Early Babies
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Topic: Early Babies
Posted By: MissAngel
Subject: Early Babies
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:00am
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So just a quick question to get everyones opinion (i'll be talking to the MW next week about it as well)
What do you reckon if: If you were having an uber crap pregnancy, and were unwell, in heaps of pain etc. Do you think you should be allowed to have your baby early so you can get on with everything instead of being sick etc all the time? (by early I mean 35 weeks +) Cuz I personally think if you're having such a crap time that you cant function normally - then you should be allowed to. What do you guys reckon? |
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:05am
| I dont agree. Gestation is 40+ weeks for a reason- it takes that long for baby to be fully developed ready for life outside the womb. Those people who have had a baby at 35 weeks and had to spend weeks visitig their baby in hopistal cos its lungs werent working properly etc, before being able to take them home would disagree too, Im sure. |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:09am
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yeah me too.. even though i had a very crap pregnancy...and it wasnt going well..and they thought i was going to have preterm labour..i was worried sick about him coming out early..unless he has IUGR or PE its better for him to stay even if its affecting the mother hugely..though i totally know how it feels to want it over early:(! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:13am
| But dont you think theres a difference if it's affecting your basic functions eg: making it to the toilet, being able to wash yourself (getting in and out of the shower) etc |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:14am
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I agree with Kellz. Pregnancy can be very sucky for some people but in the big picture its such a short time. Even when people are really sick with gestational diabetes or pre-eclampsia etc the docs can still sometimes be reluctant to take the babies early, so I think you would find it really difficult to find someone who would. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:16am
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My baby made an attempt to come out at 35 weeks and luckily my labour stopped and they did everything they could to keep him in for as long as possible (made it to 38 weeks). There is no way that they will take a baby out early unless your life or the babies life is threatened.
Even a baby born at 35 weeks can need help with breathing and staying warm and they are normally too weak and underdeveloped to latch and feed properly. Spencer made it to 38 weeks and was still only 6lb 2 an very skinny cos he hadn't put on all the fat that they do in the last couple of weeks of being inside. Oh and I spent the last 3 weeks of my pregnancy in the hospital on bedrest, they don't care if you are having a crap time they just care about whether you and baby are healthy. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:16am
| Oh yeah me too, I didnt have a great pregnancy,..was made to stop work completely at 20 weeks by OB. I so know waht it feels like to want baby out. |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:17am
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If you can't function on your own then they will probably admit you to the maternity hospital antenatally and give you the care you need until you go into labour/have scheduled c/s -------------
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:21am
Yeah of course that isnt good. But those things arent affecting your ability to live. I feel the basic functions of the baby - such as being able to breathe and feed properly are far more important than the preg womens disconfort, so if that means suffering for a few more weeks so that baby is able to do those things for themselves when they are born, then I would totally chose that. |
MissAngel wrote:Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:22am
| I don't agree either. The only time I think that applies is if its a situation like pre-eclampsia where the mums and bubs health is proved to be in serious danger. If it's just purely uncomfy in pain then I'd personally look into other alternative ways to combat this problem. Keeping a bubba in there until full term is the best because they are still developing. |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:23am
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Hey there miss angel, I work in a neonatal unit with the wee premmies. Lots of people really think that by 35 weeks babies are all good. they seriously aren't.
The few that i have seen come through that have been induced early on request (ie, their last baby was stillborn at 36 weeks, so they were induced at 35) their babies have had a mass of problems, simply because you know, maybe those babies were planning on being 40 weekers, they aren't ready to come out, they don't breathe well they don't have any oomph in wanting to wake up and feed. The mums have a heap of problems too, a fair amount of mums that have to deal with having their babes in neonatal units often go on to have problems with Post-traumatic stress or Post-natal depression. It may seem that getting baby out is the easier way. Trust me, it soooo isn't. Being under 36 weeks means you baby will have to go into a neonatal unit, it also means baby will probably much smaller (think 00000 or smaller, tiny scrawny) because it tends to be the last 4 weeks or so that baby has it's nice growth spurt and gains all the fat it needs to regulate it's temperature on the outside. This means early babes are often in incubators because they just get cold. You have days of probably not being able to hold your baby, you have the risk of your baby having to be on Cpap, or respiratory support because their lungs aren't ready to be having to work on the outside world and they have problems with fluid in their lungs, which again means not being able to hold them. You have a baby that will not feed from you, which means that you have to deal with expressing 3 hourly with a pump to keep up with the milk they need,and have to deal with the frustration of trying to get them to wake up and feed, while also trying to learn the art of breastfeeding at the same time, not in private but in a unit filled with at least a dozen other babies,complete with their families, nurses coming to check how baby is going constantly, medical staff, you have no privacy except usually a tiny wee screen that truthfully does not do much. They need to be fed by tubes that are put in through their nose, they need IV's put in their arms (if they're lucky, otherwise it can be their feet, or even a vein in their heads) for fluids, they have a mass of blood tests constantly to check blood sugar levels, jaundice levels, red blood cell levels, because as premmies they are more prone to have blood sugar problems, temperature problems, and more prone to getting jaundice requiring phototherapy treatment, which means constant pricks to their poor wee heels which tend to end up looking like pin-cushions. Prem babies it has been found, tend to experience at least 10 painful experiences per day. You really need to ask yourself if this is what you want for your baby. Fair enough, the end of pregnancy sucks, My last pregnancy i had SPD and could barely manage to shuffle as the pain was so bad, I had to deal with that day to day as well as a hernia as well as having a toddler and mostly i just wanted her the heck out. But you need to think of baby too, your baby will come when it's ready, if it's not ready to come then there WILL be problems. This is not a telling off or anything of the sort, I just wanted to give you the information that you probably don't have - about what it means to have a premature baby (that is.. anything under 37 weeks) - even just a few weeks early can make a world of difference to how healthy they are, or aren't. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:25am
That must suck ALOT. I have a friend with some really serious issues with her back who has these problems in day to day life (without the hastle of being preggers) and she says she will do accupuncture and do anything else that might help to make sure her baby stays in as long as it wants to despite her pain. |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:30am
| Thanks Janine! Thats what I was trying to get across! |
Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:35am
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yea i mean, it may come across that i'm being selfish, which I dont mean to be at all. But you know, it comes to the point where (and sorry TMI moment) that I have to clean my floor nearly every day due to me wetting myself (and sometimes the other) because I CANT get to the toilet in time at night - and it's only 20 steps from my bed to the loo - that I really have to draw the line. I know theres lots of other people out there that are worse off than me - and I appreciate that, but the pain that i'm constantly in is just nasty. I cant take any meds, chiropractor and acupuncture isnt working so im sure you can totally see where i'm coming from.
Oh and i'm not after a pity party either, i've just really come to the end of my rope. |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:36am
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how many weeks are you? ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:39am
That really sucks that u are having such a roungh time.  Have u talked to MW or Dr about the incontinence? There are products that u can use(giant pads etc) that they should be able to get for u to use at night (cheaper than at supermarket), that would at least help with stopping t get everywhere.
Have u tried a duvet under the sheets to lie on? I slept (well tried to sleep) on a beanbag for about the last month, I cousl mould it around myself, rather than me having to mould into a flat hard bed. Heatpacks were my friend too. |
Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:41am
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I would say 37 weeks if you really want it out... that I could understand. 35 no way. -------------  
 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:41am
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How many weeks are you?
That really sucks your having such a hard time but have you thought about wearing incontenence pads or something at night? Try and hold out for 38 weeks, 37 at the very least just to give bubs a good start. |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:42am
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It does suck that you're having a rough time. I seriously think the end of pregnancy is designed to train us for the first months of baby'sl ife - where you still don't have any sleep, your pelvic floor muscles still don't work, and your body still hurts like heck. I hope you feel better and find a solution to the problems you're having. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:45am
32 on friday - the pads dont work :( that was the first thing I tried! |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:46am
yeah like Janaine said, these symptoms arent just gonna disappear as soon as baby is out unfortunatly. I still suffer from occasional incontinece now 17 months on  and am seeing a accupunctist for help with my pelvis/hip/back pain.
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Posted By: Danash
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:47am
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mum2paris - that was an interesting read. My bub came at 37weeks and weighed 6p 2o - fortunately for me I had a breeze pregnancy and Daniel put on weight very quickly. MissAngel I empathise with your discomfort, maybe your MW could work with you closer on ways to make life a bit more comfortable for you. |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:47am
| Try bigger pads, seriously u can get giant adult size dipers. Horrible of course, but if they are gonna help u feel a bit more secure down, and not so anxiuos about getting up, but be worth a go. |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:47am
| There are even bigger ones, kind of like nappies so maybe ask your midwife about those. I wish I was more help but I really don't think anyone will induce you before 37 weeks sorry. |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:51am
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definately 37 weeks tends to be the turning point really, some at 36 weeks are fine, others we get have the same problems as babies much younger than that. 35 weeks usually guarantees at least a small stint in an incubator, and problems with feeding, the ability to learn to suck swallow and breathe all at once only kicks in about 34 weeks. from week to week makes a huge difference.
Verena - good to hear your baby gained weight pretty quick. As i said before, 37 weeks tends to mostly be ok-ish in terms of them being able to pick up and keep going relatively normally after birth. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 10:52am
Having just had my Emma very early, I can tell you there is nothing harder than having you baby and having to go home empty handed and leave her behind at NICU 
Don't mean to sound harsh but I would have honestly traded any amount of discomfort in pregnancy for her to have stayed in a few more weeks ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 11:07am
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I dont agree either sorry. If the pain was really bad etc then Id rather be in hospital on bed rest until the baby was ready to come. Its not fair on the baby to be born early. If I was having a crap pregnancy etc I would just grit my teeth and stick it out for the babys sake, at 35 weeks pregnant, you could go a few more weeks until the baby is ready to be born.
Have you spoken to yuor midwife about the night time loo issues? Maybe she can suggest something to help you through that? I know it must suck, but Id really try and stick it out for as long as you can, for bubba;s sake. ------------- |
Posted By: blondy
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 11:27am
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Just wanted to add - it's not just the initial effects of having a prem baby (as others have already pointed out), but the long term ones that also need to be thought about.
Research has shown that prem babies are more likely to suffer from heart problems later in life, have issues with vision and hearing, and are more likely to develop a whole list of other conditions. Which is fine to deal with if you naturally go into labour early, but probably is a lot to weigh up by being induced early. It sounds like you're having a really hard time, but all I can suggest is talking to your MW about solutions. As has been said, the 40 week gestation is there for a reason... -------------  
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 11:41am
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Just with the night time toileting issues, maybe your midwife could organise a bedside commode for you. They arent the nicest things to have to use, but much better than not making it to the loo. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 11:46am
| Thanks for your opinions. I've pretty much tried everything everyones already suggested. Sorry for coming across selfish, but man, if only you knew what else was going on. thanks anyway. |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 11:51am
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missangel...just wanted to say big hugs..it may sound like people are picking on you but they arent trying to.. :( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 12:22pm
| Man I wish there is some way you could get some relief so u arent having such an awful time. |
Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 12:30pm
| Its okay.. if this gay ass depression would sod off, then i'd probably be not as bad as I am, cuz I know when you're depressed it makes things a million times worse than they actually are. I dont think anyones picking on me - everyone is entitled to their own opinions, hell if we all thought the same thing it would be a rather boring existance, wouldnt it. I think maybe if i'd actually wanted to be pregnant in the first place, i'd be a little more happier. |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 12:51pm
Yes depression does make things seem worse at times, but it sounds like all the things you are having to deal with would be enough to make anyone depressed! Go easy on yourself! Having the problems your having is really tough. And as for the unwanted preg,..have you talked to a cousellor or other professional about your feelings? My preg was planned, but man when its doing awful things to your body(and mind) I kept questioning what on earth I had done etc. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 12:51pm
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Big hugs Miss Angel, I feel your pain, trust me I do, and if I could have, I would have had the gremlins induced at 35 weeks, as it was we ended up fiddling with my dates to get the OB to agree to induce them when he. Dating scan dates put me at 36w4d, but we used my period dates, which I *knew* were inaccurate as I knew date of conception, putting them at 37w2d. 37 weeks was the earliest he would induce.
The whole pregnancy was a nightmare. I didn't sleep more than an hour straight for the last 6 months, I vomited every day from 5 weeks until the day they were born, could hardly walk due to circulation and varicose veins problems, had been on bedrest for weeks and had major mental health issues associated with an earlier miscarriage had me so anxious that I was convinced the babies were going to be stillborn and I just wanted them out where I could protect them. I was not coping at all, and being pregnant was so detrimental to my mental health (not to mention the physical challenges). I was incredibly lucky that my gamble worked out, my girls were born without any issues associated with their being preterm, they breathed independently and had good apgar scores. But they were never good feeders as they had premature suck reflexes, they also developed severe reflux which may have been associated with them being early. Mercedes also had two reflux related apnoeas which may or may not have happened had we left them in even another week. In hindsight it seems stupid that I was so desperate to get them out, and it's impossible for anyone who hasn't actually experienced it to understand just how debilitating pregnancy can be, I honestly don't think I would have survived another day, let alone another week of having them in me. The night before I was induced I lay in bed convinced that they would die inside me just hours before they were due to be born. Would I do it again? Honestly, given the situation I was in, I probably would coz I was so desperate. But I honestly think it would have been better to put strategies and supports in place to help me cope with the pregnancy rather than forcing them out early. The first 10 weeks with my girls were hell on earth with the reflux and them being in and out of hospital, they may as well have been in NICU for all the time we spent in hospital. The girls here will well remember, I kept them updated! Big hugs to you again, I really do see where you are coming from. But in the grand scheme of things, it is only a few weeks, and the longer you can keep your wee bub in there, the better it is for both of you long term. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Redbedrock
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 1:02pm
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Fay was born at 35 weeks, very quickly and suddenly after a problem free pregnancy. I would happily trade that time for a physically difficult pregnancy. Fay spent 2 weeks on neonates, I spent those 2 weeks at home, time I will never get with her, those first 2 weeks. As a consequence of that separation I wasn;t able to bond with her, breast feed her or care for her effectively for several months.
I don't think it would be an easy option for you, lots of my pregnancy symptons carried on for a while so did not end immediately I gave birth, plus dealing with separation issues, expressing 3 hourly for 10 weeks, taking meds to get milk flow going, strange women grabbing my boobs all times of day and night to try and latch her, guilt for having to bottle and formula feed her carries on now. I don't know your circumstances and haven't read through most of the replies, but no I didn't think 35 weeks was an easier option than continuing my pregnancy and I am still paying the consequences of that time. I will never gat back that first 2 weeks of her life and I know Fays neonatal history was pretty straightforward, in that she wasn't "ill" as such ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: catie
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 1:43pm
| I'm sorry you're having such a tough time both physically and emotionally. Can you get some more support lined up, both for now and after bubs arrives? The larger hospitals have specialist maternal mental health units - maybe they canhelp you deal with your depression which will make it easier to deal with the physical stuff? |
Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 1:54pm
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I'm totally hoping they can help. I have an appointment with the dreaded american TV obst. on the 8th, so i'll see if he'll actually help me out this time, or if he'll fob me off like he did last time. I'm really lucky that I have a supportive partner and mum - I mean, dont get me wrong, when this little weasle arrives, he'll be loved LOTS - it just happened that he was conceieved at the complete wrong time! I'd never do anything to hurt him.
I'm the type of person that likes to talk about how i'm feeling, and deal with it (moreso the type thats like 'oh get over it you egg.') so it's hard for me to be feeling like this when i've been dealing with friends and family with various forms of depression and anxiety over the years. The hardest thing with dealing with this depression is people saying 'oh you'll be okay, its just the hormones' when in actual fact, it's NOT the hormones, I am actually depressed lol, if you get what I mean. Lets just hope i'm having it now instead of after! And its so hard being on here seeing everyone being so excited about being pregnant when i'm just not. |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 1:59pm
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The hormones might well be contributing, but you have sooo many things to deal with, like I said its no wonder your finding it sooo tough.
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 1:59pm
Don't worry, I'm not excited about being pregnant either 
And my mum told me to snap out of it yesterday ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 2:01pm
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Lol Emma, yeah if it was that easy dont u think we would have 'snapped out of it' by now?!!
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 2:09pm
I just rolled my eyes (which of course she couldn't see, being on the phone lol) and said "haven't you seen the ads on TV, that's the WORST thing you can say!" ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 2:10pm
| Lol I reakon! But until youve been there yourslef, you really can understand what its truley like. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 2:12pm
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Yep, I think that's the hardest part with my mum, she is so down to earth and normal and SANE lol that she doesn't get why other people can't just be like that too. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 2:15pm
I was going to say something along these lines too. I would have given ANYTHING to have my tiny tiny tiny little baby back in my tummy when she was born. It was truly the most horrible, gutwrenching thing to deal with, having your little baby so "violated" (for want of a better word) just so she would survive. And we are extremely lucky that we have had a happy ending and Ashleigh has no long term issues that we are aware of. I'm so sorry that you are having such a miserable time with your pregnancy and I hope you find some other ways to ease your discomfort and help with your depression There are lots of wise woman on here who have been through something similar, it may help you to have a chat with some of them  ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 2:36pm
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Just try and tell yourself that this will have an ending.
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Posted By: rosewood
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 4:16pm
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Hi MissAngel,
You are medically classed at term between 37 and 42 weeks gestation. There are medications available for you that can be taken during pregnancy for depression. I know that not everyone wants to take antidepressents but at least if this was one thing that you didnt have to contend with on top of everything else this might help?? ------------- Gill http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 5:12pm
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They will not induce you *just* for being depressed, they will simply put you on meds.
This is just from someone that fortunately had early labour stopped at 26 weeks, was supposed to be induced at 37, 38, 39, 40 weeks and finally came naturally: My boy was IUGR (growth restricted) but he was between 50-100g past the cutoff to be induced. I was so depressed because I thought I was doing something to him that was making him not grow. I didn't sleep for nearly 2 weeks straight, had to be monitored every 2 days for PE, was put on anti-d's, sleeping pills, codeine for a prostratic glandular uterus (the blood supply to my baby was being cut off at regular intervals). Had to have scans constantly where we could all but watch his rate of growth fall. He was in a bad way but still they didn't induce because the hospital was too busy. The only reason I wanted him out is because it was actually better for his health to be out than in. But I didn't care about myself. I also had carpal tunnel where I could only sleep for 2hours at a time before I had to go and freeze my hands so I couldn't feel the pain. After all of that, I couldn't breastfeed due to the trauma that we both had (especially Jack). I would have loved him to come at 38 weeks when he reallly *needed* to be induced, but I would never have asked for an induction for my own sake, only for his. I'm sorry to hear about your troubles, but when you have a baby their life (which can hang in the balance if you whip them out early) is far more important than any other non-lifethreatening issues the mother may have. Although sometimes you may feel inhuman and just an incubator that has to deal with all of these issues, you really do need to put it into perspective. Although a lot of people go through hell during their pregnancies, it's all worth it when you see your wee baby and hold them. Even the issues you are having... I do hope you talk to your doctor or m/w about it though. And like someone else said, if you're not coping, they can put you in hospital until you give birth but that would probably be worse than what you're dealing with now. And to give you an indication, my wee boy was 5lb at 35 weeks, and if you've ever seen a 5lb baby, you don't want one. |
Posted By: Leelee
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 5:34pm
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My sister had to have a c/s at 33w6d due to my niece being severely IUGR and she was only 2lb9oz. My sister has Chrons(sp) Disease and she put herself through hell just so her baby had a fighting chance(she was told at 15w that the baby wasnt going to survive. This was something she didnt want to here so she stopped taking all her medication which was extremely hard on her body. My niece was in Nicu for 32days and it was not nice seeing someone so tiny and innocent fighting so hard for their lives. She is almost 10mths and she is still really tiny, not quite 12lbs and because she is so little her pysical developement is way below where it should be, she has to see a pysio every week, a dietition every month and a pediatrician every 2 months.
That was a bit of a ramble but I guess what I am trying to say, putting yourself through hell is worth it just so your baby has a fighting chance and I'm sure when you hold you baby for the 1st time you will think it was all worth it ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 02 April 2008 at 7:56pm
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having said all that(and i agree with it) i realise it might be true but its hard to see that when you are suffering like you are:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |