Over here now
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Forum Name: Life After Miscarriage
Forum Description: Up to one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet for many the loss of a pregnancy is isolating and lonely. Share your thoughts and feelings here with others who have experienced loss.
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Topic: Over here now
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Subject: Over here now
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 2:41pm
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So I guess its time to come over here, just got off the phone from my doctor who said that I probably misscarried because my body knows its too soon after having Neosha. She is 10 months old I cant see that being the case. If anything I think it was having my iud removed and not waiting for a cycle before ttc, she disagrees.
Anyway when does this bleeding stop? I just want the memory of it to be over, everytime I go to the bathroom I start crying again its so stupid. How long did u guys wait before TTC again??? My doctor said I should wait until Neosha is older before even starting to try but a friend of mine is due with her second baby 2 days after her first babys 1st Birthday THAT IS CLOSE lol so what do u guys think? Sorry there r just so many things going round in my brain ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 2:51pm
 I'm really sorry to hear about this
Will be thinking of you. -------------  
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 3:03pm
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Sorry no advice, just wanting to send some big hugs to you. I think someone did a recent post about whether to wait a while or try again straight away, will find it for you... ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 3:03pm
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you start trying when you are ready.
As for the bleeding i would think i should only last as long as your period normally would, 7 days possibly. am thinking of you ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 3:21pm
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Hugs!
As you were so early in your pregnancy, the bleeding shouldn't be much more than a period, maybe a little heavier, so hopefully it will be over for you quickly. Unless your doctor knows something we don't, there's no physical reason not to try again soon, the most important thing is making sure you are emotionally ready. And for what it's worth, I have a friend who gave birth to her son on her twins' first birthday so I don't think I agree that you neccessarily miscarried coz it's "too soon" after Neosha. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 4:03pm
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My doc actually encouraged me to have another baby (instead of looking into possibly having endo, long story) at the time Spencer was only 7 months. My gp also didn't think my miscarriage was anything to do with the age gap or anything else I had or hadn't done, it was just one of those things. Unfortunately they happen sometimes and there is nothing you could have done about it. So I think really your doc was talking out of his butt.
My doc has said is fine to try again, physically, i'm just trying to decide whether i am ready emotionally. As for bleeding mine started late on wednesday (11pm ish) was brown mucous when I wiped after doing wees, nothing over night and then started properly bleeding on the thursday, by the Monday I was on pantyliners only and by Tuesday evening it was all over. General rule is the same as or slightly heavier than "your" normal period. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 4:38pm
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Thanks for the info. It has just been going over and over in my head all day grrr my MIL rang to ask me if I would use the same nappies this time round because she will start stocking up for me because they were on special (DH opened his mouth WAYYY to early) and I broke down. Its not his fault but still. And now I get agro at him for no reason, well I feel like he isnt hurting as much as I am and it grates me AND on top of that I have an obsession to get pregnant again almost like I want to replace this one... except when I say it I cringe.
As for the doctor I saw, I am PEAVED the info she was giving me was crap and yet she FAILED to tell me the things I needed to know like where to get support and things to look out for grrr instead she just ranted to me about how silly it is to have babies so close together!!! Almost like it was my fault for even trying. Anyway no more agro from me I guess this will pass and things will get better, everybody is telling me to wait a few months to try again, I dont know I guess we wont TRY but I wont prevent either at the mo I have zero interest in having sex EVER again but I guess that will pass as well. Anyway I just want to say how amazed I am with all u girls that have been through this and come out the other end. I wasnt pregnant for long but i have been so sure of it the last few weeks and having the positive results gave me so much hope. ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 4:59pm
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Oh so sorry you are going through this.
Really think u should get a new Dr. Take care
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 5:00pm
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i totally get the zero interest in sex (for me too scared of having another mc!!) just wanted to say big hugs to you and change doctors..what a horrible person:(! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Vanillabean
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 7:57pm
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So, so sorry this happened. Am thinking of you. A miscarriage can still be devastating no matter how short a time you were pregnant. ------------- 5x mc, Jan 08, June 08, Nov 08, May 09, April 11 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 8:14pm
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bleeding seems to have stopped, just spotting now. A relief really. Going to have a drink tonight lol at least I KNOW im not pregnant.
Hope all you girls have a great easter break, although I think every easter will be tainted for me now  Yeah im going to have a look around for a nice doctor that I can start fresh with 
My gosh being on here has really helped! I cant talk to DH about most of this stuff its good to have girlies around to open up to (really supportive ones at that) I feel like ive got the anger out and now I can just grieve. ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 8:26pm
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Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 8:28pm
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More hugs New Years is like that for me too, we started losing our baby on Dec 31st and I had a d and c on 2 Jan. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 8:35pm
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I lost bubs whilst Richard's parents were visiting from England, all those photos are never going to be entirely happy ones to look back on.
Enjoy your drink. -------------
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 20 March 2008 at 9:17pm
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awwww honey i'm sorry for your loss. i really do feel for all you ladies that go through this.
as far as your dr...ditch the tart!! that's so insensitive! it may have been a short pregnancy, but it was still your baby! as the others have said, TTC again is up to you and when you feel ready emotionally and physically. there's no such thing as too close in age gap, it is what you want it to be. take care hun and enjoy your easter  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 21 March 2008 at 4:13pm
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Thanks guys.
Its horrible that we have dates now that will alwyas be surrounded by sadness
Today I seem to have the flu??? I think... feels like the flu anyway ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 21 March 2008 at 6:31pm
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I would keep an eye on those flu like symptoms in case you have an infection of some sort. Hopefully is just the flu though, sucky time to get it -------------
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 23 March 2008 at 2:24pm
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Im pretty sure its the flu, my throat is raw and today my voice is gone completely I have never lost my voice before lol
DH got me some of this throat spray from the pharmacy it stings so bad. I think im going to go to the doctor about it just to check everything out though ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 24 March 2008 at 4:58pm
Went to the doctor, not the flu lol a chest infection, throat infection and ulceration of the throat. Great lol $55 later but at least I have some antibiotics  Oh and a new doctor.------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 24 March 2008 at 6:39pm
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Great you have some meds for it, hopefully the new doctor is better than the last one. -------------
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 24 March 2008 at 7:00pm
Lol yes she said she Fully supports my ttc campaign, said its fine to try whenever I like and that she cant wait to palm me off to a midwife and have one less patient to worry about calling her after hours We were having a laugh, it was not in a serious manner in any way. ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 25 March 2008 at 9:05am
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So glad u have found a new Dr! She sounds awesome! I cant beleieve your old ne told u it was too soon after Neosha to try again.
Hope u doing ok. |