I want to adopt
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Topic: I want to adopt
Posted By: TysMummy
Subject: I want to adopt
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 9:34am
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i really want to adopt heaps of kids :)
but i dont know if i can live with the feeling that one day the birth mum can say...hey now that your just the way i want you, ill have you back' already happened once..so much for once there yours.............i already have one of my own and are going for another this year............but that is all we can have so want to adop heaps :) dont care wat nationality and cant afford to go overseas although that would be mydream...........seeing kids on the streets and bringing the back ...warm fuzzies just thinking about it....maybe the baby fairy will put one on my doorstep tonight :) ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 9:37am
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once you adopt them doesnt that mean they have no legal rights? how do they just take them back..adopting is great...go forth and adopt ten or so:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 9:39am
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I'm adopted and wouldn't have it any other way. I don't know how that would happen because once your adopted you have a new birth cert with your new parents on and they legally are your parents ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 9:48am
KA in NZ the adoption doesn't seem to be final in some (all?) cases. I know of a friend of mine who had a child when he was a teenager and the mother decided she couldn't cope and it was adopted out to my friend's uncle. Then after them having the baby for a year the mother decided she wanted it back right before Christmas. To make it worse the family had a 4 year old and she kept asking where the baby had gone and would she be taken away too 
I think there are some international adoptions that don't require you to travel to the child's birth country. I would recommend researching it. CYFs have information about countries that NZ partner with for international adoptions. You could see if any of those will let you adopt without traveling. I started researching it as I also would love to adopt but I have put it on hold now I have a baby to look after. Hopefully someday soon..... Anyway best of luck - let us know how you get on. -------------  
 
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 9:50am
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yeah that wat we thought but open adoption gives birth parents alot more rights then you think :) which isnt necasarily a bad thing......Cyfs etc try and get birth parents to keep the children no matter wat...NZ really has a screwed up system ......(after having foster kids we found out) so babies are difficult to come by (sounds like im shopping) mum and my cousin where both adopted............my hubby never got told who is father was and his mum died when he was young he wished someone adopted him...........but thats when i decided to adopt him :) i dont care wat age they are really...i luve panashment wat can i say.....(excuse spelling) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 10:22am
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wow Bobbie..that sucks:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 11:17am
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thanks bobby...may have a look at that :) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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