Tips for handling being a working mum
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Topic: Tips for handling being a working mum
Posted By: The_Stuarts
Subject: Tips for handling being a working mum
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 11:34am
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I found these on the internet. I thought they might help - especially those that have to go back to work soon.
Feel free to add your own tips. 1) Accept that you are a working mum; 2) Stop feeling guilty. Banish all the inner voices that are saying things like 'Good mums stay at home and always put their children first'; 3) Don't allow other people to make you feel guilty, especially those at work. You have to leave at 5 because you are a mum, not because you're shirking your work responsibilities; 4) Ignore research and reports that tell you about the 'devastating' effects working mothers have upon their our children. For every 'gloom and doom' report there are others that tell a very different story. The most important factor in a child's development is not whether or not their mum goes to work but whether or not mum is happy; 5) Get good quality childcare. You don't want to spend time at work worrying about your child. Spend time looking at a range of different nurseries and childminders. A lesson I learnt early on is that the quality of the carers is far more important than quality resources. Go with your gut feeling on this, it's usually right; 6) Get the support of your partner. When your child is sick you don't want to waste time arguing about whose job is more important; 7) Let your standards slip. It's not possible to be a working mum and have a perfect home. If you try and aim for this you'll burn yourself out. Get help if you can afford it; 8) When your children get a bit older try and explain to them the reasons why you go to work. I explained to my 5 year old only the other day that the reason I work was so she could have all those nice thing like dancing/ swimming/parties. She wants me to carry on working; 9) Develop a good support network, family, friends, neighbours who can help out in a childcare crisis. Offer to do the same for them; 10) Reduce the morning stress. Get everything ready the night before - don't waste valuable time hunting for shoes! Leave a supply of nappies/clothes with your childminder or nursery if you can; 11) Know your rights. Parents of children under 6 now have the right to ask their employer to consider flexible working; 12) Focus on the positive. When you've had a bad day, make a list of all the positive reasons you go to work. ------------- http://lilypie.com">   http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 1:16pm
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Ooo thanks for that! Must stick to some of those ideas. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 8:45pm
Um yeah, number 8  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 8:50pm
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Number 10 is the only way I cope...get everything ready the night before. It makes a world of difference and I can still manage to get myself "office ready" rather than running out looking like a fright. Only work 2 days per week though so would find it hard to do it all every day. ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 9:02pm
I'm shocking at number 10. There's too much to do already the night before (folding washing, making dinner, bathing and bedding a toddler, doing dishes, tidying up etc) I guess spending time online right now isn't really helping me get ready though - especially since there's a pile of washing behind me, dishes in the sink and a bomb called Michaela hit the lounge earlier so I need to tidy that too. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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