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Topic: advice
Posted By: lizzle
Subject: advice
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 10:49am
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My sister-in-law is pregnant. Was tryint to think of a helpful gift to give. Baby will be the first grandshild on one side so I know she will get lots of gifts of clothes and stuff. So have decided to make her a scrapbook thing, basically made up of advice for babies. So this is where Oh baby comes in. I'm looking for your best advice tips!!! It doesn't matter if it only worked for you, as we all know not all advice is best for everyone. I'll start
* When people ask if baby is sleeping through the night, unless you know them really well, (and even then...), say yes * Give baby a bottle early, as then if yopu get sick, or want to go out or something, someone can babysit and bubs won't starve. * When you breastfeed, keep a towel handy...you'll need it. |
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 11:06am
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* No matter what professional advice you get, trust your own instincts.
* Get bubs used to being held by other people, so that if someone new is babysitting its not such a drama. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 11:20am
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lots of tummy time even if they hate it (mine still does)
and a dummy can save your life /marragie 
and allways ask and accept help in all its forms hope this helps ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 12:46pm
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As James said, don't be afraid to ask for help or accept help.
Enjoy your baby. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 1:38pm
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* take advice from anyone who is willing to give it, take it on board and use what you think is best.
* if people aren't doing what you want for baby (or what is best for baby) tell them - more important when they start solids. You are the mum - what you say goes! * Never turn down help in any shape or form, dinner getting cooked, housework, babysitting so you can sleep. You need to look after yourself too * Don't be afraid to ask for help * If bub's won't sleep and you are getting frustrated put him/her in the cot for 10 - 15 mins and walk away and take a breather. They are safe there! * Enjoy every minute of every hour of every day - you will never get it back. Take lots of pictures!! Hope that helps Liz!! (Was about to start writing a novel!!) ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 3:10pm
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* don't be too scared to take Baby out and about, or before you know it, Baby will be 3 months old and you will have no confidence to go out
* Scedule some mum time, even if its only 10 uninteruppted mins in the bath * All babies are different and develop at different paces, try hard not to compare and get upset when your friends baby is doing stuff before yours *join parents Centre or a coffee group or something so you have some other "baby" friends. great support in early days * babies sometimes get to 8 1/2 months and still don't sleep through! * pretned to listen when your mum/gran/great aunty make a fuss aobut getting baby into a strict routine straight away. When they are first born, you just can't. Don't let them stress you out! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 3:43pm
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* Learn to ignore what other people say - it will seem like EVERYONE knows what's best for you baby except you!
*Dad's CAN change nappies, even though they insist thet are afraid of breaking the baby. * You will eventually get to a point where you can actually FINISH a cup of tea , instead of leaving half-drunk cups all over the house because bubs is hungry/wet/dirty/grumpy -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 4:07pm
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Oh oh oh, just thought of another!
* It may seem that your newborn is made of glass, but somewhere around midnight on day 3 you will realise that they don't break! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 4:38pm
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- don't take it personally if you've fed, burped, changed, cuddled, slept, but baby is STILL crying. sometimes they just do that :) ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 4:56pm
| oh becca, when jake was just born it took us 30mins to change him cause we thought he'd break!!! |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 6:02pm
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* take lots of photos! * Take each day one at a time and as it comes. * Don't feel bad if you get to the end of a day and haven't finished (or even started) doing things around the house. There is always tomorrow 
* Get lots of brochures from take-away/delivery places and always keep a spare $20 in the cupboard for those evening when you (and/or your partner)just can't be bothered cooking!! * Try and get out of the house every day, even if it just to the end of the street and back * You can't hear baby crying if you are in the shower......(much) ummm, I could go on and on but will leave that to another day  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 8:44pm
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You lot have already got lots of goos ones - will have to do away and have a wee think... ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 9:16pm
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i got one more
trust your insticts u no your bubs and u no when somthings not right ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 16 February 2006 at 10:18pm
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* Have a wee box you can put things for baby in such as birth notice, front page of newspaper on day baby was born and the cards you received. I also make wee notes on scrap paper with just silly things Kobe did and the day. The other day he learnt to do the wiggles hot potato dance and it looked so cool so I put it on paper and the date so I can look back and remember.
* Hubby/partners are good at fetching things, you can train well. * if you are tired sleep when baby sleeps and dont worry about the house work, it will still be there tomorrow. * if your not tired, get tea ready when baby is asleep so you just have to turn it on. There is nothing worse than being starving and baby wont let you put them down. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 17 February 2006 at 11:36am
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* Babies thrive on routine - not necessarily a strict daytime one, but in the evening a bathtime/bedtime one.
* Giving the baby its bath is a good job for Dad. Get the midwife to help him give baby its first bath. * Go out for a walk with the baby most days - you will feel more energised and baby will sleep better from the fresh air * As long as you know baby is well fed, dry and comfortable it wont hurt them to cry for a while. Babies need to cry a bit to go to sleep - its how they wind down. *Get baby used to sleeping in different places - a few times a week put them down for a daytime sleep in their pram or in a portacot. * Dont keep the baby up for visitors to play with - you will be the one stuck witha cranky, overtired baby later that day. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 17 February 2006 at 2:22pm
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please dont fell a falure for not being albe to b/f formula feed bubs still go to uni
if u get mad/sad/glad come on ohbaby for advice/parise/ecoragement   ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 17 February 2006 at 3:22pm
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* Everyone hates their children at some stage. Don't feel guilty about it. (Although, if you still hate them when they are asleep then I think you'd have a problem)
* Use the question "Is it life threatening?" when deciding about what you should and shouldn't allow your child to do. More often than not it isn't. |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 17 February 2006 at 10:06pm
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i love the top one nikki now i dont fell so bad
if u have had anef give baby to a close friend and sleep (worked for me) ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 18 February 2006 at 10:23am
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Take one day at a time. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/">
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 18 February 2006 at 8:11pm
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oooh another
dont't spend your days wishing for the "next developmental stage" they are little for such a short time, enjoy every day as it is.. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 18 February 2006 at 10:28pm
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I'll add to that one - you spend the first 2 years of baby's life wishing they would speak and move (or at least do SOMETHING!), once they actually get there, you are forever wishing they would sit still and be quiet!
It is normal for your tummy to feel like a marshmellow after having baby. Just when you think you have it all sussed - baby will change it's mind. The first time round - remember that you and hubby are in it together, take each day as it comes, work as a team, and never make fun of each other's efforts. Take care of each other, cos sometimes that's all you have. MAKE TIME for you and hubby to go out... on a date, at least once a month - or one day you'll realise your child is nearly three and you haven't been out to a movie since before they were born! Asking for help isn't a sign of weakness, it's a sign that you are strong enough to admit you don't know everything. (and that takes guts!) ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 18 February 2006 at 10:29pm
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oooh actually i remember there was a post ages ago full of advice - about all the stuff no-one ever tells preggy mummies - that we all wished we'd been told BEFORE having baby... i'll find it and bump it for you liz ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 19 February 2006 at 10:40am
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this is just a little idea but i loved having a bath with my boys - its really relaxing and great bonding time.
Sleep when bubs is sleeping. Join with PAFT cant think of anymore at the mo but will try ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 19 February 2006 at 4:29pm
| * Never say never - T.V. may just get you a shower in peace... A dummy may be the only thing that stops your child screaming... and McDonalds for dinner may just save your sanity one night. |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 19 February 2006 at 8:04pm
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ooh another one, just thinking of showers... a bouncer is the best invention cos baby can come into the bathroom with you, you can keep an eye on baby, have as long a shower as you like... and sometimes baby even falls asleep so you get a shower AND an hour's peace after that! ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 19 February 2006 at 9:04pm
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Oh yeah, i'm going for all those. I remember looking smugly at various parents at McDs and saying "my child will never eat frnch fries", tutting at frineds
"my child will only watch one hour of tv a week" |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 19 February 2006 at 9:35pm
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persisit is the key for b/f and so is asking for help ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 19 February 2006 at 9:50pm
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ha ha liz I was the same. My particular soapbox was that I was never going to let Jake fall asleep anywhere but his bed, because I was sure the reason my SIL's kids didn't sleep thru was cos she just let them sleep where they fell... ha ha little did I know... while I can count the amount of times on one hand I have let him sleep where ever (And felt SO bad) he STILL dosen't sleep through!!!
Also can admit to being at a cafe bar for a work meeting the other night (we have our meetings at the best places..) and having Jake there (it was 5.30pm) I had fed him, but he started a massive whinge, so I sucked the salt off a french fry and gave it to him out of desperation, and the little bugger LOVED it and kept putting his hand out for more whenever someone else got one...... ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 20 February 2006 at 7:41am
| french fried are still vegetables!!! |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 20 February 2006 at 9:57am
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AMEN to that, Liz! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 20 February 2006 at 12:23pm
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Yep, and a McDonalds Happy Meal is a balanced meal - protein, carbs, veges... I keep telling myself that... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 20 February 2006 at 1:02pm
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lol
I love how high our standards were before having children and how low they are now! hehehehehe
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 20 February 2006 at 1:56pm
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Only fed Ella McD's once, I had a craving (no I'm not pregnant :P :P)
Glad I got that out of my system, no more for a few years (or until I am pregnant again and craving fillet o fish lmao  )
One thing I said I wouldn't do too much is give her lollies, and she eats them every few days arrgg, she calls any sweet thing "a chocolate cake" and if you so much russle a chocolate wrapper she will hear you from the next room and come running ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 20 February 2006 at 9:12pm
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sounds like paris - she knows the sound the "junk" cupboard makes when it opens, she even hears if we bite into a biscuit.. no matter how quietly we try. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: ErinC
Date Posted: 23 February 2006 at 8:22am
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Hi Guys,
This advice is great! I have stopped saying, Im not going to do this or that, just in case someone is taking notes. Just one question, what is tummy time? James, mentioned it. Thanks Erin |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 23 February 2006 at 9:04am
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Its when the baby lies on their tummy - is good for strengthening their back and neck, and development etc, etc! I think most babies hate it until they are a bit older tho. Plunket nurse told me yesterday that spending one minute on their tummy at every nappy change is enough, so about 5 mins a day. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 23 February 2006 at 9:06am
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Got another one too... knida along the never say never theme! - Take a dummy with you to the hospital, it might stop you from feeling really bad that your baby is waking everyone else up. I wish I had done that but I thought that the midwives would be really anti-dummy, but they so werent. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 23 February 2006 at 10:54am
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I hate it how people think "dummies are bad" - Ok arna had a dummy for all of a day but people keep saying "it looks bad when they are 3" - but other 3 year olds have things that they are attached too whether its a blankie, dummy, toy etc...
*Do what you think is best for bub - not what others impose on you!* ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com">
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Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 23 February 2006 at 12:45pm
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Xanda has always loved tummy time. It also helps them get ready for crawling. Xanda won't even take his dummy any more, he rolls it around with his tongue and then spits it out, same with the bottle. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 23 February 2006 at 9:10pm
Yep, dummies on three year olds look ridiculous, but so do manky, half chewed Fuzzy Bubba's...
 ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 23 February 2006 at 10:03pm
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lol Emma, but she looks sooo cute ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 23 February 2006 at 10:09pm
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Do you reckon she'd notice if Fuzzy Bubba went into the washing machine and a new Fuzzy Bubba came out? We do have a spare that she calls "Fake Bubba" - duh Mum, that's not my Fuzzy it's a Fake lol. But she might take Fake Bubba and think she is just Fuzzy Bubba gotten really clean in the wash?
Or is she smarter than I give her credit for? ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 24 February 2006 at 12:42pm
hehehe emma. reminds me of my bunny. he was unrecognisable as a bunny by the time he mysteriously disappeared. (about age 10  )he was originally pink and white but had turned an unusual shade of grey and had no ears or paws left. (my mum said they'd been loved off) there was major drama if we ever couldn't find him at bedtime and nothing else would do.------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 24 February 2006 at 2:08pm
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ok since it is confessions time... I STILL have my "teddy" under my pillow.... just to know its there.... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 24 February 2006 at 3:01pm
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Awww Ana And Emma, it might work but I bet she'd know the difference - lolol. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 24 February 2006 at 3:08pm
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ummm, by the things you have told us about Maya she will not fall for that one!! She is much to smart!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 24 February 2006 at 4:03pm
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EEEWWWWW Fuzzy bubba!!!!
I think she'll know, Emma, she sounds fairly switched on!! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 24 February 2006 at 5:48pm
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ditto she sounds way to clever for that one ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |