Would your DP/DH cope?
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Topic: Would your DP/DH cope?
Posted By: kebakat
Subject: Would your DP/DH cope?
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 8:46pm
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If they had to do a full day of everything that you do?
DH sometimes use to wonder why I couldn't keep the house fairly clean during the day until I went out for a whole day to a friends and he had to look after Daniel himself and said at the end of it that once Daniel is asleep he just couldn't be assed doing anything hehehe.. and he didn't even do the washing 
Now one of my friends hubbys is starting to complain that she can't keep up with everything. I think she should hand the reins over to him for the weekend and let him do everything she would usually do for an eye opening experience for him. What do you think? 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 8:49pm
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Mine actually does a better job than me at keeping the place tidy. I try and keep it tidy but i'm a person who likes to do a big job not little ones all the time. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 8:49pm
| It drives me crazy but for a day or two my hubby actually does really well, better than me in fact but i think if he had to do it every single day then it would be a different story. |
Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 8:50pm
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Sure he could... hypothetically that is... I mean if I biffed the computers out the window, and he somehow got over it in time, and I left him a huge list outlining what he needs to do... and set an alarm to go off for every nappy change, -------------  
 
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 8:50pm
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My hubby does and has been for the last 6 months. He does a great job - while working from home too so I totally admire him. It took a little while to get in to the swing of things but thats the case for all of us I think.
I haven't washed a nappy in weeks!! Bliss... ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 8:54pm
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OMG Stacey, did you read my mind?
I think DH would cope for a day, but if he had to do it for a week he would see how hard/time consuming it is. We've just had a massive barny cos I apparently am so lazy and keep the house messy and have no time management skills. Stupid men! |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 8:55pm
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Ha emz, thats only coz them in the army are told what to do and when to do it ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 8:59pm
| I know! God he drives me nuts sometimes, but damn for some reason I still love him! (although still not speaking to him, he can have the cold shoulder tonight!) |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 9:02pm
same here...  ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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mummy_becks wrote:Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 9:06pm
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Yes he would but there is no way he would choose to do as much as I do. He does things that needs doing only and leaves the rest. Apparently a lot of the things I do are not necessary....LOL ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 9:09pm
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Mine is like Fiona's, he'd cope, and he HAS coped when I've been in hospital etc. and the house doesn't fall down, he feeds the kids and does the washing, but he'd never cope with working full time and being a parent at the same time the way I do, and he wouldn't cope with taking them out anywhere, I was amazed he even knew how to use the buggy when he brought them to visit me in hospital. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 9:11pm
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Andrew is excellent at taking Elle out and he prioritises that over extra household tasks. He just loves being a kid and running around. ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 9:12pm
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After my DH's first week as a sahd he wanted to put her in care - he was not coping at all but he stuck with it and he does a fab job.
He takes care of our daughter Mon-Fri 6:45am - 3:30pm and keeps the house looking good (as much as poss with a destructive toddler) then goes into work for 5.5 hours every evening. Plus today when I got home I found that my house (which had been a pit because we've had a few personal issues requiring our attention recently) had been completely cleaned top to bottom and the spareroom (which was a bit of a dumping ground) had been tidied and the furniture rearranged and it now looks fantastic. He said he started at 8:30am and it took most of the day - all while taking care of our daughter, he really is superdad!! -------------  
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 9:13pm
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LOL Willie just keeps feeding them, every time they grumble he feeds them more. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 10:01pm
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Yes he could definitely cope. He's had the kids when I went away to Taupo for the weekend Fri - Sun and I went to Wellington for a night with work. The kids were still alive and the house was clean, and washing was done. Although I have to say not to my standard!
All of that was before Cooper though. I still think he could do it. I have no problems leaving him at home. I have no problems going away for the day either. He can be kind of neat 
------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: BabyKiwi
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 10:04pm
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My DF does a great job at looking after DD, although like most he only chooses to look after her and doesn't bother with anything else!
Although when I asked him how he would cope, he just said "I have no idea" Inspires confidence doesn't it??!? 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 10:08pm
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Yip Ben does a pretty good job when I sleep in. He forgets things (likes nappies lol) and always feeds himself first. But I think if he had to do it it would take a few days and then he would have it sussed.
He has higher cleaning standards than me so the house would probably be tidier than what I keep it. |
Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 10:10pm
Lol Emma Jesse is exactly the same there is now way he would be able to cope if he had to do everything for more than one day he does alright thought for one day. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 11:16pm
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MY house would be an absolute tip, (worse than it usually is) and the kids would be dressed really strangely but they would be really happy and like yours Emma and Danni, very well fed! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Redbedrock
Date Posted: 03 April 2008 at 11:46pm
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I always figure that if fay and i are alive and still talking to each other at the end of the day then i have done a great job and the days that Neil has done it when i have worked this has also been the end result too so yep he does a great job. He either feeds her or puts her to bed if she grumbles ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 1:02am
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Mike does better than me, he is amazing. I often say he has turned into a woman... but that is because he constantly has to do everything i do because i'm at work. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 8:47am
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Daniel used to look after hannah on weekends when I worked and I used to get so peeved at coming home to have to clean up and cook tea. He always did things he wanted/needed to get done during the day and just took Han with him, which kinda bothered me as well. But yes he coped with the childcare fine, but actually doing th erest of the household stuff - no way! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 8:48am
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Oh and I dont think he'd do very well with two at the moment. I am trying to teach him about our late feed routine so I can actually get some sleep, but he just cant get it! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 9:35am
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DH had the kids for 1 day.......i got home and he said 'god, how do you do this everyday?'
hahaha that's right hun....not all fun and lazy times is it ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 9:56am
me too but in saying that I went away for 4 days this week and got back and he had done NOTHING!!!! He openly admits he was a real slack arse. Even the nappies that I put in the machine on Monday morning and said " I wont be able to hang these out this morning could you please do it?" Oooooops! Forgot! I'm not mad. I am relieved. I can now be a slack arse and not feel guilty. |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 11:04am
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Im hoping my DH can since he is going to be SAHD in 4 weeks! ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 11:39am
Mine copes every weekend when I'm at work so the answer is a great big yes! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: shaz
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 12:28pm
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Well yes and no DH has been at home with the girls for two days (well he actually only has Natasha as home today) but hasn't cleaned the house so I'd say short term he would be ok but long term the house may fall apart . He has his tidy moments but the house would have to be pretty bad to get him going and I tidied up last night.
Oh and so far he's only called me twice today maybe because I forgot to turn on my phone but he called about 10 times yesterday to ask the stupidest questions. IE Can I give Alyssa another peice of toast? What can I give her for lunch? Do I have to call school if Natasha isn't going? etc etc But at least he has finally fixed the blocked sink in the bathroom ------------- Mum to Natasha Aroha 9/12/1995, Alexandra Makareta Waimarie 22/4/1998 and....Alyssa Frances Hopaea 18/03/2007 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 1:08pm
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LOL CaraMel, Willie dresses my kids strangely too, when we were separated and he used to take Maya for the day every Sunday he would come and get her dressed and take her out, and he would always put her in the strangest combos of clothes, and ALWAYS in gumboots ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: WigglesFan
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:26pm
He really is a hero!!! My DH can cope. When #1 was 2.5years I went to Mexico for 16 days leaving him with our child, my sister's two kids (2 & 3yrs) and my disabled and very demanding (but useless) sister. Plus he and the kids all had rotovirus!!! By the third night he was so sick of cleaning up the chaos of the playroom each night that he threw out anything that was broken or junky and divided the remaining toys into four piles which went 3 into 3 boxes and 1 onto the shelves. Every night he swapped the toys around! He did magnificently! More recently he looked after our two while I was in hospital and then recuperating from the c-section birth of #3. He kept the kids fed and happy, the house tidy and the laundry up to date. He was very very happy when I was well enough to take over again though! Just this morning the kids were all a bit whiney and demanding and as he left for work he saidto me: "It's times like this that I love walking out the door!"  pmsl!
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 8:07pm
Hahahaha I just so had to laugh at that, that's exactly what my DH was like when we had 2 kids
Nowadays DH is the SAHD, he's been at it for 6mos, has up days and down days as you'd expect and I guess if you factor in that I've had 4yrs on him and started with 1 then 2 then 3, not 3 at once, then we'd probably end up about even. We have different priorities though. He is more interested in having vacuuming up to date and I'm more focussed on wiping the kitchen bench ------------- |
Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 10:17pm
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DF wouldnt cope, he can do the housework with just one but add 2 and he doesnt cope.
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Posted By: KweenJ3
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 11:01pm
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My DF would cope great! Hes awesome with the kids and the house and hes done really well! I wouldnt have trouble at all if we swapped roles etc but hes great with helping out etc ------------- Jacinda, 26, Mum to Aiesha 10yrs, Carlos 9yrs and Brooklen 22 months:) |
Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 11:40pm
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Oh yeah, just to add - I can leave mike home by himself for a day, and I'll come home to a perfectly tidy house... but he is FAR too absent minded to look after seb for more than a few hours, so add him in and he'll sit on the computer all day instead of cleaning or properly watching Seb.. well apart from the odd play (wtf right?)... just too used to doing things in his own sweet time. Drives me bonkers!! -------------
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 05 April 2008 at 9:10am
my dh does a fantastic job, with both the house and the kids, even after hes worked 18+ hours lol ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 05 April 2008 at 11:19am
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Dh would do a great job, probably better than me. So I won't give him the opportunity in case he wants to make the switch permanent! Though he admits he wouldn't invest as much time into Lily as I do throughout the day. -------------  
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