Life’s unfair sometimes... Take 2
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Topic: Life’s unfair sometimes... Take 2
Posted By: aimeejoy
Subject: Life’s unfair sometimes... Take 2
Date Posted: 24 March 2008 at 8:33pm
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So I posted four weeks ago about DH's 19 year old cousin who died in that boating accident. Well today their nanny got told she only has a few weeks left...
Last june her mother passed away (DH's great nana who was 95), the next month her husband passed of cancer (DH's Pop). During this time nanny was having radiotherapy as well. Then last month G died, and she has pretty much given up. You could actually see the deterioration in her (physically and mentally) pretty much overnight. So looks like we'll the fourth funeral in less than a year, all within the immediate family... Oh and 2.5 years ago, 4 days before i had Hannah, DH's mum had a massive brain haemorrhage and almost died, and she is fine now, but not quite the same. And she is not coping with this well at the moment - add to all this DH's 16 year old sister who left school and moved to Aussie 2 weeks ago has ran out of money and has to be bailed out to get home.... Argh, I could go on. So yeah, life is not treating my DHs family well at the moment. But it is really hard when you are an in-law, and I have really had problems with this. Cos although it is very very sad, they arent my family and I dont have the same life long relationship with them. Plus I am the only IL in this generation as DH is the oldest grandchild so feel very awkward at times, even tho I see them a lot and they are lovely (on the whole). Anyway, just another long post from me tonight to get things off my chest.  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 March 2008 at 8:43pm
More big hugs, sucks to be you all round at the moment by the sound of things  -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 24 March 2008 at 8:44pm
 Aimee! Gosh that is too much sadness for one family to go through in such a short amount of time!
Lots of thoughts and prayers to you guys and your ILs xxx ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 24 March 2008 at 8:53pm
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big hugs from us too ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 24 March 2008 at 9:20pm
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Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 24 March 2008 at 9:24pm
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Posted By: BabyKiwi
Date Posted: 24 March 2008 at 9:40pm
| Man, life can be rough! Hugs to you all! |
Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Date Posted: 24 March 2008 at 9:52pm
Aimee, that's truely sad 
Big hugs to you and DH (and the girls!) ------------- 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 24 March 2008 at 10:03pm
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Hugs, what a tough time! I lost 2 gt-grandparents and 2 grandparents in about 4yrs (up to a year ago). Would suck to be the IL to that though ------------- |
Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 25 March 2008 at 7:55am
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awwww big hugs aimee, know how you feel, we have lost a few lately too on my dh side, two this past week and I know how you feel being the in law it really is not the same grief with like you say life long relationships, aye,my dh family is so big I hardly know most of them and the only time I usually get to meet most of them is at tangis, one was expected and was not and the expected one we were unable to go up north for as funds did not allow it but it's quite hard for guys too as they don't wear there emotions on the outside like us girls and my dh is not a big talker so hard to know what he is thinking sometimes ------------- 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 25 March 2008 at 8:16am
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 25 March 2008 at 9:03am
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not fair at all. ------------- Andie |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 25 March 2008 at 1:36pm
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Thanks Yeah Nic, males arent so great at that are they?! Mine keeps feeling like he needs to be strong for everyone else and sort out all their issues etc, and he says he's just being a realist and getting on withthings but surely it must get to him... ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 25 March 2008 at 3:03pm
yup mine is the same act like they have no feelings about it and then walla the reality sets in and we cop it  all blows up and he wonders why I get cross with just damn well say what is on ya mind would ya -------------
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