hard work she is (In a good way of course).
How about you ? - Oliver is a little heartbreaker 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 18 March 2008 at 9:48am
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we've looked at me returning to work and weighed up the costs of daycare/loss in winz payments verses how much i would actually earn and it just wasn't worth it. ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Mookey
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 5:10pm
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I DID IT! I RESIGNED TODAY! I'm officially unemployed - well, kinda - I now have the smallest boss in the world and the lowest pay! lol.
But I'm happy. My boss even said I just needed to give him a call if I want some part-time work at any time. So, what do you SAHM's do with your days? I need to find some fun things to start doing with DS during the day or I might go insane! ------------- http://www.cushytush.co.nz - |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 5:47pm
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just saw this thread...
for us the decision was made once we got pregnant. in fact i think it was always the plan. and luckily we had a few months to adjust to one income and we brought a house just after baby no 1 was born too... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 6:11pm
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Congratulations Now the fun really begins
We do a few things during the week to stay sane. We go to Jumping Beans (which I would really recommend), swimming lessons, and also try and get together with other mums with similar age babies for walks, play dates. We are also currently looking at playcentre, but don't want to overload her. Oh and also, don't know what your local libraries are like but ours has rhyme time on a Thursday morning. Haven't been yet, but have it on good authority that it is loads of free fun ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 6:53pm
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We do playgroup (less involved than PLaycentre) and I keep trying to get to Mainly Music but haven't managed yet. Most churches run Mainly Music sessions. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 6:53pm
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Oh and we swim one day a week but don't do organised lessons coz the last time we tried that the gremlins missed half the term coz they got ear infections and I don't want to fork out the $$$ in case it happens again. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 7:09pm
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playgroup, coffee with friends with kids, kindy for the older kids, used to do mainly music, theres kiddy gyms, playcentre, swimming - i dont do much myself tho. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Mum2ET
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 8:41pm
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We have started going to Rhymetime at our libary and we LOVE it. Ella has a ball dancing away to the songs, playing with the toys and 'talking' to the other babies. If your local library does it I totally recommend it. ------------- Mum to Ella (5) and Tom (2) |
Mum2Sam wrote:Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 9:51pm
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oh yeah i forgot about that - ours had musical storytime. your plunket should have a list of some playgroups and stuff in your area...or even a plunket coffee group.
or you could start your own coffee group. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Mookey
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 9:55pm
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Yeah, I have a coffee group - well if you can call 3 girls and their babes a group! lol
But I'm really commitment adverse. I hate being tied to doing something at a certain time every week, etc, but I guess I'll have to get over that when DS wants to play sports, etc. But for now, I'm the boss (kind of)! I like the idea of knowing when something is on and deciding on the day if I feel like going, or not if I don't. Which is probably why our "coffee group" only meets every few weeks! ------------- http://www.cushytush.co.nz - |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 11:36pm
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I have 2 coffee groups, one weekly, one fortnightly. I go to jingle and jives at the library and I look after a bubba once a week, and oanther one sporadically. That is totally enough committment for me for now! -------------
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 21 March 2008 at 1:39pm
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i was looking for work and finding it hard finding one that would allow me to have weekends off and finish earlish because DF worked most weekends.
then i got pregs with number 2 lol boo is in daycare now 2 days a week, and i take james to playgroup when i can get there esp now that he's active he needs to get out. most things here cost a fortune to do so its hard to get him into much along with cost of travelling to them. plus i deliver junk mail & local papers 4 / 5 days a week ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 21 March 2008 at 2:11pm
| Playcentre 2 days a week here and then mainly music when we can be bothered (Jack hates it so its for Caprece cos she loves it). |