Childcare options - opinons please
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Topic: Childcare options - opinons please
Posted By: my2angels
Subject: Childcare options - opinons please
Date Posted: 28 March 2008 at 7:48pm
| Ok so Ive been at work full time for coming up two months now (and Im loving it by the way) and the kids are doing really well at daycare, they are happy going there, no tears etc.. the teachers are all great and I have no issues there at all except that when I get there at 5pm there arent many kids left and I hate the fact my kids are amongst the last to leave, makes me feel bad plus of course daycare is expensive. Now my SIL is moving around the corner from us, she has two wee ones and she has asked if I want her to look after my kids for me instead of them going to daycare. I would put kobe into kindy which is right next to the school he will go to so the good thing with that is he will still socialise with other kids plus he will make friends that will be at the same school. The only down side is Addison wont really get the same social time plus while my SIL is really good with the kids I know they wont do the same sort of things they do at preschool like painting, singing songs etc... but on the plus side it would save us about $180 a week which would be handy but its not all about the money right. So what does everyone thing, is home based care or daycare better for full time care. Keeping in mind to its only for a year cos Im covering maternity leave plus Kobe will be at school next year anyway so its not a definate thing. |
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 28 March 2008 at 7:54pm
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If it's going to save you money and you feel good about it go for it. As an opition what about putting them in to daycare for a few days a week and then the other Kobe goes to kindy and your SIL has them?? That way Addison also gets the social side of things as well. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 28 March 2008 at 7:55pm
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wow thats a hard one.. do you think they will get a good standard of care with SIL? personally i would take Kobe out and put him into kindy and leave Addison there..is that an option? both have pluses.. if you can spare the money that's what i would do anyway.. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 28 March 2008 at 8:01pm
| I would do what Becks said. Maybe Kobe goes to Kindy every day and SIL looks after him after and then Addison goes to Daycare maybe 2 or 3 days? |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 28 March 2008 at 8:39pm
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Yeah I agree with that too. You could also look into your SIL becoming a offial homecare carer through a agency so that she would then have resources and support from them, and Addison would get the learning experiences more similar to at a daycare. Personaly I would put her in daycare half the time and have SIL look after her the rest of the time.
If she is going to have her full-time, make sure u work out some sort of agreement for hrs, payment etc at the beginning, to stop any tension happening. I have seen this with my bestfreind who looks after her neice full-time during the week. Her brother still doesnt give her any $$ towards food, outings etc for his daughter, and cos she has her full-time, if she wants to go for coffee with friends or whatever, she has to pay for her niece too,...so her husband is out working, and basically supporting their neice too, even tho her own parents are both working full-time. The hrs have increased and increased too, and they now provide her 3 meals a day as well, with no payment at all, but she does enjoy looking after her, and doesnt want to upset the family by asking for $. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 March 2008 at 8:44pm
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I was gonna suggest what Becks said too about a half and half kind of deal.
I worry about the socialisation side of things with the gremlins having the nanny instead of daycare, so i take them to playgroup once a week, swimming once a week and we've just started mainly music. Plus we have a home educator from the nanny service which your SIL could also access free of charge thru a support service like HG kids if you decided to go with her instead of daycare. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 28 March 2008 at 8:53pm
| Yeah thats what I was talking about! |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 28 March 2008 at 9:05pm
| And if shes through a company you might be able to get some sort of subsidy too. |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 28 March 2008 at 9:21pm
| She has done part of her study to be a preschool teacher before she stopped to have kids, plus she is a qualified speach therapist and also now doing the playcentre course thing so Im sure she can do the teaching side of it, im just not sure she will if you know what i mean. she doesnt have the most energy when it comes to playing with the kids and thats what worries me. I thought about doing the part time thing but by the time i paid her (would definately pay her thats not even a consideration) and then paid daycare it would still work out to be the same amount of money therefor I might aswell just leave them in daycare.....oh decisions decisions. I would only really be doing it purely to save money and Im just not sure its the best decision for the kids but in saying that i know they wouldnt suffer or anything if they were with there aunty. they are both just doing so well at daycare but there is such a stigma about full time daycare that makes me think Im making the wrong choice. |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 28 March 2008 at 9:27pm
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Being in a consistant, caring environment is what mattters. If that is full-time daycare, and its working well for all of you, then thats great. You shouldnt be made to feel bad about it.
Maybe if your SIL was in some sort of homecare scheme thing, even tho you say she knows the stuff, they would have someone monitoring to make sure she is doing it. You have to do what feels right, even tho it would be cheaper having her care for Addison, it doesnt sound like you think it would be best for her. |
Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 28 March 2008 at 10:28pm
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I also was going to suggest something similar to what becks said. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: linda
Date Posted: 28 March 2008 at 11:38pm
| I agree with Kellz. At the moment both our kids are in creche. They love it and I like that they both go to the same place and its easy. No school holidays to juggle and the hours work well. My kids are also some of the last to leave but every so often I pick them up early and they love it. I got to creche yesterday while they were having afternoon tea and it was great to see them interract (sp??). After that they all went to an area for dancing and singing. It was so cute and I know that I would not do that with my kids even if I didn't work. |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 29 March 2008 at 9:14am
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Id agree with some of the others and go with your SIL if you suggest to her that she take the children to playgroups and music etc like I do when I look after children at home
and it is good that Kobe would be able to go to the kindy that he would know children going to school with him |