Very bad news
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Topic: Very bad news
Posted By: FionaS
Subject: Very bad news
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:08pm
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Well...I just had my 9 week scan and...the baby has died. There was a heartbeat, now there is not. I can tell that my body does not yet know this (I'm very sensitive to hormonal change + still feel so sick) so I am opting for a D&C. Not sure when but hope it is soon.
Can't believe this is happening. ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:09pm
Ohh Fiona...Im so sorry hun huge hugs to you from me. This is just awful.. **hugs**------------- |
Posted By: grrrgrrrr
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:13pm
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sending lots of hugs your way!!! ------------- Mattias 2yo Henrik almost 1 |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:14pm
awwwww hunny i am so so so sorry this is happening to you, please pm me if you need to talk to someone about it am thinking of you  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:14pm
| Oh Fiona!!!! I am sooooo sorry that you have to go through this. What is happening out there? There are far too many of us lately. Will any babies be born in November??? |
Posted By: catie
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:15pm
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Oh Fiona, how awful!
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Posted By: JessDub
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:20pm
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Hi Fiona
I am really sorry too. Thinking about you. J ------------- 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:25pm
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Hey Fiona, So sorry to hear about baby. Look after yourself. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:26pm
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Oh Fiona
I'm so so sorry hun. ------------- 
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:27pm
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I'm so sorry Fiona ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:32pm
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Oh no!
I am so so sorry Fiona.
Sending you the hugest hugs.
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Posted By: ShellandBella
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:33pm
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so sorry to hear this...take care ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Cassie
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:34pm
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So sorry to hear Fiona, take care of yourself, I know it can't be easy. Thinking of you. ------------- ~Cassie~   
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Posted By: Glag2
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:35pm
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Im really sorry to hear this
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:46pm
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so sorry hun big big big hugs ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:56pm
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The jelly from the internal scan is coming out a bit brown so looks like it might be starting. I don't want to miscarry...I want a D&C. The doc said to go to hosp if I start to bleed or cramp and they will probably do D&C. Shall I go or do I really need to wait until it is bright red? ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 4:59pm
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I'm so sorry Fiona. Its not quite 5 yet perhaps you should phone your gp and ask them. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 5:00pm
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I think I would go. They can always send you home if they think it is too early.
Take care hun.
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 5:04pm
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Big big Fiona. Take care. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 5:04pm
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I am so sorry to hear that Fiona
Thinking of you and your DH ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 5:07pm
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Way TMI guys sorry but I can smell the amniotic fluid smell that I had after elle's birth and with the last miscarriage so it is happening. Only 2 hours after the scan!! Just want the D&C ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 5:08pm
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 5:08pm
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Go to the hospital now Fiona. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 5:19pm
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Oh Fiona, I'm so sorry to hear this!
Have you rung your midwife? Even if you go to the hospital now, they may tell you to come back tomorrow and get a D&C. I know when I had mine, I had been bleeding for a few days (was at 12w, but bubs had died at 8w5d - so similar to you ).
The reason they probably wouldn't be able to do anything now is that it is done as day surgery and you won't be able to eat/drink for a number of hours prior cos of the anathestic. Big hugs chicky - this is such a terrible and sad time. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 5:20pm
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Big hugs sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear this. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 5:28pm
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Don't have a midwife yet. Docs said to go to hosp now as at 9 weeks my body will go into labour and hence the leak is the waters breaking and cramps will start.
See you all tomorrow ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 5:52pm
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I'm so sorry to read about this Fiona. I have been through this exact thing myself about 8 years ago. It is really really hard. Absolutely thinking of you and hoping you are as ok as you can be at this terribly sad time. Bless. -------------   http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: AandRs_mum
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 5:57pm
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FionaS
Dear god i am so so sorry you are going thro this. It brings back the pain of the number of times i have been thro this. I pray that with the love and suport of your family you will get thro this. We are all here for you if you need to talk. RIP little baby dance with the angles. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Nefertiti
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 6:14pm
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I'm so sorry Fiona! I am sitting here reading this with tears flowing down my cheek.
HUGE hugs to you and your family. I will be thinking of you, and hope this is over for you fast. Take care hun. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Vanillabean
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 6:16pm
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OMG. No, no,no. This is very unfair.
Hugs to you. ------------- 5x mc, Jan 08, June 08, Nov 08, May 09, April 11 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Freesia
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 6:21pm
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Hugs Fiona. Such sad news -------------  
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Posted By: JadeC
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 6:23pm
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Oh no Fiona, I'm so so sorry ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: hailstones
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 6:28pm
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Big hugs Fiona! So sorry to hear your sad news! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: M.i.s.s.y
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 6:37pm
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Aww im so sorry u have to go thru such a horrible thing hun. Know that we are all thinking of you & ur family. Take care xoxo -------------    
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 6:38pm
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Fiona, I am so sorry. -------------  
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Posted By: missy_girl
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 6:49pm
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Bit hugs, I'm sorry you are going through this. ------------- Michelle http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 7:06pm
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I'm so so sorry to read this hun
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 7:16pm
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Oh no Fiona how sad. Hopefully you get things done the way you want them soon. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: aussiemum
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 7:17pm
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Oh I'm so sorry.
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 7:20pm
| Oh Fiona, I'm so sorry to hear this- thinking of you at this awful time. |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 7:23pm
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im so sorry to hear that Fiona. I was the same as you, as soon as i found out the twins had stopped developing i just wanted them out. I hope you get your D&C and will be thinking bout you.
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Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 7:34pm
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I'm so sorry Fiona, thinking of you tonight and sending my love. ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 7:37pm
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I'm so sorry for your loss Fiona -------------  |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 7:38pm
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So sorry to hear what has happened Fiona
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Posted By: floss
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 7:46pm
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I'm so sorry hon sending you big hugs ------------- My beautiful big girl Sienna 15.04.06 Double the trouble double the fun Noah & Lola 10/11/07 |
Posted By: HippyMama
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 7:54pm
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I'm so sorry for your loss hun ------------- Mama to two earth walkers & two angels. Remember, you are not managing an inconvenience; You are raising a human being. ~ Kittie Franz Next Slingbabies! Meet - Friday 4th May !! |
Posted By: monster
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 8:10pm
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So sorry to hear your sad news. -------------   
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Posted By: Joelle
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 8:19pm
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 8:26pm
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Aw fiona, that really sucks, exact same thing happened to me a year ago next week.
Thinking of you chickie. hugest huge hugs. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Danash
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 8:30pm
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Sorry to hear your horrible news. |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 8:37pm
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oh hun i'm sos orry to ehar that. i really hoped and prayed that this time it would stick. i hope you're not feeling too sick, and get to have the D & C soon. thoughts and hugs to you all. -------------   
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Posted By: Bumble
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 8:39pm
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Posted By: NikkiB
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 9:05pm
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My thoughts are with you and your family ------------- A very lucky mummy to two gorgeous boys: RB 3/10/2008 JB 29/12/2009 |
Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 9:08pm
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I'm really sorry to hear of your loss. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: Leelee
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 9:21pm
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Im so sorry to hear of your loss Fiona. Take care of yourself ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 9:32pm
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Oh no! no no no this is not fair on you one bit. Aw, Fiona my heart breaks for you. ------------- Andie |
Posted By: mountaingoat
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 9:52pm
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Fiona, I can't imagine what you must be going through. ((((((((hugs))))))))) from halfway across the world. I'm so sorry. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 10:26pm
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Fiona I hope it goes as best it can - My thoughts are with you and your family. -------------  
 
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 10:30pm
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Thanks guys. Womens Assessment Unit told me to go in and then told me to go home. They won't do a D&C until at least Monday because they don't have the staff. I really don't want to miscarry naturally (ironic coming from me as I am Miss I like everything natural). Unfortunately I may have no choice. Until then...it's hard knowing my wee bubs is inside of me...dead. Sounds harsh but it is true.
I fully understand the staffing issues but am a bit disappointed as I was led to believe I could have a D&C this weekend so had prepared myself for that. Wish I knew why this has happened but we can only guess it was a completely random chromosomal problem. The Sonographer said the yolk sack was way too big and they believe that happens when there is a chromosomal problem. It'll probably all sink in over the coming days and weeks but I know I am blessed with my beautiful Elle and many people go through a lot worse. ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 10:38pm
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oh hun, i'm really sorry to hear this has happened again. yes you do have beautiful elle. and maybe one day soon you will be blessed with another child. but thoughts with you guys.
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Posted By: mylilmosaic
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 11:04pm
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so sorry fiona was so sad to read this, big hugs I don't know you or your family IRL but my heart goes out to you and yours, take care ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 11:29pm
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Awww man this sucks.
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Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 11:42pm
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Oh Fiona... this really does suck. This whole ttc thing almost just seems lose/lose sometimes. -------------  
 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 04 April 2008 at 11:48pm
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 05 April 2008 at 1:10am
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I'm so very sorry Fiona, how heartbreaking for you. Sending you both my love and prayers xxxx ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 05 April 2008 at 7:36am
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I'm so very sorry to hear this Fiona. My thoughts are with you ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 05 April 2008 at 9:49am
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oh fiona!! i'm so sorry you and DH are going through this again. i have shed a couple of tears for your wee one, life is so unfair sometimes!
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Posted By: SquishysMum
Date Posted: 05 April 2008 at 11:54am
Fiona, I'm just so sorry. I can't believe you're going through this again, we all know how much you wanted this baby. 
our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this horribly difficult time.
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 05 April 2008 at 1:34pm
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Oh Fiona, I was sure everything was going to be ok.
I hope you are feeling ok. Last time you dealt with this so philosophically, so I am hoping that you will be alright. I know it is so much different this time though. I hope your family is looking after you and you are getting some rest. Big hugs. |
Posted By: kiwigal
Date Posted: 05 April 2008 at 5:53pm
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Fiona sorry for your loss |
Posted By: KiwiWonder
Date Posted: 05 April 2008 at 7:37pm
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Hugs Fiona - there really aren't any words
Let me know if you need anything. ------------- Margo |
Posted By: LockieandLiam
Date Posted: 06 April 2008 at 9:02am
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Thinking of you Fiona - big ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 06 April 2008 at 3:25pm
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Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 06 April 2008 at 6:58pm
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Posted By: KweenJ3
Date Posted: 06 April 2008 at 8:13pm
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SOO sorry to hear about your loss Fiona:(
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HUGE hugs, love and prayers coming your way xoxPosted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 06 April 2008 at 8:24pm
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Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 06 April 2008 at 8:29pm
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This sucks I'm so sorry. Praying for u guys ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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