my life suxs (vent)
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Topic: my life suxs (vent)
Posted By: james
Subject: my life suxs (vent)
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 1:31pm
ok were to start i,m stuck here i feel stuck i cant move on with my life because i have to be here for ,my mum and her job i,m either working or looking after james and hemi while my sis looks after them i dont get to go out that offen as i have no money or my familiy bicths at me to stay home my best firends live in perth and i haven hread from her in ages and i miss her heaps my outher best friend is in chch and i miss her too my friends here are being a moaning pack of cows at how hard there life is james is hard work and dont get me wrongi love him but sometimes i wana give him away i feel like i havent been a very good mum to him or a good friend as my familiy take up all my spare time i,m sick of being poor am sick of being stuck i,m sick of this crap lol i dont have a pantner and am sick of being loaney everyone thinks i,m the strong one which i am but they dont see why i get so down about things every now again and to top it all off my sister just got inganged and i,m  but im mad at her when is my turn being a single mum with a sick and demanding almost 3 year old is hard work we had a bad strat and even thogh i wouldnt change a thing it putt me off having more kids let alone a man in my life as james father is atool and has put me off the hole idae but on the other hand i would love to meet some one ohhhh and i,km still fatt after almost 3 years and its driving me crazy although me and mum are starting swimming agin ok sorry for the rant but i neded to get it out ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 1:49pm
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 1:51pm
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Its good to have a moan and let it all out sometimes. And this is a great place to do it. I hope something good happens for you soon chicky, you sound like you need something fun to remind you how good life can be! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: EthansMummy
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 2:01pm
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I agree that it is fine to have a rant and you feel so much better after you get it all out! That is what we are here for!
Kids are hard work and I have felt just as you do but then you get those times when you just want to cuddle them and never let them go. You are not a bad mum for feeling that way and you shouldn't feel bad because everyone feels like giving their child away at times. I hope you feel better soon and things start looking up for you. ------------- ** MUM TO ** Ethan 29/08/2006 Brooke 22/09/2008 |
Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 2:24pm
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times a million.
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 2:33pm
awww thanks guys   ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 2:58pm
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awwww lu!! as the others have said, there are times when we would all gladly give our kids away without batting an eyelid!
you are not a bad mother, you are doing an awesome job raising james alone.  i really admire solo parents because i find things tough with my kids, but i have someone to help me with them!
you rant away hun.....i hope there's something great just around the corner for you! keep your chin up ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 3:05pm
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hun! As others have said its hard when there are two of you to look after the kids, I can't imagine what its like doing it alone. I admire you! And absolutely rant away, we are all hear to listen and support you ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: Freesia
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 3:20pm
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BellaBabysMum wrote:Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 4:12pm
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Big hugs Lu! You sound like you need them! For what it's worth, when I was miserable and having a crappy pregnancy with the gremlins it really made my day when those two tiny wee hats arrived, had me in tears coz it was such a sweet thing for you to do, and the hats are now in the gremlins memory boxes, so I think you are a lovely, kind hearted, generous person and I bet James thinks so too!
Do you think it would help to maybe sit back and look at the things you want to change about your life, and look for small ways to start making changes that will make YOU a bit happier? The swimming is a great start! Maybe start thinking about what it would take in terms of finances/resources/support etc. for you and James to get out on your own and have your own space and start looking at ways you might be able to make that happen. Even if it means waiting another 2 years for you to be able to afford it or for James to start school, sometimes just having something to look forward to and plan for can make all the difference. More big hugs, thinking of you! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 5:35pm
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Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 5:43pm
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Hey hun I have been there - and it does get you down. But it does get better... Big hugs to you as i am sure you need it. ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 6:09pm
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Awww Lu, it is tough but James is doing so well and he only has you to thank for that. I'm sure things will all work out for you ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 7:13pm
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Lu , I know i dont know you that well on this site, but from what ive seen i've always found you really caring and you always have sweet compassionate words when people need them.
Sometimes when ive been down and posted on here, the hugs you gave me meant a lot, even if i never said. I think your a fantastic mum , your love for James is very clear for us all to see, and I too was a single mum till C was about 4 and a half , i too never thought id find someone else but here i am nearly six years later living happily with my partner. A good thing about having a kid Lu, is that its a pretty big test for any guy who wants a relationship with you , if hes not willing to be a parent to James hes not worthy of you either, and there will be a guy out there who is just great for the both of you . I hope things start to work out for you chick 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 8:01pm
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no advice just hugs from me and warm fuzzies.... and some hearts to fill u with love!!!!! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 9:56pm
| I agree with what others have said, you sound a good Mum to James Lu |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 15 April 2008 at 5:48am
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awww ladys you are alll soo sweet and emma your words gave me the puish to start planing thankyou and thankyou everyone else i am relly thouched by this ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 15 April 2008 at 7:27am
emma you made me cry and i am thinking of how to change were i,m at at the mo am bluiding plans in my head as how to get t were i wana be ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 15 April 2008 at 8:28am
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Well if you need any help, you know where to find me. Sometimes an outside perspective can be helpful. Think big girl, you and James deserve it! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 15 April 2008 at 8:50am
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Aww Lu, nothing else to add, but heres some more big big ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 15 April 2008 at 12:13pm
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I think Emma had some great ideas about planning for the future and everything, but I also wanted to add that I think you have come such a long way in the last few years!
You've starting working and James has moved into childcare really well, obviously a social young man! You are helping out your sister in a huge way which reflects what a supportive person you are. And look at your ticker! You are heading to Perth!! I'm so jealous!! 
And, dare I say it, he'll be 3 soon and will qualify for 20 free hours - you can either take on some more work and get more $$$ or work some more on the other goals you have, like weightloss etc. Good luck sweets - exciting times ahead
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 15 April 2008 at 12:44pm
hi nikki yep i got to the 20 free hours and hes already booked in for the day after his brithday and i,m thinking of becomeing a preschool teacher so i can do that next year------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 15 April 2008 at 1:59pm
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Yay!!
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